I am doing at home college work, and asked if there was anyone on here that can give me some pointers and answer some question I had for the carreer path that I am heading down, and got some help with from some guy. He knows I am married, And I have kept all my messages to him professional with only questions. I just got a message from him, it was odd. it was something like do you like fat guys with no money? What the hell do I say to him? I have no idea why he would even ask. HELP! I love my husband, I am looking to get this guy to leave me alone now.
2006-10-13 04:06:54 · 30 answers · asked by Jenny 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he doesnt have my email, it is on IM
2006-10-13 04:11:15 · update #1
I just deleted him. Will it show on his end? I hope it does.
2006-10-13 04:14:13 · update #2
First and foremost, you need to tell your husband. Sit down with him and show him the e-mails and explain to him what happened. If you are honest and open with your husband from the beginning then he won't freak out if he finds out later.
After telling your husband, the two of you might consider sitting down and discussing the entire situation. As a man, he should know how you should handle this. If he freaks out and wants to harm or yell at the person who sent you that e-mail, then just tell him to calm down and reassure him about your love and marriage untill he is able to be calm and help the situation in a constructive way.
Personally, after telling my husband, I would write him an e-mail explaining that you have no interest in any man except for your husband and that because of his advances on you he has successfully ended any personal and professional relationship that existed before. If he continues to e-mail you after that with either advances or appologies then I would block his e-mail address as a curtisy to my loving husband.
I hope that I have been of some help to you.
~~Cari
2006-10-13 04:18:44 · answer #1 · answered by Cari Malmström 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just ignore him. There are all kinds out there, and he sounds as thought he falls into the not so tolerable type.
There are good websites to help you with college work, or even your local community college could probably be of help to you. You might check out there resource center.
I recently finished my Master's through a program that combined online work with internet work. I understand a return to school (working at home) can be very challenging! but the rewards are definitely worth the effort. Don't let this guy change your mind or rattle your cage. Help is out there! If you need more just email me and I can probably help you find some good resources.
Good luck!
2006-10-13 11:14:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Under no circumstances do not give this person any personal information about you or your husband. You just never know what kind of weirdo they may be. Let him know heh I am married and have no interest in you or just ignore this person. Do not have anymore contact with this person. I say this person because even though they claim to be a guy you never know. There are so many crazed people out there. get your answers from someone else. You have to be very careful about what information you give out about yourself on these sites.
2006-10-13 11:12:55 · answer #3 · answered by hehmommy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just cut off your business relationship with him. If your husband found out about this (if you haven't already told him), he might take it the wrong way and think that you don't love him anymore.
I would inform my husband, so he know you're not keeping it from him if he stumbles over any of your e-mails with this guy, and just stop talking to the harasser-period. He knows you're married, he's just up for no good.
Good Luck!
2006-10-13 11:11:28 · answer #4 · answered by Lee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you do love fat guys with no money, that's why you married one and he is too late.
No need to tell husband YET. Hopefully a short put down will give him the hint. If he calls again then let your husband deal with him.
2006-10-13 11:50:50 · answer #5 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been where you are ! The best way too get this guy too leave you alone is too just ..IGNORE HIM. If he's IM you then block him. But really, if you continue too ignore him he will get the message. DON"T reply ever, no matter what he says. He'll get tired of pestering you.
2006-10-13 11:12:20 · answer #6 · answered by Rose T 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Confide All this to Your Husband who can then Dispatch this jerk!
If your marriage is Solid-then there should be No fear of your Husband being angered!
Act Quickly to nip this in the Bud early!!
For Your Own sake as well as that of Your Family!!
2006-10-13 11:10:26 · answer #7 · answered by J. Charles 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
careful... that could be a test for your occupational choice... if you answer no you're selfish, prudish, and a narcisist;- if you say yes, you're probably a liar, fat yourself, and have low esteem. In adition; choosing HOW to answer the question shows your diplomatic and/ or social skills- ignoring shows weakness and incompetence. Consider your life as a guide to chosing your job rather than the interest in the job itself.
2006-10-13 11:15:35 · answer #8 · answered by red2queen 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Add to ignore list
That saying "do you like fat guys with no money" is actually an audible from yahoo messenger.
2006-10-13 11:14:00 · answer #9 · answered by razzyrascal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont feed into the question at all. The more attention you give to his immaturity, the worse it will become. Ignore it and it will go away on its own... immaturity dies when it isnt fed attention... faster than a plant without water.
2006-10-13 11:10:55 · answer #10 · answered by maggiemae821 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋