Okay, when I have kids, I would like to breastfeed because it is best for the baby, but...anytime anything barely touches "that area" it is only a few more seconds of that before I...well, let's just say it feels really good. How can I beastfeed without feeling turned on? I mean, if me changing clothes feels like that, I can only imagine how it would feel. And don't let me get started on how it feels when husband does it to me. Can you just 'turn off' the extreme arousal when it's time to breatfeed or do you ignore it or do you just let it happen and not tell anyone? This has always bothered me because I really want my child to have the benefit of breastmilk, but not if it means I am orgasming at the same time. I almost don't see how that's not considered as child abuse. I'm just confused--women just don't talk about this sort of thing. Can someone please tell me what it feels like when you actually do it? I
2006-10-13 04:20:58 · 14 answers · asked by prettiegurl20 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
I breastfed both my boys, trust me, for some odd reason sexual satisfaction is the furthest thing from your mind. This is not going to happen. I used to worry about the same thing, but it is so different. It's almost like mother nature put the halt on any stimulation while breastfeeding, as it should be. I really don't think you are going to have a problem, you will be amazed how it is not that way at all. You are funny!
2006-10-13 04:25:38 · answer #1 · answered by june clever 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I was the same way, but the first thing you need to learn is that hubby can no longer suck on your breasts unless he wants a mouth full of breastmilk everytime because your breast does not know how to differentiate, it will just start to release milk when your nipples are stimulated.
Second, after a few breastfeeding sessions, you will definitely not be turned on. I breastfed my daughter, and it is a beautiful thing because you are providing the nourishment your baby needs to grow and yall are bonding in a way bottle fed babies do not with their moms, but none of it turned me on. What you will soon become more concerned with is cracking and sore nipples, full and engorged breasts that need to be drained, and feeding times and making sure you are producing enough milk.
Don't get me wrong, it was a truly wonderful experience and I would do it again. I loved breastfeeding because I knew that my daughter depended solely on me for nourishment so I could not let her down, the milk was always warm, we bonded more, and I did not have to buy any formula (which is too dang on expensive). It also took me to a new level of parenting because it made me more aware of things I put into my body because it was all about her. Everything you ingest will show up in your breast milk. Babycenter.com has a list of things that you should and should not eat while breast feeding, and if you do, the potential things those individual things might cause (gas/colic, upset stomachs, etc...). I looked at that list alot!
2006-10-13 05:34:59 · answer #2 · answered by â¤??? ?å???? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Keep nursing him on both sides. If you don't, the side you stop nursing on could become engorged and cause a clogged milk duct or breast infection, which is way more painful than a sore nipple! Put tons of lanolin on it until it heals! Make sure it is 100% lanolin. Lansinoh is a good brand. Just keep in on there all of the time. It is completely safe for your baby to nurse while it is on your nipple. Always reapply it after he nurses though. If he starts biting again, the way to get him to stop is this: As soon as he bites, promptly unlatch him from your nipple and firmly place him on the ground. No need to scold him or anything like that, and you don't even need to leave him there long before you pick him up and let him try again. After a few times, he will get it!
2016-05-21 22:53:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my, I can't believe any of these women who nursed never had a mini orgasm while nursing. Check out "The Girlfriend's Guide to Surviving Your First Year" by Vicki Iovine. She talks about this subject. When your nurse, it causes your uterus to contract, which actually helps you heal faster. I felt kind of weird about it at times, but then I realized that it was just a natural physical reaction that I had no control over. It would happen to me when I pumped milk too, so it wasn't just a nursing issue. It didn't happen all the time and the longer I nursed, the less it happened. Also, after pregnancy, your sex drive diminishes too. I heard it's even less when you nurse. I only have one child, so I don't know the difference.
2006-10-13 04:45:29 · answer #4 · answered by Melissa B 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I had the same fears! I'm glad I'm not the only one! I'm expecting my third child, and I breastfed my others and plan to this time too. It's a totally different sensation. I guess it's the hormonal influx, I"m not sure. But there is nothing sexual about breastfeeding.
Don't worry about it, it's very natural and it'll all work out.
2006-10-13 04:40:14 · answer #5 · answered by Lady J 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am the same way and had the same concerns but it is different. Don't ask my why because I cannot tell you but it's not the same feeling. I would suggest to give it a try and if it's not something that works for you then discontinue it. Good luck!
2006-10-13 04:23:14 · answer #6 · answered by charbar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Freaky deaky!!!!! It's your baby. You are going to be too overwhelmed with the fact that you have a baby to pay attention to getting off..... But in the SPECIAL case that you do, I would suggest that you just pump your milk with a breast pump and feed your baby from a bottle so that the baby still gets the benefits of your breast milk.
2006-10-13 04:26:14 · answer #7 · answered by tiaxo 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's a totally different sensation than when a man touches your breasts. There are "mothering hormones" that come over you when you breastfeed that will make you feel relaxed, but not aroused.
2006-10-13 05:54:28 · answer #8 · answered by momma2mingbu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a complete diffrent feeling when breastfeeding. And you probably won't be feeling good in that way for a while after having you tuttut streched to the size of a watermelon. Don't worry. you will be fine.
2006-10-13 04:30:01 · answer #9 · answered by bamagrits84 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Breastfeeding HURTS!!! A LOT- especially for the first two weeks. You'll be in too much pain to feel any arousal. And once you get the hang of it, you end up feeling like your boobs belong to your baby. I don't even like my husband to touch them at all.
Try not to worry, breasts were made for babies, it'll all come natural.
-mother of 1
2006-10-13 04:29:36 · answer #10 · answered by Snow White's Mother 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋