I went to court yesterday for child support. I had filed for contempt since he hasn't paid in over three months, and I need that money to pay my bills. Anyways, he didn't show up...and I called his mother's house (where he was supposed to be living) and she told me he packed up about a week ago and took off--hitch-hiked to California. I have no address for him, and don't even know for sure if that is where he went. Is there any way they can still find him? I live in Indiana.
2006-10-13 03:53:02 · 25 answers · asked by ANGEL 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You idiot--answer #2!!! My bills are my house, car, electric, gas, groceries...ect.--ALL of which support my kids! He owes me $9,000! I work full-time and take care of their every need. I can't believe people like you!!!!
2006-10-13 03:58:25 · update #1
Thanks to all of you who have shown some compassion. As for #8--I can't believe you're a mother of three! Being a single mom is tough and I am a good responsible mother--how do you think I am supporting myself & kids with no job??? Think, lady--geez! You're heartless!
2006-10-13 04:29:28 · update #2
Hey, I can understand where you are coming from I too have a dead beat ex who owes a lot of past due child support.
I gave up counting on the money, I struggle full time student at the current time, plus work, and three kids. So if it comes great the kids get to shop with it. But I never count it towards bills because it's never a sure thing.
Best things to do is KEEP on the child support agency.
1) They are going to get sick of hearing from you and this will force them to do something. Call them once a week at the least.
2) Write letters to the Family Mediator through the court house, this person will also ride child support til they do something.
3) Consider hiring a lawyer some do work in the strategy they get paid ONLY if you win your case. Since money is a huge issue this many be a way to go for you.
4) Keep records of EVERYTHING you pay for your kids from lunch tickets, field trips, books, clothes, doctor co-pays, the whole Shabang! Then petition the court again with your proof and they will find in your favor most likely the judge will increase his support and file a judgment for arrest warrant.
If he applies for work using his SS# they will find him. OHHH also, at tax time you should be entitled to his state tax return.
Hope this helps. Good luck.
2006-10-13 04:24:38 · answer #1 · answered by razzyrascal 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Try using the information you have. Use things that are of public record. His social security number is on the court docket, wedding papers, birth certificate? Tax season is here, use that! Track his last known whereabouts through his ss#. If he did hitch hike to Cal. where is he currently working. All this is traceable with the ss# since he will have to pay tax on his income. That will also help tell you about the reason he hasn't been paying the child support. Isn't there also a "deadbeat dads" organization in the government. Track his interests, if he enjoyed fishing or hunting most all states research the Deadbeat dads index before issuing a license. Good luck!
Another idea using what you know...
Where did you meet? Was it through a mutual friend? Talk to that person. Does he have a new girlfriend, or an out of state relative he may have run to? Keep the pressure on his relatives, mother. Sooner or latter she will tell you off or give him up. Where does his dad live? Why would he go to Cal.? Who does he know out there? Does he have anything that he does on a regular basis? Is the baby he is paying for in danger without this support? Explore your avenues of assistance in the legal system using some of these ideas. Good luck on finding him.
2006-10-13 11:25:00 · answer #2 · answered by Gary M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As defined in the state of IN- child support is to cover- shelter, food, and clothing- the medical expeneses in most of the county court systems is handled outside of this general collection- you know this on your individual basis- with all this said you now know your financial responsibilities- here is the point what to do you really want from him? is it the money and that is alot- is the money really worth also having this man being part of your childrens lives? this only you can answer but maybe you can get some insight from someone that you trust. Once you get all this resolved in your own mind may be you should find this guy and have papers sent releasing him of any and all responsibility with your family. Those papers should become automatic active if he doesn't sign, it would only be his protesting that would keep him as an active participant which then the court system will catch up with him. you get the idea?
2006-10-13 11:16:40 · answer #3 · answered by Tom L 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well first let me say #8 need to check your self don't judge any one and second I don't think any one "chooses" to be with or have a child/children with some one who turns out to less then a man or women. Third i do believe she has a job. And last Paying bills is supporting the child/children
And for you Honey don't worry about it. Do what parents do all the time what ever is necessary. Trust me it will come around I promise you. they can find him and they will, they can suspend his license garnish his taxes, there a are ways and they can put a warrant out if the amount reaches a high enough amount. So don't worry about. Just keep doing what you do your blessings will come regardless.
And for all men/women out there. it is not a want to put you on child support it is forced by your hand when you don't step up to your responsibility. There are some that do and get caught up because the other person is bitter. and those of you who are being difficult . Don't be it is easier on the situation if you just be the adult you were being when you created that child. And no one should have to force you to take care of your child/children. They did not ask for you to lay up and bring them here. They fall innocent to irresponsibility. do right.
2006-10-13 11:06:50 · answer #4 · answered by Meisha 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
#1 You must expect to get some comments you don't like.
#2 Don't bother insulting the people who make insulting comments.
#3 If your question is so serious that you cannot accept the crap that gets posted here. This is not the place to ask it.
What was your question again?
Oh Yea, You went to court for a contempt order for child support. Rather than pay he ran. Did not quite work like you planned. Sounds like your marriage.
FYI- I'm not heartless or an Idiot. I just do not have much sympathy for your plight which, in my opinion, you helped create.
I would have responded to your email by email but your address does not work. I attempted to tell you not to respond to the ones you felt were insulting, you just won't listen.
2006-10-13 11:47:12 · answer #5 · answered by Flagger 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Been there did that...7 years ago my 3 sons deadbeat dad took off to California too and has NEVER paid a dime in child support. The most you can do is what I did. Take him to court and have the courts apply an amount that he is to pay and have it accumulate weekly. I keep telling myself that one day the asss hole will get whats coming to him. He ended up marrying a well off woman, so he doesnt work and California will not enforce the order. One day that dum wifey will see what a loser he is and he will have to work to support his dum asss and THATS when child support will get his assss. He owes me almost $9000. Perhaps the NEXT president will make punishing deadbeat parents a top priority. We can all wish can't we?
2006-10-13 11:06:57 · answer #6 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Howdy,Hope this can help.I am not lawyer I went through a divorce and this is some of the things I learned from the man side of paying and from some of my experiences.
You have to get a judgment agent him first.They will notify the IRS for any tax returns.
Then any time he gets a job in any state the support will take $ from that.If you get a privet investigator they can find him any where.But that cost $ i know.A warrant needs to be but on him and if he gets pulled over for any reason he will be put in jail for a short time 30 days or so to teach him a lesson.It could be for a lot longer if he doe's start paying.If all this doesn't work,and it might not at least it gives him a life of misery.But for you and your Kidd's $ that you need,there are programs in your city that will help you with low cost food etc.I know that that kind of help hurts the pride but at this time you could use the help and hopefully it will be temporary.(I liked how you kicked #2 and #8 butt!!) LOL If I can give any more help I've been through it all.Good luck bingecom@yahoo.com
2006-10-13 12:30:00 · answer #7 · answered by archer 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
1st ...ignore Quasi up there. Paying bills is part of supporting the child. Not only that but how you spend the money is entirely up to you...if it wasn't the courts would make you itemize it.
2nd...once he gets a job or anything using his social security number he should be traced. Hopefully you have a garnishment order on him to make that process a lot easier.
3rd...As hard as it is try to never depend on child support. It took me a lot to get myself financially to that point as well but once you are there it's great. My ex's child support is like our fun money. I never expect it but when it shows up in my account I get stoked and the kids and I go do something fun with it.
Good luck!
2006-10-13 11:02:44 · answer #8 · answered by The Steele's 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can hire a private investigator, which will cost or you can ask the county to help you with child support. The county will them do the search for him because he will owe them. After finding him, then you can take him back to court.
A friend of mind did this. She went to the county for help. Three months later, they found him and she then took him to court and got child support.
2006-10-13 10:59:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Go to family services and apply for the child sup. They may not find him right away but when they do and they will he will have to pay back support from the time you applied. So either way he will pay just may take a very long time. When he does his taxes he can be tracked. Good luck!!
2006-10-13 11:01:02 · answer #10 · answered by Kim 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋