before me and my bf met...my friend liked him.
then me and bf got closer. and soon enough went on a date.
when she found out.
she was like watever but now that me and him have been together for 6 months shes flirting with him...and calling him, and he tells me and i ask her aout it and shes like..
yea i just call to see wat he's doing.
since we dont hang out that much anymore...(as in all three of us)
its weird what do i do?
2006-10-13 04:56:58 · 39 answers · asked by AWESOMA 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Ask your man what he wants to do. If he is interested in her, still taking her calls - chances are they are still both interested in each other.
If that is the case, let them be together and move on..there are plenty of other men out there for you!
2006-10-13 04:59:27 · answer #1 · answered by Melissa MacDonald 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let your friend know that her behavior is inappropriate, if your boyfriend has any idea about what she is doing or is trying to do then he needs to be reminded that his behavior is inappropriate also. I can guarantee that your boyfriend knows and accepts her advances, most guys will play stupid around you and act as if nothing ever happened....I think that may have been passed down through generations of cheaters, not sure. 6 months isn't really anything worth the hassle. Dump your friend and maybe even your boyfriend, start fresh with someone who will respect you from the beginning.
2006-10-13 05:02:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're BF doesn't respond to her flirtations then you really have nothing to be concerned about. If he does then it's best to drop him as that's an indication that he's not set on you.
Confront your friend about it. Let her know how bad it makes you feel and that you don't appreciate her flirting with you BF. She may not even conciously realize she's doing it either. As her if this flirting is worth losing your friendship over. If she continues doing it then she's not your friend and you're better off without her.
2006-10-13 05:01:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think it was kind of wrong of you to date someone you know she liked. That wasn't very friendly of you and this is just karma.
However, since you did break the friendship rule and ended up with the guy, she shouldn't be calling him. It was your mistake to allow the 3 of you to hang out often. Never do something like that. That only leads to trouble.
He needs to be the one to tell her he doesn't feel comfortable with her calling. If that is the case. He might not mind it and if they are actually friends and you are just insecure, then it's your problem and your problem alone.
2006-10-13 05:00:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is acting out in jealousy. She is doing what she thinks you did. The difference is that now there is commitment. Where before when you were both "on the same level" of relationship with him. It's really not up to you, it's up to your boyfriend. If he tells her to stop she will know he's not interested, and you win. As long as he is reinforcing her efforts with positive support in conversation, she feels he likes her. Asking her to stop yourself might work, but it's very likely it might intensify her efforts. Because she will see it's bothering you, and might look at it as "it's working." If your boyfriend likes you better he will be ok with sacrificing his friendship with her for you. If not, well then he wasn't worth it anyway.
2006-10-13 05:07:30 · answer #5 · answered by Dustin S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously your bf is not interested in your friend tell her you don't appreciate what she is doing, and if she won't stop ask her if she wants the friendship to end. A famous person once said " A girl's best friend is her worst enemy" Best of luck to u.
2006-10-13 05:04:27 · answer #6 · answered by Nicolette G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all if you were her friend you should have talked to her first before you went with him. Remember boyfriends come and go friends last forever. Then second of all you need to talk to her if she was your friend she would back down and respect your boundaries. She is disrespecting you and him by what she's doing just talk to her and tell her how you feel if she was a friend she listen.
2006-10-13 05:03:47 · answer #7 · answered by babyblue1512000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it doesnt seem like she is much of a friend if she is trying to get in between the two of you.
ask your bf what he thinks about all this, does he know that she use to like him? im sure that if you have been together for that long then you shouldnt need to worry about what he would be gettin gup to if your not there.
but if its still bothering you then tell her to back off coz its weird.
2006-10-13 05:03:21 · answer #8 · answered by Beautiful - 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your man if he doesnt want to talk to her to not answer his phone when she calls. If you feel shes flirting with him then tell her to knock it off, or else she really isnt that great of a friend. She knows he's yours and I guess shes just trying to tick you off. Just watch her around your boyfriend see if they're both flirting with each other or just see if its one sided. Make sure theres nothing going around behind your back. Good Luck.
2006-10-13 05:03:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is probably jealous that he is monopolizing your time and misses you as a friend. As girls we tend to ignore our gal pals when a new guy hits the scene. Remember girl friends are the ones that are there when we get dumped and need a shoulder to cry on.
2006-10-13 05:00:18 · answer #10 · answered by Deirdre O 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋