My wife celebrated her birthday two days ago. I had some roses delivered to her job. As of today she has yet to even say thank you for the flowers. She found time to text me on the day before her birthday to let me know her mother would be picking her up on Wednesday after work. I'm sure she even had time to spoke to her mother on Wednesday, but didn't even make time to call me to say thank you. Should I just leave the matter alone and not say anything or should I confront about this? I consider this a total "slap in my face."
2006-10-13 03:25:59 · 16 answers · asked by kingjames1906 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would say, "Honey, are you enjoying your roses I sent you for your Birthday." If she says what roses, then call the florist. If she says yes, then say, Okay then, your welcome. If she says no, then say, I'm sorry, is something wrong? You won't ever know until you ask her. If you can just forget about it and move on, you could do that. But I bet you will keep thinking about it.
When I get flowers from my husband, I always call him as soon as I get them and tell him thanks. I even tell him thanks when we go out to eat. One time he sent me flowers, I didn't know they were coming, I called him to ask him a question (I hadn't received the flowers yet) and he was like well didn't you like your flowers, I was like what flowers?....so much for surprises....lol.
2006-10-13 03:43:38 · answer #1 · answered by GreeneyedCowgirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you go confronting her, you better be sure they were delivered and that there was a card or something with them that identified you as the sender. Maybe there was no card and she is afraid to say anything for fear that you may have not been the one that sent them? When she is at home and within range of hearing, call the florist and ask them if the flowers were delivered because nobody has ever said they were... If they say the flowers were delivered, say thank you and tell you just wanted to be sure. I think you will get your point across and you will not have to say another word...
2006-10-13 03:34:47 · answer #2 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should hand deliver them next time .....if there is a next time. She might have a boy/girlfriend that she thought the roses were from (thats why she said nothing) THE "mother" picking me up line is a clasic "code" for "my boyfriend and I have plans , so leave us alone!!! Most men won't interfear with the mother-in-law and thus freeing her up to spend the whole day "worry/interruption free" YOU should confront her about this for sure ...but don't assume anything and express your concern/ hurt feelings to her. And as for a slap in the face GET HER SOMETHING BETTER THAN FLOWERS NEXT TIME .....MAYBE SHE WILL BE MORE THANKFUL !!!
2006-10-13 04:09:00 · answer #3 · answered by budlowsbro420 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe something happened in the delivery process and she never even received the flowers. I would not verbally attack her until you find out. And then I would just calmly state that you felt hurt by her lack of appreciation. I am sorry that you got your feelings hurt. But maybe she did not even receive them and thinks you forgot her birthday. And if she did receive them and not respond, and after the decision does not understand why you feel the way you do. Next year I would not send any flowers. And then she will see it from your side. Sometimes we need to be put in a position to remind us of how fortunate we are. Good luck and God bless.
2006-10-13 03:32:31 · answer #4 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband gave me roses once, but he gave them to me at a party for my mother so i gave the flowers to my mom. His feelings were hurt bc he thought I didn't want them! He told me that he wouldn't ever give me flowers again, and he hasn't really. I understand now (even though i think its stupid) that I hurt his feeling, so I understand that its is a slap in the face. And in any case its rude as hell! Make sure she got the flowers before you get upset. Just ask her "Didn't you like the flowers i sent you?" and if she says yes, tell that'll be the last time because it doesn't feel good to go out your way just to be unappreciated.
2006-10-13 03:35:57 · answer #5 · answered by Sweet Belly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A simple call to ask her if she got the roses without making her feel bad may be all it takes. I can understand how you feel. I would feel bad it. It maybe that they got delivered to sombody else and you are stewing about a gift she never recieved. Chases are she may have simply forgot to say thank-you.
good luck.
2006-10-13 03:33:35 · answer #6 · answered by no 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
could be that she thanked her boyfriend for them and assumes that you forgot her b-day. Funny every time i sent flowers i was thanked, Are you sure her mom was the one who picked her up ?
2006-10-13 03:32:56 · answer #7 · answered by Wondering If ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure she got the flowers and then get over it.
2006-10-13 03:31:23 · answer #8 · answered by curtaincaller 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you know she even got the flowers?
You should ask if she received them.
2006-10-13 03:31:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would let it go. And maybe do something else for her so she can really apreciate it. Roses don't say much.
2006-10-13 03:28:31 · answer #10 · answered by ryanconnarton 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋