I really feel like I want to settle down. What is wrong with me
2006-10-13 03:30:42 · 26 answers · asked by Judith 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Judith, how do you feel about it? That is what is important here. Your of age, if your happy and he makes you happy, then why not. Personally, I think your still a bit to young to marry, but again its how you feel that matters. Good luck.
2006-10-13 03:37:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got married when I was 21!! And a year later I am still in bliss!! But I really don't think marrying a guy thats old enough to be your dad is a good idea!! Rather look for someone thats close to your age so that you's can grow together and explore together! There's nothing wrong with wanting to settle down.But just enjoy being young and free!! You are at your prime age!! And whatever you do now shapes the rest of your destiny.Live the life that you've always dreamed of!.Live the life you always fantasized living as a child, anything is possible!! Your time will come when you will have kids and husband and security and all those other wonderful things.But you have to build a strong base for yourself!! Take time first to discover who you are!! Make the most of every moment!!
2006-10-13 10:45:47 · answer #2 · answered by Dee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Judith, Im 44 yo man and my wife is turning 20 this Jan. We have been married 1 year this Halloween and we are very happy. Im not saying its easy, but no marriage is easy. There will be issues regarding age differences for sure. Id say more important than age is that you really love each other and are willing to go the long haul with each other. Also, its important to have simular interests. My wife and are happy because we both love to do things together such as working on our house, travelling, surfing, snowboarding, dancing, going to movies. My best advice is to spend a lot of time together and see if you are compatible befoer you get married. Good luck!
2006-10-13 10:39:00 · answer #3 · answered by Darrell G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're the 45 year old, settle down with someone your own age. Don't try and live the fantasy. What's wrong with you is that you're having a mid-life crisis.
If you're the 20 year old, you haven't lived enough. Go out and create your life! Learn to live independently, be self-supporting. I hate to tell you this, but real woman-hood doesn't begin until at least 30. Before you make a life-altering decision, grow! What's wrong with you is that you've not sufficiently matured. I'm not saying your immature, you just don't have enough life under your belt.
2006-10-13 10:36:13 · answer #4 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm fast approaching 45 & while some 20 year olds might look VERY tempting, And I am open to an "age range", I think that 45 / 20 is not a good idea in the long haul.
2006-10-13 10:37:31 · answer #5 · answered by Justin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well girl its ur choice if u want to go for it because people might tell u don't do it hes too old for u at the end of the day if ur heart beats for him then all this advice is nothing.
personally i think ur too young to get married that is a big commitment for a 20 year old.
get a job do normal things that a 20 year old will go clubbing,travelling do ur self a list of things to do before u get married then when its done u can get married.
if u wanna settle down then get a job if u don't have one find a flat maybe live with a man like ur married.
2006-10-13 11:15:05 · answer #6 · answered by joann m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are the 20 year old, take your time....there is so much life ahead of you.
If you are the 45 year old, allow the younger one some sound advice .
But really there is nothing wrong with the age gap if you guys love each other..... go for it as long as there is equality.
2006-10-13 10:35:09 · answer #7 · answered by Keanu 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey I can relate! I am 30 and have a huge crush on a man 15 years older than me. I don't know..it's something about that older man that can really get you going! If he treats you well, then there is no prob. But if he's manipulative or tries to be your daddy then lose him!
2006-10-13 10:35:34 · answer #8 · answered by Christabelle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there is anything wrong with a 20 yo marrying a 45yo. After you are both 18 you are adults and can make all the decisions for yourself. Age is just a number! You can't help who you fall in love with and neither can he!
2006-10-13 10:35:20 · answer #9 · answered by charmz21lucky 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
20 is too young to marry ANYONE, let alone a 45 yr old man. You are young, find out who you are first...enjoy yourself...
I personally think people should be at least 25 before they get married....but everyone is different...but please don't do it..It sounds like you are just longing to be "taken care of" which perhaps roots to your past?
2006-10-13 10:34:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋