Why is it easier for my boyfriend to come!!?

Question

Why is it easier & quicker for him, and it takes ages for me or doesn't happen at all ? :(
Any ideas and also any tips THAT WORK?xxx

Answer 1

coz we have to find that special place!!

Answer 2

You would have thought it worked the other way round, considering the clitoras has twice as many nerve endings than the penis. You're lucky though, before the 1900s, it was commonly believed that women could not climax at all. Sex was just for the fellas.

Maybe, you're a fantastic lover, and he's not so good? Could just be that he is inexperienced... takes a while to work out how to control the 'old fella'.

The best thing to do is not go at it like hammer and tongs... pause every now and again just to kiss and hold each other. Let him 'stay in' so to speak, but don't move around too much.

Alternativley, find a position that suits you better than it does him. Doggy style for fellas is great, you can get right up to the plums and get the dirty deed over with in no time. Not so good for the ladies. I'm sure that there must be a female equivalent though. Check the karma sutra (i'm being serious! there's some great stuff in there).

You could also try a session where he isn't allowed to use the 'old fella' at all. Not until you've had your fair share, anyway. Get him to use 'alternative means'. Nothing wrong with putting a fantastic kisser to good use... or a dexterous guy with good hands.

Or, as we used to do when we went out on the pull at uni, get him to have a quick flick off the wrist before you get started. He'll certainly last longer when he's firing the second time...

Hope that helps...

Answer 3

Guys are just like that really, there is little you can do about him coming easier than you. You can, however, do something for yourself. Have him spend more time on you, using fingers, mouth, gadgets, the works. See what works best for you, and I'm sure you'll get a result soon :)
PS: It's difficult for about 90% of all women to get an orgasm during the actual sex act, let alone come at the same time.

Answer 4

most times its easier for a man to come because of the steady rhythm you are keeping on his penis, because of the way your muscles may fex and hold him inside you creates a certain amount of pressure and excitement for him. For a woman its a little different, its more involved than the steady in and out yes it should be steady but you have to find the right spot a little to the left or right may be just whats needed. You can try changing positions, try sliding to either side flexing you vaginal muscles, changing the speed. Or this may sound silly but have you ever played with a hula hoop? Try doing that little twist you make with your hips , try it slow and deep, girl put your back into it. LOL

Answer 5

Well first off get him to work on u before sex more, take u almost there ! Maybe just maybe u aint right for each other, has this happnede before to u with other guys ?, men can *** at the drop of a hat, ladies need to be loved and worked on, if all else fails buy a Rampant Rabbit and play with that b4 sex, and then go for it..WHOOOSH

Answer 6

Make him pay more attention to you. Guys work off speed. the faster you go the faster you are done.

Girls need it slow and steady to win the race.The reason I am such a good lover is that I pay attention to the woman and will actually ignore my physical needs until the woman is done. Then it only takes me a minute to catch up.

Answer 7

You should get your boyfriend to spend more time concentrating on you, ensuring that you orgasm first.

I posted a question earlier today that was along the same lines, you should see the results.

I spend a lot of time concentrating on my g/f with my fingers which takes a while, but whenever i use my mouth she orgasms very strong and quick. I used to be able to make her orgasm with penetration but struggle a bit nowadays. I always try to satisfy her before I allow myself to orgasm.

Honest, get your boyfriend to eat you out for about an hour before you let him inside you.

Good luck.

Answer 8

Because men are easy and we are work! As far as tips that work, just because he comes doesn't mean it has to be over there...no girl should be left unsatisfied! Have him go down on you...he should want you to come. Who knows...it may wind up taking so long that while he's down there he might be ready for round 2! ding ding!

Answer 9

get yourself a vibrator and when he is ready put it on your clit or use your finger if you don't mind sticky fingers and when he is ready to you know what just turn the vibrate on and it works wonders stimulates the clit and just go for it but make him do it for you its better that way then you can orgasms together its great some woman need a lot of stimulation and that works try it let me know how you get on not a pervert but would be interested it works for all my friends so they say it so good my friend told me about it and im glad she did good luck

Answer 10

Does your boyfriend not perform any kind of foreplay on you? He should know that women take longer to get fully aroused and need to have a lot of attention to their erogenous zones before he pushes in and gets his rocks off!

Tell him you need stimulation by mouth and fingers in all areas before he gets to slip it in ... he should give you at least one "O" this way before any intercourse takes place, then you'll be halfway to another and with luck you'll arrive at the same time as him ;-)

Answer 11

You need more foreplay to get you started.
He is moving too fast, and needs to slow down and let it last.
He should try pulling out before getting to climax and playing with you while he is still hard.
You can also use numbing gels for him. Put the gel on before the condom, then it doesnt numb you.