I found out my husband knew this girl for 2years, they talked on the phone. They both say they never had sex. she said the kissed once, he said she kissed him, and he told her to never do that again. I asked him to take a lie detector, Is that aking too much?
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the test is $650. He said we don't have the money to waste on that. He also said if they were so reliable y they aren't used it court, he went on to further say either i believe him or don't
2006-10-13 03:09:35 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's not asking too much. Make sure you have a long list of questions you want answered. You may not get him to do it again unless you catch him with his pants down.
2006-10-13 03:11:57 · answer #1 · answered by S K 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all whether he kissed her or not, the fact that he talking to her on the phone for 2 years behind your back is just as bad, I dont think u need a lie detector to tell u what went on, and the fact that they kissed meant they were together at some point for that to happen. There is physical cheating and there is emotional cheating and we know he did the latter one for sure. I think the best thing to do is tell him she can be no part of his life at all and if he wont give her up or u find out he was in contact with her again then its pretty obvious what the answer to your questions are without spending money for a machine to tell u. Your heart will tell u all the answers u need.
2006-10-13 10:18:50 · answer #2 · answered by Amber 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't spend your money on a test. He's obviously guilty. What do you consider cheating? And what are you planning to do about it? If he did cheat, are you going to leave him or are you just wasting your breath? I think that you should definitely give him a taste of his own medicine, just so he could see how it feels. Also it takes two to kiss. I'm pretty sure his lips and tongue weren't sleeping while she was kissing him. And why was he talking to her anyways? I believe you have more than enough proof that he cheated. You have a confession. I also don't believe that they only kissed. And I'm pretty sure you don't either. Now if you still believe that you want to have him take a lie detector test, call the Maury Show, they'll do it for free.
2006-10-13 10:16:28 · answer #3 · answered by Rica 82 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not asking too much, he should do whatever it takes to make you trust him again. "Either you believe him or you don't", huh? After he has already proven himself to be a liar? How can you believe anything he says if this went on for two years and you didn't have a clue? Tell him he either takes the test or he can just go stay with this girl. Then, if it shows he is lying, dump his @ss. By the way, they are VERY reliable. I am a Criminal Justice major, and we took several classes on polygraph tests.
2006-10-13 10:28:23 · answer #4 · answered by Lotus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a kiss!
Everything comes down to perspective. It's more then likely that he was just as much of a party in this but it is still just a kiss.
He didn't buy here a Mecedes or pay her rent for a year.
Forgive him and get over it. Marriage is too fragile to harp on inconsiquensial matters.
2006-10-13 10:35:45 · answer #5 · answered by curtaincaller 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you provided enough information.... Did he know her before you were married? I think you're asking too much. Particularly if they have the same story and both are acknowledging that the relationship was taken to an inappropriate level and has been put back in check..... I don't see any dishonesty in what you're saying, but, again, I don't think there's enough information and I am clearly unaware of any patterns or other contributing circumstances....
2006-10-13 10:16:07 · answer #6 · answered by Erich K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Was this before you were married or after? If it was before, you are asking too much. If it was after, you are still asking to much because it means you don't trust him and therefore you shouldn't be married to him. The question you need to ask yourself is DO I TRUST AND LOVE MY HUSBAND? If you still insist on a lie detector then you don't and the marriage is over.
2006-10-13 10:14:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say if you don't trust him to the point where you want him to take a lie detector what are you still doing with him?
2006-10-13 10:18:49 · answer #8 · answered by St.Anger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The larger question here is why did he feel the need to continue having a friendship with this girl for so long? I'd tell him to get rid of her once and for all and prove to you on bloody hands and knees that he's true to you, or you walk and take half of what is his with you.
2006-10-13 10:15:53 · answer #9 · answered by Phaylynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well its not to much to ask but then it does cost a lot of money so i wouldnt do it but why dont you ask him some trick questions or just leave it as it is and then if you have more suspitions save up the money and then ask him to take the test again if hes say no cause of the money then tell him you have the money and if he still refuses then you have your answer (no) Good Luck.
2006-10-13 10:14:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋