I have been with my man for 11 years and we love each other very much, But because i am only the 3rd person he has ever had sex with he cant get rid of his urge to sleep with other women. I love him so much that I want him to sleep with other women but i cant be with him while he is doing it. We have decided that he will move out and do what he needs tothen in a couple of years well get back together.
So my question is................If your woman did the same for you would you go back to her.
2006-10-13 02:56:13 · 24 answers · asked by the star fairy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Let me ask you this sweetie? Are you talking about a male human or a dog? Because it sounds as though you're describing a dog.
Although I'm no prude...not by a long shot, sex may feel grand and we all fantasize however....if you've been together for 11 years and he says "I've only had sex with three women and need to have more women under my belt" you're cool with this?
So....sex with the person you love isn't really a display of love and affection then to you right? It's more sort of an animalistic-get-your-rocks-off type act?
If that's the case.....while he's out are you doing anything Saturday night and how to you feel about Victoria's Secret lingerie, handcuffs and maple syrup?
2006-10-13 03:14:04 · answer #1 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but your an idiot. If he really loved you then he would not even be thinking about sleeping around. Why would you want a man your man to sleep around. Hes going to keep you on the back burner while he goes out and has a good time and you think that hes going to come back to you. Hes not, he is a jerk and you are letting him treat you like that. Get some self esteem and dump him! You are like doing him a favor, please. So in two yrs after his d*** has been in several different women the two of you will be back together in love. No! You have no respect for yourself at all. You love him enough to let him slept around wow your every mans dream. He goin end up with an std and in two yrs youll have it too. Dump this jerk and relize that if a man really loves you he doesnt want another women.
2006-10-13 03:06:22 · answer #2 · answered by Sassy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The real question is... "What do you think the chances are of my man coming back to me!"
You are obviously a generous-hearted woman, but if your man is given such freedom (two years?!), then it is highly likely that he will find some one younger, more exciting and desirable than he remembers you to be - and as a reward for your love, you are more likely to find yourself alone and depressed.
If he can not see how lucky he is to have such a loving and devoted partner, then he doesn't really deserve you in the first place. Perhaps you should find someone else, too, a man who will show you the loyalty that you clearly deserve.
2006-10-13 03:05:41 · answer #3 · answered by avian 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whats up Ann, I loev this question :D easily, i think of that's the different of what you're saying... change on. It ability you're a pacesetter, no longer A FOLLOWER. It ability you have the administration of your self, the two bodily and mentally. bodily to maintain LUST faraway from you and truthfully needs actual love and romance. Mentally, I could say if truth be told, you prefer to maintain PURITY interior of you till you detect your particular somebody who you trully discover which you the two will prefer to stay at the same time and understand happiness will spark non-provide up til the tip. individually, i could rather prefer to be with a woman like that who i can have confidence, get to appreciate her greater, besides as to love for her.
2016-10-02 06:25:53 · answer #4 · answered by gangwer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dear friend, the propsal you have agreed upon can only end in agony on your end. The excuse he is using is as useless. Honestly, it truly is. And I am being moderately objective here. If I were to try and pull that one on my wife well she would rightfully have the right to give me the left boot of ended friendship. Love and harmony are not designed to harm a pertner nor to divde and bring division through pursuing ones on sexual personal gain. There is a clear cut lack of appreciation for you and a very clear cut lack of respect and love for you. The perfect relationship would be designed with neither partner having sex before and spending a full life together sexually as a couple. But we have distorted that haven`t we, many relationships lead to fragmented lives , everyones had a piece of some eolse and no one is able to undestand why they are confused and disoriented in their spirit and soul. Nothing seems to make them happy , extremes just get more extreme and it`s never enough!!!!!.
Your love for your man is to be applauded yet you will never know the damage you are setting the both of you up for. Never able to be trusted and never being able to feel he loves only you for you, he`ll always want the new woman that turns his head. He is unrestrained sexually a predator, he must learn to harness that animal like all of the rest of us, and Learn to appreciate the wonderful woman that loves him dearly. I wish I had you, I guarentee you would never have this issue to plague you you would be lavished with love.
Please keep me posted.
Get into the Word of God and I challenge you to focus on 1 Chronicals 4:9 The Prayer of JabeZ Pray this little prayer daily. and in just afew weeks I want you to contact me and tell me what has been happening. It will be a very positve reply , I guareentee you!!!!
Hugs,
Jim
2006-10-13 03:21:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wake up and smell the pollution!
11 years with this guy and he wants to
sleep with other women. And you said
it was OK?! Kick him out and go get some
self esteem. Why would you put up with this?
What happens when you get back together and
then he wants to sleep with your sister? Is
that ok also? Quit being a doormat and go
find someone who really cares for you.
2006-10-13 03:03:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm not a guy, but i'm answering...
no way! he's being selfish and not taking your feelings into mind. how would he feel if you told him you wanted to sleep around? its craziness. my BF has only slept with one other girl. his first girlfriend. i would be absolutly devistated if he told me he felt like he was missing out and wanted to sleep with out girls. i would never be able to forgive him and that would be the end of our relationship.
dont let him do this to you. end it now and let him sleep with whomever he wants. just dont let him come crawling back to you when he finds out he lost everything he had to do it. besides you wouldnt want him coming back to you with kid in tow and a couple STDs right?
years ago, i guess about 5-6ish, my now exbf and i broke up, for 3 months. in that time, he slept with 2 girls (he claimed raped him but whatever- he was on e so thats a blatent lie) and i slept with 2 guys (he had been the only guy i had ever slept with prior). we decided to be honest with each other since we had been together for about 3 years by that point. and he got mad at me! he said that i only slept with those guys to hurt him. yet it was perfectly ok for him to sleep with those girls. he used it against me in fights and he called me a whore. so, i broke up with him again. that wasnt the end of the relationship, but point being, you dont want to have those same feelings. you dont want to feel like you are just on the side-lines while he goes around doing every girl he wants, and in the end you are just going to resent him. end it now hun before you really get hurt.
2006-10-13 03:05:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no such thing as a 'minimum booty urge'. If he was getting everything he needed from you, he wouldn't have any other urges. Move on.
2006-10-13 02:58:37 · answer #8 · answered by S K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is ssssooooo playing you. Don't be a door mat. And no I wouldn't go back. Especially after I scammed her like that.
2006-10-13 02:59:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I wonldn't feel the need to be with other women sexually
2006-10-13 02:58:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋