Well my ex boyfriend started calling me again and we didnt end on bad terms we just ended and to tell you the truth I do even really know why. So should i let him back in like he wants or should i stay strong and just be single? I mean i have deep feelings for him and he didnt hurt me but who's to say he wont just up and leave again?
2006-10-13 03:36:19 · 28 answers · asked by LiL mAmMa 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
if he just up and left, maybe he just needed some time to realize what life would be like without you. now he knows, and he doesnt like it. Be careful though, make sure he doesnt want to come back just because its easier than finding someone else and he is lonely. Be careful, but give him a chance. I say go for it!
2006-10-13 03:40:33 · answer #1 · answered by Bistro 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, I'm always suspect of men calling ex-girlfriends after a period of time has passed. This usually means that once they left the sex is either poor or non-existant for them. Since most men don't quite care where they get it from or who they put anything into, I would be very careful and walk gingerly on this one.
Has he given you any excuse as to just why he's decided to make this fantastic reappearence? Bet the first thing he wants from you when he sees you is sex in some fashion or another.
Your choice baby. If you're the kind of girl that doesn't mind putting out only to be kicked to the curb again then I say you have the green flag. Other than that....I'd look and think long and hard on this.
2006-10-13 10:41:57 · answer #2 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it doesnt matter what the reason is for u two breakin up. the real thing that i would think about is if hes gonna hurt u. if it didnt hurt last time mayb it will this time since it would b the second time bein with him. and of course hes gonna say that he misses u and wants to get back together. but thats what they all say. im not tryin to tell u hes a bad guy. i think u should become closer friends with him. then when the time comes that he only wants to be boyfriend and girlfriend i would question if hes gonna stay around. sure hes gonna promise u a lotta things but u really need to just use ur head on this one. because if ur heart gets broken there's no tellin when u'll b ok again.
2006-10-13 10:44:50 · answer #3 · answered by smalls8802 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This very thing happened to me many years ago. And then after over a year of nothing he calls me up out of the blue. By this point, I had gotten married (to a wonderful guy) and told him that he needs to move on. I think it's just that he was missing the thought of being with someone and wanted to be with someone who was warm and familiar, so to speak.
If you have deep feelings for him, then I would probably stay away from him because if it didn't work out before, it probably won't work out now. If you think you can be friends with him, than go for it. But I would think long and hard about having a physical relationship with him until you are absolutely certain it is what both of you want.
2006-10-13 10:42:25 · answer #4 · answered by Adina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart. If you didn't end on bad terms then there shouldn't be any hard feelings. My kids father and i split on bad terms and I knew i had to take him back. I went against what everybody was saying and took him back. Things couldn't be better! If I were you I would take him back. Being single is fun but being in a relationship is better! You can't hide your feelings for him forever, it would be best to see what is meant. More than likely if he is calling asking you back, things will be different. If you are still unsure, sit down and talk with him. Ask him all your unanswered questions and go from there.Good luck! Remember to follow your heart!!
2006-10-13 10:42:08 · answer #5 · answered by charmz21lucky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing for you to do right now...is neither of the options you gave. You want to be somewhere in the middle, where you call the shots. If he wants to re-enter your life, then it will be under your terms. This way, you not being at his every beckon call and he takes you for granted. Or you not being a ***** and push him away. The fact you still have feelings for him...you should take it slow and discuss with him what happen in the past. So that you two would not have to repeat it again....but like I said you have the ball in your court...use it.
2006-10-13 10:54:32 · answer #6 · answered by teaspoon520 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should make him work to get you back. Let him prove it that he's serious about you. Stay strong. You should find out why you stopped talking. Doesn't it feel good to know that your ex wants you back? of course. It's the best revenge when they can't have you either. I don't think that you should just run to him b/c then he'll think he has you like that. If you like him, let him work a little hard to get you back, so you can see what his true intentions are. It's imperative that you find out why you stopped talking. Kill him with kindness. Don't let him think your world revolves around him. And if you are not interested in him, then let him down. Hey did he care about your feelings when he just stopped calling you?
2006-10-13 10:41:38 · answer #7 · answered by Rica 82 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would talk with him to find out why he just up and left!! I mean, since you didn't end on bad terms, it wouldn't hurt to try to work things out!! Maybe he's going through something and didn't know how to handle it, but it still didn't give him the right to up and leave because he should have been man enough to come to you and let you know what's going on!! It depends on what you want to do, but I would make it clear to him that he couldn't just up and leave whenever he wanted and come back in my life when he just felt like it! Most of all, try to be understanding and see where he's coming from, but I wouldn't advice you to just jump back into a relationship with him! Alot of communication would be taking place and from that I would decide on what's best for me to do!!! Follow your heart and make sure you discuss every issue and find out what's going on because if he'll just walk out on you now for nothing, imagine what he'll do later!!!
Then again, maybe you just think he up and left when he really didn't!!! You've gotta find out what's going on, what's been going on, and then decide on what to do!!! Talk to him and gradually work your way up!! Best of Luck!! Remember, Communication, trust, and honesty are the keys to a successful relationship!
2006-10-13 10:50:58 · answer #8 · answered by angellove 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your intuition. It sounds as if you don't trust him. It also sounds as if you have some anger towards him that you haven't dealt with yet. You say the relationship didn't end badly. However, if he walked out on you, isn't that a bad ending? Ask him why he's back in the "picture" and what his motivations are this time? Discuss how he walked out on you and get his "take" on that before you come to a decision regarding dating him again..
2006-10-13 10:41:24 · answer #9 · answered by cheyennetomahawk 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I tyhink it depends on what kind of feeling syou have for him. If you just care about the guy then stay friends. If you truly love him and could see yourself together long term then go for it. You already know what it is like to date the guy so use that as a guide.
2006-10-13 10:59:36 · answer #10 · answered by dumbblond 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋