can you tell me how soon is it to tell someone you love them if you feel it?

Question

i really really is falling head over heels with this guy i am seeing he his everything i have been looking for i want to take it slow but i am having strong feelings for him

Answer 1

What most people feel so intently is sexual attraction. Love grows slowly, sexual attraction can be instantaneous. Give it time. True love takes time to develop. Romance is cotton candy, tastes great and is gone quickly. Real love is what you do for each other, especially when things are not going well. Loving isn't like springing a trap. You get no additional points for striking fast.

Let it grow and get some history.

Answer 2

Most men will turn their back on a women who falls in love quickly so if I were you I would keep those feelings to yourself... at least for the time being. Maybe this is old fashioned, but I think it's always better to let the guy say 'I love you' first. The quickest it's been with me where we reached that point was after about 3 weeks (of 24/7 with this person). Obviously it wasnt too quick because 5 yrs later we are still together! Sometimes you just KNOW. Still, take it easy... dont want to scare him away (men are easily frightened it seems)

Answer 3

There's a big difference between strong feelings and love. I'd say that if it's been less than 2 months, you're still in the infatuation phase. Get passed that and then re-evaluate whether you are still feeling the same thing. Infatuation ends somewhere roughly around 2 months or a little more. That's when you begin seeing his faults and his annoying habits and the real you and the real him start to be exposed. If you feel as deeply for him despite all the things you will begin to see, then he might be a good match-- as long as your age doesn't end in the letters t-e-e-n. Have fun and enjoy the journey.

Answer 4

if you want to take it slow... take it slow... if he's really the guy for you then you have time... if you are going to tell him i love you make sure what you are feeling is not lust. talk to him... say i really LIKE you alot. notice i say like... because if you arent sure if hes at the same point with his feelings yet you dont want to scare him off or have him say it back but not really feel it but feel put on the spot and he might not want to say anything about not being ready. and so this might influence him into coming closer to the words i love you. i have a friend who is in a relationship and they said i love you after only a week or two of knowing each other... it all depends on where your feelings are at because it may take a little time for him to realize that he loves you and that this could be a long term relationship.

Answer 5

...wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait!!!!! There's a little bit of strategy in this dating thing. Don't tell him anything until later. I used to be a bleeding heart on my sleeve until I was blamed for being, "too intense." (I'd just say how I felt, and then scare the poor unsuspecting guy off.) But I got smart. Some things are better left unsaid until the right time comes. Did I mention to wait?! LOL. I'm happy that you're smitten. You may not see some unsavory characteristics about your man now, but later you can make an informed choice about your man -- and it's not so messy to clean up if you haven't spilled out your emotional guts. Take care!

Answer 6

Don't rush things! The quickest way to run a man away is to make him think you are leading him to the altar. Let things develop naturally. Become good friends before you ever say the word "love." My grandmother taught me that a man should say he loves you before you say you love him.

I had a boyfriend who I knew loved me and I loved him, but he could not say it. He would tell me that he had "special feelings" for me. Finally I got tired of it and married someone else, who said over and over again that he loved me. To this day I have never told him that I loved him. We are good friends now that I am divorced, but do not mention the word "love."

Be careful though, I married too fast out of that relationship and was sorry about it.

Answer 7

I think it depends more on where you are in the relationship rather than actual time. You might casually know someone for years but not be to the point of using the L word. I think you might start with something less committing like "I like you a lot, let's go steady". See how that flies.

Answer 8

It's really up to you how you play this, I told my boyfriend I loved him after being together for 5 months. But my friend told her BF after just 3 weeks (their still together 4 years later!) Its a personal choice that only you can decide on, but I think that if your having to ask us on here then maybe it is a wee bit too soon. Take it easy and just take things as they come. You never know...he might say it first!!
All the best hunni xxx

Answer 9

Take it slow, because once you tell someone you love them, they probably might run away, but if you really deep in your heart think that he feels the same then tell him! Also if you decide to tell him make him a nice dinner! Good luck!

Answer 10

Well... it depends how old you are. Don't' rush things or you can scare him away. Unless he is looking for a permanent commitment, such talk about love can be uncomfortable for him.