I need some insight here. I work with this guy and he is making me crazy! About a week ago we were getting along fine - everything normal. During a chat he casually suggested that we should go out for a drink some time. I said I'd like that. We are both unattached and reasonably attractive. He starts giving me the intense eye contact stuff (which I gladly return) and things go well for a while, though we never actually make specific plans to go out. Now, suddenly, he is acting like I am completely invisible. I don't mean he doesn't notice me, I mean he is actually blowing me off. He borders on polite if I approach him about a work-related question, but otherwise acts like he is trying to block me out of his vision. What has happened? Do guys just act this way? If he isn't interested in dating me that is fine, but why the sudden frosty treatment? I can't think of anything that has happened to warrant it. Any suggestions?
2006-10-13 02:47:41 · 9 answers · asked by NewGirl 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
i wouldnt go for the whole interoffice romance. but it might just be that he likes you but doesnt want to admit it, bc there is always that fear of rejection. so even tho u are giving the looks back, he might just be that insecure and not totally sure your into him. if you want to pursue it you could ask if you did something to make him mad. then if he asks why u asked bring up the cold shoulder. thats one sure way to find out...never was one to beat around the bush.
2006-10-13 02:57:28 · answer #1 · answered by jenivive 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he enjoyed the chase more than the capture. He liked the game of eluding to a possible out of office interaction than actually going through with it. It might be that he is really attached and he's keeping it quiet. In any case, it's his problem not yours.
2006-10-13 02:57:51 · answer #2 · answered by Mrs. Strain 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Many guys are like that (women too).
The best thing you can do is to focus on work, and other relations (friends at the water cooler). The stakes are higher at the work place than they were in school. Dunno if u ever had a break up with a guy who's in u're class ... it sucks ... work place is more intense (cas u get paid for working not flirting).
He may realize that he doesn't wanna mix business with pleasure ... or he might have another WEIRD rational thought behind his skull ... dunno, and if I were you, I wouldn't try to get into his thoughts.
2006-10-13 03:39:44 · answer #3 · answered by Giggly Giraffe 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he is probably hurt that you have not made a tentative date to go out with him . Maybe he feels like you led him on . Just try to talk to him and find out what the problem is and then maybe you can resolve it . Good luck and God Bless.
2006-10-13 02:55:07 · answer #4 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He sounds like a controller. He wants you to ask him why he is doing what he's doing which will put him iin control of the situation. I personally would steer clear.
2006-10-13 02:57:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
a week agoi was in that exact same position, what you need to do is say, 'hey, when do you want to go get that drink?'. if he walks away then, hes obviously not attarcted anymore. but confronting the issue will make you feel less annoyed.
2006-10-13 03:10:39 · answer #6 · answered by Taylor 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That's kinda weird, and the reason it's good to avoid the ol' workplace romance.
2006-10-13 02:51:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know what just think of this everytime you see him
Don't get your BREAD $$$ and MEAT "poke poke" at the same place!
Get it!
Good
Mad luv
2006-10-13 02:50:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your "eyeing" is not as attractive as you think it is? Besides look at ALL the answers that agree; NO OFFICE ROMANCE!!!
2006-10-13 03:27:14 · answer #9 · answered by island girl 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋