Ok here where I work one of the guys who is the owner of the business's son in law refuses to pull his weight - when the owners are around (rarely) hes as good as gold but when theyre not he wont answer his calls - deal with customers - do anything hes asked really. Ive tried talking to him and he laughs it off and I dont want to be running to the owners telling tales due to the family connection - and the fact he never acts like this when they're around. Anyone got an idea on how to deal with him coz he's really getting on my nerves and Im finding it increasingly hard to keep my temper held.
Thanks guys! xx
2006-10-13 02:37:53 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
ok prob should have added Im the manager so have no one except the owners to complain too! Leaving is not an option either - I like it too much here and thankfully theres other lads working here that do what work he's supposed to.
2006-10-13 02:43:11 · update #1
Hey Pamela,
You stated you were the manager. If I were in your position, I would have a talk with this guy and explain to him that they intrusted you to manage the business. Relative or not, he is expected to act in professional manner and do what he is payed to do. I would also tell him that If he doesn't shape up, I am going to have a talk with the owners about his perfomance when they aren't around. Pam, they did make you the manager and they expect you to run the business in a profitable manner. If he is a slacker, they need to know about it. I would explain to the guy that I am not being a "taddle tail"....only doing what they are paying me to do..be a manger. There is an old saying that is very true..."Relatives and business don't mix".....this a perfect example of it. He is taking advantage of the situation and needs to called on it. As the manager of the business Pam, the owners expect you to come to them if there is a problem best addressed by them..this may be the case here....at least you are lettting them know you are doing your job regardless if the guy isn't doing his...50% is not doing his job..he is payed 100% for his time......hope this helps Pam.....I know it isn't easy to get involved where relatives are concerned....like they said in the movie the Godfather...."it 's business..not personal"....
2006-10-13 02:58:09 · answer #1 · answered by Benny H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is obvious this person is not going to change his ways unless forced to. The only one who can do that is the owner. If you do not want to let the owner know what is going on, then you have to bite the bullet. It should be apparent to the owner that the son in law's work load is below that of his coworkers unless the boss is totally incompetent or plain doesn't care. If you want the owner to know of your frustration, then you have to have proof. A small hidden video camera would do the trick. However, if the owners haven't done anything about the problem yet, It's likely that even with proof, they won't do anything about it, but give them one chance to solve this. Like it or not, nepotism in the work place is hard to fight. It would be better to find another job, keep your dignity and good reputation. Politely let them know why you are leaving after you get your letter of recommendation.
2006-10-13 02:57:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess u have manager power over the staff, how many people work for you ?, has it ever been said that you cant disipline the Owners Son, has he been given the job as an easy ride ? were u told that he should do less work than the others.HAVE YOU told him as the manager ur not Happy with his work rate.If all this fails you will have to appraoch the owners and tell them that his performance is well below what the other staff do.
What line of buissiness is it ? I would not wnt anyone inc my Son NOT PULLNG thier weight in my firm.I was a Operations manager for 10 yrs for a majour Brewer I took on at one of he depots a few mates, but I was as firm but fair with them as I was the others, its ur name in the end that he could hurt..Not easy BUT you have to sort it, u just cant walk away from it a Good manager will get it sorted, might be time to step up a gear and tell him whats what and the owners.
2006-10-13 02:50:40 · answer #3 · answered by TONY C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this company has aligned its management systems with the business model, your solution is quite simple. As a manager or supervisor, you simply do the job as intended by the model, adding your own leadership and motivational skills. To achieve long and short term objectives, you would plan, assign, measure, evaluate and continually improve your team's effectiveness.
Team awareness of the plan, the goals, tasks and timeline is highly important, so that any shortfall is recognized by all. Peer pressure may result in improved performance, and their knowledge can subsequently lend support to your "needs improvement" recommendation for son-in-law.
It is standard practice to document all: the plan, tasks, timely completion, effectiveness, corrective action, perhaps counseling, in order to determine future needs. You will certainly need objective data to write personnel evaluation assessments as directed by company policy. This is how managers tell tales, and get support to correct problems.
Periodically, or annully, you will report effectiveness, and make recommendations impacting the next budget. The owners will certainly notice anything related to added cost or missed objectives, and will want to know why, so your trail best be documented with records, particularly counseling chats, which addressed goals and improvements to be achieved.
Of course, if your company is not organized this way, without a sound management policy, then your job is so much more difficult and the solution, frankly, ellusive.
2006-10-13 04:34:36 · answer #4 · answered by Don D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait.
You're the manager of this jerk?
Easy - tell him straight. Do some work, pull your weight or else.
Been in a similar position. Part of employee law demands that workers receive a yearly appraisal about how their role is going etc. Any ways they can improve etc. This has to be written down and recorded for their personnel files. Explain to the owners this needs to be done, and as his manager you have to write it. Give this to him verbally and in writing - a copy to go to the owners to put in his personnel file. I think you'll find the very threat of that enough to make him get working, if not, follow through with it and everyone will be in the picture as to what a lazy-good-for-nothing he really is!!
2006-10-13 02:49:14 · answer #5 · answered by Leiani 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to start by sounding out how your employers would feel about finding out this information. You could ask them how they feel he is fitting into the business, if they would like to know about areas of concern and development opportunities for him and so on.
You do not need to be specific about anything at this stage just find out if they want to know, if the answer is that they don't want to know then I'm afraid you may have to live with it or find another job. But you may be surprised in finding that they do want to know - I suspect that a lot of people get their children to work in the family business because they see them as an eventual successsor and they want to make sure the business is in safe hands. They may well want to know if this is not the case so they can gently nudge him into line. Just go slowly.
2006-10-13 19:12:17 · answer #6 · answered by nkellingley@btinternet.com 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thought about getting a video camera and doing a bit of recording and accidentally leaving the result around for father-in-law's attention.
Otherwise a bit of sarcasm about him when you speak to customers could embarrass him into pulling his weight??
2006-10-13 02:42:53 · answer #7 · answered by SYJ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you either have to go to the owners, or leave the company. If you go to the owners I would make sure you have everything WELL documented. You might also want to be prepared to leave in case it doesn't work out.
2006-10-13 02:40:16 · answer #8 · answered by danl747 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
how old are you dont stand for it you are a manager regardless of who he is related to no one should work like that speak to them explain the situation say you feel awkward. and tell them straight say you feel guilty why should you put up with it i know how you feel i had them same prob now soughted go for it honestly if they think alot off you then they should take notice good luck
2006-10-13 02:49:09 · answer #9 · answered by janet w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You would have to have the owners witness him acting this way. Even then, I'm not sure they would fire him because he is family. Maybe you could just demote him to something meaningless so he can just stay out of your way.
2006-10-13 02:46:37 · answer #10 · answered by Niecy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋