Why do husbands cheat?

Question

Me and my husband have been to geather for a long time we just had our first child and we where always so close and had lots of fun and trust me Ive lost all of the baby weight I just dont understand my husband kissed this other girl and he said he ended it but he still wants to talk to her and not let me be freinds with her and he wont let me hear him talk to her. he talked to her one night after we had sex

Answer 1

This question should say, " Why do husbands or wives cheat", because according to latest statistics, it is almost equal. Just kissing another woman is not cheating, it depends what kind of kiss it was,and if led to sex later. That's cheating ! As far as talking to this woman, as I just said if it didn't lead to sex there is no problem. How many husbands or wives talk to their ex after a divorce. A lot of them do, and many times it's because of the children they had. Now, they have kissed and even had sex, and most of the time the new wife or husband accepts this. What bothers me is the fact that he doesn't want you to talk to this woman. That 's kind of suspicious. I would talk to this woman, and if he doesn't like it , then you have a definite problem. Then you will have to talk it out and tell him you want to know what is really going on. Then go a step further and go to a marriage consular. Don't back down , that's what he counting on, and from what you say, probably has had this power over you for some time. Now at least one answerer here said that if her husband even looks at another woman she looses it. Now that is a very naive. That means that her husband has to look when she is not looking or sneak arround looking. Me and my wife Have been married for 33 yrs.,and are very open with each other. I have even on rare occasions gone to a strip bar. But she knows about it because I tell her ahead of time. There have been many times that I have heard guys say to me, if my wife knew I was going to a strip bar she would kill me. Now, which is worst, having to sneak behind my wifes back every time I do something like this, and say I am going out with the guys or being honest about it, and being able to talk about where you have been or what you are doing. Sorry, I got kind of carried away. Hope this helps.

Answer 2

Question should be why did your husband cheat, not why do husbands cheat. Not all men are alike. Been married 14 years and husband always home for dinner and we do lots of things together. We have one son. Sorry you think your husband is cheating on you but he may not be but if he keeps up with that relationship it can very well lead into that. You need to tell him how you feel and how would he feel if the tables were turned around.

Answer 3

How are you two doing in the communication department? He is either not getting what he needs at home and finding it elsewhere or he is sick in the head and needs swift kick in the rear. Have you asked him why he has done this and tell him about how it isn't right to continue this realtionship with this woman even though he says just friends. I think this sounds like trouble to me. I would say most men don't continue to talk with a woman they kissed if something isn't going on. I am afraid to say, but this is probably more than just a friendship going on here. I would ere on the side of caution. You 2 need to sit and talk this out and set down some rules. If he wants to stay married you to you then he needs to have that commitment and stop flirting around and talking with other women. Something is truly wrong with this picture. if after all this and he continues to want to talk with this other women than I would either consider counseling or seperate for awhile until you can clear things up.

Answer 4

It's not necessarily that "husbands cheat." I know plenty of married men who do not cheat on thier wives. The real issue is why *YOUR HUSBAND* cheats. Usually, men cheat because of the "little bugger" in thier minds that excuses betrayals in relationships as "meaningless" when in reality, they don't understand the trauma this may cause for significant others. The key is...excusing. And one of morals, values, and integrity. If one can't be honest to one's self, they can't be honest with anyone else. Cheating is dishonesty at it's core.

Answer 5

Kick that man to the curb. He obviously has no respect for you. Different men cheat for different reasons but is sounds like maybe your husband does just because he CAN. Get a backbone, girl!

Answer 6

i've been a cheating husband and i've really thought about this question. hard to answer. so many different reasons. i think what it comes down to is something new and different is more exciting than the same old stuff. the chance of being caught adds to the excitement. it's hard to stop it. it had little to do with how i felt about my wife....now my ex-wife. good luck.

Answer 7

Girlfriend ur tripping. Why r u allowing this to go on with ur knowledge. Lets put is to a end.
If u want to talk to her u can, but be ready for wat-ever, talking to the other woman is a hard call and it will confuse matter more. She can tell you thruth or, she can lie about everything u ask her, just cause, so be ready girl. Ready get all cell phone bills, if u don't have them call ur cell phone company, they will send them to u. call every # u don't know, before dialing number *67 then the #, this blocks ur #. Now after talking to her u realize he was affair, put his *** out. He don't respect u. If u still loving him it's going to be hard, but if it meant for u all 2 be 2gather, he'll tighten up. Good Luck.

Answer 8

Why do husbands cheat?

Answer 9

they cheat because they are not fully committed (they think they are...their not.) Their heart is not in the relationship. Its not the women's fault.....its something dealing with the man.

your hubby sounds like he in interested in someone else.....i would tell mine that it is Completely unacceptable and he needs to end the conversation and kissing right now or I'm leaving. You hubby has alot of balls....mine won't DARE talk to another female in front of me. Remind him he has a family and ask "do you really want to lose all of this for a FLING?"

good luck and be Strong....

Answer 10

why do you want to be friends with her and why is you letting your husband talk to her put your foot down and tell him it is either you or her he cant have his cake and eat it too y'all have a baby and this is not a good way to start your family together on lies and cheating