I've always been afraid to let anyone in my heart completely so Im afraid to get married because i don't want to hurt the other person.
2006-10-13 03:17:24 · 14 answers · asked by Sweety 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He really does love me and my 3 year old daughter. But i'm the one that is afraid of not meeting up to expectations.
2006-10-13 03:47:48 · update #1
marriage is a two person thing, you have to open your heart, and your husband have to open his. you need not totally open your heart if you aren't ready, sometimes relationship have their own progressive stages.
As long as you know he's a wonderful man, and you would like to stay with him, keep him happy, him keeping you happy, the rest of the problems you two can solve bit by bit. No rushing. It's a long way ahead
Be brave, remember, he might be feeling kinda insecure too, you might not be the only one...try talking to him and explain your fears, at least let him know what you are going through, marriage is about communications
2006-10-13 03:23:55 · answer #1 · answered by meow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have some issues to deal with and the sooner the better. You said it, you're about to be married to a wonderful. If you don't want to get married now postpone it but don't let him slip through your fingers for no apparent reason or you might regret it. Wonderful men are hard to find, you end up looking for a mr nice guy for the rest of your life.
2006-10-13 03:40:28 · answer #2 · answered by sweetdivine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure you want to start a marriage with that kind of doubt? I would think about it some more before get married.
2006-10-13 03:20:02 · answer #3 · answered by St.Anger 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't get married until you can open your heart completely. Just postpone the wedding for awhile. Try to give him the whole you.
2006-10-13 03:22:07 · answer #4 · answered by Jay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't have an issue with the person but an issue with marriage, then take it from someone that felt the same way and leaped anyway, stay single!
2006-10-13 03:19:25 · answer #5 · answered by curtaincaller 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi sweety, ask yourself 2 questions...could you live with him & do you love him above all others? That'll give you the answer you're searching for.
Remember...marriage is a piece of paper, it's the commitment that really matters.
2006-10-13 03:19:43 · answer #6 · answered by Ivyvine 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him how you feel and tell him you dont want to get hurt talk to him about it and if he really loves you he will understand or you will work something out. But you will never know how you or him really feel if you dont let him in your heart completly dont be scared of getting hurt it brings experience. Good luck.
2006-10-13 03:21:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no harm in postponing the marriage for 12 months just to make sure of feelings is there!
2006-10-13 03:19:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i could enable issues in simple terms unfold, the way they are meant to. you have the two been through incredibly present day marriages, some finishing badly. there is various luggage to artwork through (economic and emotional) for the two one among you for awhile, so shifting too quickly won't be a reliable pass. Letting issues play out slowly provide you with a greater desirable thought of who this individual is and how he handles himself in existence. If he's doubting you presently w/o reason, it quite is say to me he remains warding off or remains a artwork in progression on his believe/intimacy themes. previous him, you and your infants want time to evolve to existence totally w/o your ex there. I understand this has in all probability been going for some years yet, it takes that long for issues to sense popular with all of the variations in economic circumstances and how it effects your skill to spend time with them. they are nevertheless adjusting and in all probability like your bf, in simple terms pass away as that for now and artwork your thank you to marriage over the subsequent couple years extremely than leaping too quickly. I as a toddler watched my mom bounce too quickly better than as quickly as. in simple terms provide it it sluggish. reliable success.
2016-10-19 07:59:23 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try counseling before you get married.
2006-10-13 03:18:45 · answer #10 · answered by Melia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋