Here is the thing, i am ready to give me and my man living together another go around. However, he has stated that before we live together again that we need to have a contract in place. I think it is a little ridiculous that he wants this seeing that we have been together for four years and have a child together. But could this be a way for us to gain some trust back in our relationship? Should i write my own stipulations as well?
2006-10-13 03:14:48 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If he plans on writting his own contract for you , you need to do one as well.
2006-10-13 03:24:26 · answer #1 · answered by faybe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what are the stipulations? if you have some, then they need to be inplace also. if there is going to be a contract for him,don't be afraid to show your feelings. a couple shouldn't have to have a contract in place for a relationship.it should be based on love. a child cannot hold a relationship together. the two of you have to do that.
2006-10-13 03:25:35 · answer #2 · answered by Bobby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i can see where he is coming from with the contract thing.maybe whatever caused you to seperate in the first place was because of trust. I think its all fair. Plus if you really wanted it to work out, then you shouldnt see any problem with a contract ,right?Kind of like a Pre-Nup thing. I dont see a problem with anything. What are your stipulations about it?
2006-10-13 03:19:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For certain write your own stipulations as well, YES
Don't think of it as being cruel to him or the relationship but rather taking care of yourself and your baby, after all, it seems that he wants to take care of himself!
Take your time to read his requests and don't think it wierd to ask for others opinions.......Just politely say that you will read it and may even get an opinion from a lawyer, so allow yourself as much time as you need to get this done! If he seems in a rush or is concerned that you do that....there might be something to be concerned about after all. Better to do this now and not later!
2006-10-13 03:24:16 · answer #4 · answered by Keanu 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What a train wreck. There does not seem to be any trust. Maybe you two should have had a contract in place before you made a baby.
Providing your child a safe and loving environment should be your top priority. Everything else is secondary.
2006-10-13 03:18:12 · answer #5 · answered by Senor Pig 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your relationship obviously didn't work once since you are giving it another "go-around" so maybe the idea of the contract is not far-fetched. Just make sure it benefits you and your daughter as well as him. Also, you don't have to agree to anything but maybe while you are it you will know ahead of time what he expects out of your relationship and can walk away before you get involved.
2006-10-13 03:24:06 · answer #6 · answered by prinheartgirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a relationship is a TWO way street so definitely have your own stipulations. I would also ask why is it necessary to have the contract?
2006-10-13 03:17:16 · answer #7 · answered by Eyes of Green 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to write a contract then, you should be able to put in your ideas too. Its not a one way street and you both have to work as a team. If there are things that you don't agree w/ then nows the time to dicuss them...BEFORE.... you move in. good luck
2006-10-13 03:18:45 · answer #8 · answered by Princess T 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
think about it before you make any decision like that again
2006-10-13 03:22:40 · answer #9 · answered by lovenicci 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TO DYSFUNCTIONAL FOR ANY GOOD ADVICE. YOUR CHILD SHOULD BE YOUR NUMBER ONE PRIORITY.
2006-10-13 03:50:05 · answer #10 · answered by nwnativeprincess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋