I said once that I would NEVER cheat on a man, did it then wondered how it came so easily. I do know its wrong but think it would be good to have another's opinion. :)
2006-10-13 03:02:21 · 19 answers · asked by ◙Blue-Eyed♥Red-Headed♥Bella◙ 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It's not difficult. Just don't commit yourself if you know you live by.."variety is the spice of life..." Then you don't have to worry about cheating. I said NEVER too once, and I've only done it once, but it made me feel like hell for doing so. I came clean and our relationship is thriving now, but it's taken over a year to get his trust back. I can definitely say it wasn't worth it. I was out of town visiting family, and he kept accusing me of doing something. I live by the "guilty dog barks first" thing, so I just assumed (makes an A.SS out of U and ME) he was cheating on me, so I slept with my ex husband. I had to drive back home for fifteen hours thinking about what I'd done, and still to this day I feel like a piece of sh!t for doing such a thing. I didn't find it easy to cheat, but I did find it easy to confess to him about my infidelity. We've worked through it like I said, which I'm very fortunate for. I love this man with my whole heart and would never do anything like that again.
2006-10-13 04:00:36 · answer #1 · answered by Shining Ray of Light 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are too many temptations in the world today, cheating on ones partner is pretty common today especially with the ultimate search for fulfillment and happiness. The world is not a perfect place, that's why we should take things slow, date many people before getting married, and really search our hearts to be sure of what is good for us and know who is the one for you. I'm not saying this is a foolproof way of never cheating, I guess I'll sum it up by saying, we are only human, and as humans we fall short or perfection. It's not something to beat yourself up about.
2006-10-13 10:09:54 · answer #2 · answered by june clever 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because mainstream society condones it! Just look at some of the T.V. shows that glorify promiscuity, i.e. desperate housewives,sex and the city,etc..., watch the news, i.e. Clinton, etc..and listen to the music that's popular. When your bombarded from all these directions, it's easy to stray and then justify it. You just have to be different and stay morally strong! It's tough, yeah, but life ain't easy and it won't stop there. Make a stand, draw a line in the sand and say I want to be better then that! You will be happier in the long run.
2006-10-13 10:29:06 · answer #3 · answered by stever 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not difficult to be faithful. Obviously you are not ready to settle down with one person. When you find the man who is THE ONE,,,you wont cheat on him. Just remember that you wouldnt want someone cheating on you would you??? Its not honest. Make sure when you find a man that you truely love you dont do the same as you have been doing. A real relationship is based on honesty and trust,,,,if you dont have that,,then you dont have anything.
2006-10-13 10:07:00 · answer #4 · answered by michelle 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Being faithful is the easiest thing in the world - if you're with the right person. If you are, then you dont even get tempted by other poeople. Strange, but true. You still look and think someone is good looking or funny, but on the same level you realise you have what you want in your man and you dont even consider cheating
2006-10-13 10:05:30 · answer #5 · answered by Leiani 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think we all get into trouble when we look to others to provide something in our lives that we ultimately need to provide for ourselves. I think people cheat when they aren't getting something they need out of a relationship- and instead of figuring out what it is- they look for a quick and easy solution (another partner.)
I've cheated, and I've been cheated on- so I'm definitely not approaching your question from some distant, theoretical viewpoint. I've been there too. I just think it is important to figure out what you were trying to get by seeing someone else- and then see if you can get this from your regular partner.
2006-10-13 10:10:40 · answer #6 · answered by Jemima 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That can happen sometimes if certain needs are not being met by the person you love and you meet that someone who gives you what you are missing sexually even though you do not love.i think many people actually do this but thy won't admit it.The person you love could be almost everything you wanted in a man but be totally boring sexually.
2006-10-13 10:12:33 · answer #7 · answered by rennayo6 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i find that the only men i have ever cheated on have been ones that i have not been happy with. i used to when i was with other men but now i am happy i know i could never do it because i have everything i want
2006-10-13 10:05:16 · answer #8 · answered by o_kella_uk 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because there's no such thing as a perfect man...
There will always be something lacking and that's why we wander. When we have the perfect man, it will be impossible to cheat. I know how you feel hon, I feel the same way! :)
2006-10-13 10:05:04 · answer #9 · answered by kisme86 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I thought so. It's one question that nobody has an answer to. I suggest do whatever that keeps you happy. Life's too short to miss out on happiness of any kind.
2006-10-13 10:17:38 · answer #10 · answered by Friend 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋