I aked for help earlier some may have seen the question.She says she has this special spot that i have to hit.I can make her climax with foreplay.But we have tryed every position,even oral.I am a firm believer in foreplay.I love her very much.and its always been important to me that she is satisfied in everyway.Her being satisfied is whats makes it best for me.
I am not a very youngman,but not old either.I havebeen around the block.But for the life of me,I have run out of different ways to make it happen for her.I am not a minute man.so its not like im not in there long enough.I guess what bothers me the most is that she blames me for not being able to get on target.I never had a problem getting on target with anyone before.She told me that after we had sex the 1st time that she had this tiny area that i had to be able to hit or she couldnt climax.so I guess she was like that before also.Its making sex frustrating for me,and her I feel like im under pressure each time.
2006-10-13 04:47:43 · 12 answers · asked by memorex8550 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
not many girls can orgasm through intercourse! sad but true.
2006-10-13 04:48:51 · answer #1 · answered by Fader's Girl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off, I think she's being rude by placing blame on you. I tend to think she's not as giving a lover as you are. You are a lot like me in how you approach this kind of thing. We get a lot of our pleasure from the pleasure of others. She has to help you hit the spot. Girls seem to be lazy, in that they seem to think that all they have to do is exist and everything will magically happen for them. Not so. Case in point; she needs to guide you so you can figure out what works and what does not. If you can get things to go in foreplay, then can't you map that into other ways you use to pleasure her with?
Part of it may just be in her own head. The psychological factor is important. MY somewhat recent ex was a little like this. If we had been arguing, or had just gotten back together from having broken up, it was harder for her to let go. She knew this, and so did I that the closeness you feel and the connection you feel goes a long way to being able to relax and feel good and ultimately...to let go.
I'm not saying this fits her. You'd know this better than I would, but it's a possibility, and again this isn't your responsibility per se.
If she doesn't help you, then I'm afraid she will essentially be forcing you to do it all. You'll have to experiment and try to duplicate what you do during foreplay to get her off.
Frankly I don't know if I could warm up to a woman that places everything on my shoulders like this. But if I am mis-reading things, then ok, no harm no foul. But that is about the best thing I can suggest to you. Hope it works for you. You seem like a genuine and nice person.
2006-10-13 05:08:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is worried about specifically climaxing then she is going to be putting pressure on the situation, is pressure sexy? Hell no. If she is trying to get you to make her orgasm it'll never happen. Get her to figure out what FEELS GOOD to her, then get her to show you, transfer the emphasis on making her feel good, rather than climaxing and just build up from there.
N.B. Some women rely very heavily on clitoral vibrators, this can sometimes make it VERY difficult to achieve anything without one. If this is the case with your girl then suggest (nicely) that she ditch it for a while and practises solo without one, this might make it a little easier.
2006-10-13 05:29:16 · answer #3 · answered by wild boar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I find that when I am on top I am able to move around easier so that I can find "the spot". When I do find it my lover can feel it too and then I just work it - I dont think its right that it is up to you to find it in her body, she needs to take responsibility for this. But you sound like a very satisfying lover in your explanation that her being satisfied is what makes it best for you - right on!
2006-10-13 04:53:06 · answer #4 · answered by redneckgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you may want to try a dildo you can nmoveit around much easier inside her to find that spot than your own penis and you can hit those hard to reach spots that you can't get with your fingers works for my woman everytime :)
2006-10-13 04:51:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
DEAR GAWD....what in hell is wrong with her SHOWING you...she shouldn't blame you if she won't show you. Look up g-spot on the net...if you aren't sure where it is & get her to help you. She's the one with the issue here, only she knows what feels good for her!
2006-10-13 04:51:58 · answer #6 · answered by Ivyvine 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
can she get herself off? If so then maybe she can do something while you are in the act that will help
2006-10-13 04:51:04 · answer #7 · answered by Eyes of Green 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to be relaxed completely. Get her drunk.
2006-10-13 04:50:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she can come it she touches herself during intercourse.
2006-10-13 04:50:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like she is just not very excited, it may be psycological inasmuch you just can,t get there from here.good luck
2006-10-13 04:51:08 · answer #10 · answered by skirickfiftyone 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
let her hit the spot...let her get on top where she can control things.......
2006-10-13 04:50:04 · answer #11 · answered by sexyandsingle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋