i am deeply in love with my sweetie and i can't afford to lose her. Currently we had sex but i'm afraid that this might makes me lose her as i heard and saw that most couples who had sex will never last long in their relationships. Somebody please give me any advise or help. I seriously need it.
2006-10-13 02:58:56 · 16 answers · asked by werht 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
A wise man told me that a healthy relationship is built on 10% trust, 85% friendship, and 5% sex. You start by building the trust, then nuture the friendship, and sex comes naturally. Then, we troubles arise in the relationship (which is inevitable in a long-term relationship), when the sex isn't there, you still have friendship and trust to fall back on.
However, a lot of times people try to build a relationship backwards, starting with the sex, working on the friendship and then gaining trust. With sex as a foundation, when problems arise , you have nothing else built yet to fall back on.
Having sex with someone isn't going to make or break your relationship. How you develop the bond between each other emotionally and mentally will weigh more on the final outcome.
2006-10-13 03:20:38 · answer #1 · answered by ezenbrowntown 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex does not guarantee a long lasting relationship. Unfortunately, most people do not take sex seriously and just think of it as an act..but I'm sure if you continue to be yourself your relationship will last. Think positive.
2006-10-13 03:02:26 · answer #2 · answered by Melia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a few recommendations I can give you. First, if you're planning on doing some more exotic positions that tend to get him off quickly, try to minimize the amount of time spent getting him hot and bothered (for example, doing oral before sex). It'll mean he's a bit further from orgasm when you start, and may help him last a bit longer. Secondly, you can get the type of condoms that contain a mild numbing agent. They won't stop it from feeling good for him, but they'll help prolong sex for a few minutes. Finally, if he bounces back quickly after orgasm, try getting him off earlier, and then taking a break for a short while so he can recuperate. he should be able to last longer on the second orgasm than he did on the first.
2016-03-18 08:30:42 · answer #3 · answered by Gail 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop having sex and start making love to her. Then the relationship will last a lifetime.
2006-10-13 03:01:08 · answer #4 · answered by S K 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A relationship should never be based on sex, but it sure helps hold it together. In my opinion, it is when the sex stops or decreases that people will stray
2006-10-13 03:03:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sex will not ake it last, if she doesn't want to be there the she will leave. it's really not much you can do cause if she has it set in her mind that she's leaving then that's what she's gonna do. sorry not trying to make you feel bad but i been throught this kinda thing and if it don't work out just remember there are more fish in the sea
2006-10-13 03:09:48 · answer #6 · answered by waynekirsten 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look. Its not sex ... Its romance that make relationship last long. Romance and sex are two different things ... sex is just a cause to reproduction. Pure Romance is always ahead to Sex. ;)
2006-10-13 03:00:26 · answer #7 · answered by Akash 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, I can tell you that I wouldn't last long in a relationship without sex! It's a wonderful way to share and to show your love for her. As long as she's enjoying it too....keep it up! (so to speak!)
2006-10-13 03:02:01 · answer #8 · answered by ssssss 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that sex is VERY important in a serious relationship but you have to keep it interesting, try new things, new places, but most of all ask her what she thinks, maybe it has nothing to do with the sex!!!!
2006-10-13 03:08:53 · answer #9 · answered by ♥ Brat ♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try not to worry so much...concentrate on making the relationship even more rock solid. love is an action word, so show her how much you love her...it's the little things in life that make all the difference. If you show her the love you have for her..she will love you right back....keep the faith....peace
2006-10-13 03:06:22 · answer #10 · answered by girly3256 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋