I have 3 kids and day care is expensive so I stay home with them. I work part time 2 evenings for 2.5 hours each per week as a hair dresser. But it isnt enough for me. My husband doesnt want me to work more but I love working. Ever since I was 15 I worked and its hard to stay home that much. So I picked up a part time cash job as a bar tender at a bar 2 blocks from home. My husband and I occasionaly hang out there. I only work one night a weekday and everyother weekend he is giving me a hard time Its great $$ and my kids are asleep is it wrong to say Im not quitting.
2006-10-13 03:09:57 · 12 answers · asked by runzwsizorz 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I dont think you are doing anything wrong,you are worried about your family and you want to add to your family's finances. Ifyour husband is insecure it is really his problemand you should talk to him, is not like you are stripping!! is very close from home and there's nothing wrong to it. Dont quit because he feels insecure, talk about it and tell him to grow up, you just wanna help.
2006-10-13 03:15:00 · answer #1 · answered by Baby Ruth habla español 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't quit!
I could see him being concerned if you're out late at night on the streets by yourself, but if he's worried about that, he could always walk you there, it's only two blocks right? He should be happy that he has a woman willing to work and bring in the extra cash flow. How many families can say they don't need the extra cash. Obviously you take care of your children throughout the day, he can at least watch them a few times a month. He owes you at least that.
2006-10-13 03:18:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me that you are doing all you can do. Just tell him how you feel and explain that his insecurities are HIS insecurities, that you do not feel the way he thinks you do. After a while of this if it doesnt work you could always try doing it back to him, I know ,I know, it sounds immature but it is very effective lol, complain a lot about your breast size or bottom, every time he looks at another woman freak out on him and say things like " I'm sorry I'm not built like her etc, whine about it, even shed some tears if you have to and after a short period of time when he gets tired of saying "I love you the way you are "you can say HA RIGHT BACK AT YOU ! Lol sometimes to get a point across to the ones we love we have to fight dirty :) Just keep trying and good luck! T.
2016-05-21 22:46:34 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way. If it was the type of situation where you didn't need any extra money, perhaps it wouldn't hurt to quit and spend some extra time at home or whatever. But, I know how much money you can earn in one night of bartending, and it is only a few hours. Believe me, your husband is being partially considerate, but you have to make the choice that is best for the long run.
-Giro
2006-10-13 03:12:47 · answer #4 · answered by giroeterno 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should make the decision which makes you and your children happy, after that worry about the husband. But if you do decide to listen to your husband, make sure he does not point out later that he is the one bringing money to the house and you are doing nothing all day long. If you have no work, what do you talk to him about when he gets home?What sort of conversation do you have?Being out of work can really damage your relationship.
2006-10-13 03:22:19 · answer #5 · answered by Livia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are married you have to think of everyone in the family not just you. Most girls that work at the bar are around drunk men that want to hit on you all night. If you really care about your relationship with your husband you will respect how he feels. I don't even go to the bar without my husband. I think you are looking for more than extra cash. Otherwise you would just work more at your other job.
2006-10-13 03:19:12 · answer #6 · answered by marygold2012 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Is this under the pregnancy section because you are currently pregnant? Maybe your husbands concerns are just. He doesnt want you around that type of environment, on your feet constantly, and etc while you are pregnant. He is looking out for the best for you and your unborn child.
If you are not pregnant...do as you will, but perhaps you should talk to him about why he doesnt want you to work more than you are.
2006-10-13 03:12:52 · answer #7 · answered by Barbi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt do it to my husband. Barista's are the hottest things around, even if they are motheres of three. To a drunken man, theyre fresh meat.
I wouldnt want to make my husband worry like that.
What about waitressing? That can be really great fast money, especially on the weekend nights.
2006-10-13 03:15:37 · answer #8 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if i had the opportunity to stay home with my kids, and not work. i would jump on it. but that doesnt mean i dont like to work either. i love my kids. if it were me i would stay home until all are in school then find part time work where you can be home when the get home from school.
2006-10-13 03:18:14 · answer #9 · answered by mswalls00 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it isint i think that it is your job your life do you have any say in where he works? It isint like you are going to go and cheat on him or take your top off or anything.
2006-10-13 04:06:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋