Has anyone had there teenage son/daughter say to them I wish you were both dead. How did you feel???

Question

He lived with us and then took off to be with is girlfriend out of town and hoped her parents would take him in but they sent him to a youth hostile. Would you take him back in if he came home. He always said she had better parents.

he said that I was a worthless piece of nothing and didn't want to see our sorry *** faces every again, so I packed up everything of his, What do you suggest I do with it, I don't want him in the apartment with no one home and I don't want to be there if he comes for it, HELP.
I guess I deserve all this because he was spoiled by us all his life I

Answer 1

Good for you. Show him that you mean business and that you won't put up with his disrespecting you. Tell him that the only way that he is going to come back is to apologize to you and to show you some respect. If he can't come to terms with that , then let him sleep on the streets. He thinks he has it so bad, let him find out the hard way. I had to turn my son into the police and he spent 4 years in prison. All because of his lack of respect for me. He thought he had all the answers. He found out that he didn't. Now he is back home with us and making a good life for himself. He actually thanks me for, as he puts it, " kicking him in the a s s". It is so nice to have a peck on the cheek and to hear him tell me that he loves me everyday.

Answer 2

Usually when children get to the point that they say that, its probibly true.
There is a problem with the relationships that exist within the home that the parents are ignoring by thinking that its just a phase or that the child is being mean.

Parents need to seek professional advise immediately, for everyone, not just the child, because the parents are to blame also.

If the parents dont let the child leave and stay with friends, and ground them and inprison them in the home until they shape up, this will escalate the problem, and the child will probibly kill the parents.

Answer 3

I don't have any children, but I know it must feel horrible. I'm sure they didn't mean it though. Speaking from experience, I said a lot of things to my parents that I did not mean and wish I could take back.
It's a natural struggle for a teen and a parent. If they have any kind of emotional problem (depression, etc.) they can be very difficult.
I've always heard if your kids hate you when they are growing up, you're doing a good job.

Answer 4

Yes, this has happened to me and my immediate response to my daughter was " Don't worry - some day your wish will come true"
and she wasn't allowed back home again.
She has learned her lesson the hard way by finding out how tough it is out there on her own and that she really doesn' t have all the answers like she thought.
It's tough love to let go but sometimes life and reality can be the only teacher.

Answer 5

Being a teen, I would personally tell you not to take this seriously. I would NEVER even consider saying this to my parents, but I know that some of my friends would or have.
Please don't take this personally or let it hurt your feelings. Most teenagers don't fully understand the power of their words on their parents and peers. They're still in their little personal bubble.
Just think of this as a phase that they have yet to get through. I'm sure you're not alone in being told this.
Have a nice day :)

Answer 6

Yes, my son said that to us. It hurts alot but what is there to do? Sometimes bec. of the environment such as violence they see on the TV and Video games they act that way. For me i always tell my 2 boys saying those words will not mean anything to them now but when they grow old and have their own family. Then and there they will realized how cruel they've been. Anyway i know in my heart after saying those words he at once regreted saying it cause he knows he will be miserable without his parents.

Answer 7

I had my son tell me that once, along with the I Hate You. It did kinda hurt my feelings that he would say that (didn't let him know how much it hurt). However, I didn't worry about the I wish you was dead part. I just let him see what life would be like if I was dead, when he got hungry or wanted some money for something.

Answer 8

When I was a teenager I did say that to my mom- later she did. I said it because I wanted out of the family and to live my own life. I got what I wanted but I sometimes miss my mom. Now that I'm older, I would have thought to hold my tongue. Tell your kid, "Maybe I'll be gone when you get back" A) Your kid will storm out, but when they return the'll be grateful you're still there. B) "Why, 'cuz u don't love me?" "Well apparently we feel the same way..."

Answer 9

I think I said that once. In retrospect, I don't think I really meant it.
I doubt that this case is much different.
Wish I could give some better advice, but I'm only 19 myself. My advice: don't retaliate. Discipline, maybe, a tallking-to, maybe, but don't retaliate.
Somehow my Mom managed to perfect this bone-chilling tone and vocabulary that could make you feel like slime. If you've got something similar, this might be a good time to use it.

Maybe you could suggest that they pretend that you really were dead and see how they like it.

Answer 10

i wouldnt have felt anything but be sure they would be picking themselves up off the damn floor an apologising!! How on earth did it get to that? I mean my kids arent perfect and i certainly have problems but none of them would dare say something like that....and on that note i treat them with respect. Think about how you treat he or she and thats not having a go....i dont know the circumstances surrounding the situation but us parents arent perfect either ....well im not. And as for the ppl saying teens are teens that is as bad as them saying it to their grandmother!! get a grip an some repect between you and your kids!!KIDS NEED BOUNDRIES!! There is a line that shouldnt be crossed by a child .I mean i wouldnt actually physically knock them on there feet but they would get a talking to that would floor them!!