Everytime he comes for a 10 days leave, she'll be always with him...forcing us to visit temples..and relatives. He doesn't seems to understand tht we don't have enogh time together. I can't say anything against her cuz he loves her a lot. How do I convince him tht he need to pay more attentin to our marriage. ?? Somebody pls help me..
2006-10-13 02:56:22 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Travel ➔ Asia Pacific ➔ Malaysia
set the room i mean decrate it and then open your choths and have sex
2006-10-13 03:00:09 · answer #1 · answered by dj d 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
don't worry no worries,
you can't change a mama but you can find out when the next time he comes in and arragange a dinner for the two of you and a weekend or somthing togther... so that way when she says lets go to the temple, you can tell okay but once we visist we have to leave at a certain time because we have dinner ate arragenments and if your mother in law says that's not right and your husbands agrees then really upset and dissapointed that he would rather have a time with the two of you than just you, then try talking to him and if that dosen't work than other action should be taken. GOOD LUCK
2006-10-13 03:04:58 · answer #2 · answered by 2-ROCK 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think of am interior the comparable enterprise as your husband and do nicely known we are able to be insensitive some instances. attempt to persuade your husband that R&R is a time to get nicely yet additionally to spend high quality time with your loved ones (spouse and little ones). So persuade him to take a number of those trip journeys with you and him by myself someplace else different than homestead. this might fee him some further funds yet while he can do this specially circumstances it would be good. If he can no longer have the money for you making journeys in another country, then you definately can the two pass outdoors your place city and stay in a lodge and spend high quality time this way you will get faraway from the relatives.
2016-12-16 07:06:21 · answer #3 · answered by coupe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried talking to your mother-in-law and explain to her that you need private time with your husband when he comes home. That you and he are a family and you need this time together so that you can bond and even perhaps give her a grandchild. But you need privacy for this. You culture is very different that then western and the mother is the matriarch for the family and there is a hugh amount of respect to be given to her. (Am I correct?)
2006-10-13 03:13:07 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can try to get your point across without saying anything about his mother. Try to get him to understand that you feel you need more time together. Next time he comes home, have many plans already in place for him and you to do together. If he says "I can't because of my mothers plans", try to make a compromise. Tell him that if you can do some things together and without his mother, that you can also try to accomodate his mothers' plans. Marriage is alot of compromise. It looks like you are doing all the compromising though. If you tell him honestly how you feel, it will avoid alot of resentment in the future.
2006-10-13 03:05:24 · answer #5 · answered by firefly2007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U need to talk to him.In such a culture u have to put up with some things like that. Dont say anything directly.Tell him that u need sometime with him without mentioning ur mother in law, temples or relatives,otherwise he will feel that u r trying to blame his mother
2006-10-13 03:09:36 · answer #6 · answered by jas 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes MIL's are a pain...i suggest like the rest you arrange a dinner out with your hubby, and tell him then that you need to spend more time with him, no offence to his mom, but ask him to talk to his mother. Firstly you have to make your hubby understand your situation then speak to the in-law. Do you have kids? If not, tell him how the hell are you going to produce if he's 1/2 the time out with his mom....
2006-10-15 21:11:45 · answer #7 · answered by Sarah 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know if you avoid this problem for a while and try to take care for you husband mother you will find that your husband try to do any thing for you
Also , i want you to remember one important thing which if you imposes your hus to set with his mother in the future you son will do the same thing with you
2006-10-13 03:16:58 · answer #8 · answered by kamo 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I don't know what your Customs are as for speaking to Elders. But in America, most women just speak their minds. Yeah, it can cause problems, but if that is the case, then there were problems from the start.
2006-10-13 03:06:52 · answer #9 · answered by BITE ME 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try talking to him.
Just concentrate on what you need, not who/or what is the problem. Focus your conversation on what you need from him as far as time alone with each other. Just remember not to blame/criminalize his mother in the process and you will get what you want.
Good luck.
2006-10-13 02:59:42 · answer #10 · answered by magerious 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
tell him ya didnt marry his mom ya want more time alone just you and him if he has a problem with that than hes a mommas boy and shes gonna give you hell until you separate from him my ex was french she was a daddys girl i brought him to this country we where married 12 years hes the reason for our devorce
2006-10-13 03:03:50 · answer #11 · answered by james w 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋