what can you do to help your husband????

Question

If he is overweight????/and he dont want to accept it??????do you think fat affect sex I think it does...

Answer 1

You as his wife will be the last person he will want to hear it from that he is overweight or fat... He still wants to think he is attractive to you and turns you on... If you have some friends that you have not seen in a long time and a girlfriend that you can trust to keep it under wraps, have them come over and at the risk of hurting his feelings, have her say point blank, "You sure are packing it on for the winter there chubby." Or some similar comment like that. It will hit home with him and keep you out of the firing line. You may take some heat for the insensitivity of your friend, but surely something you can deal with. And yes, being overweight effects your sex life...

Answer 2

For his birthday or Christmas, buy him a membership to a gym or sessions with a personal trainer. Also, I think you should go with him. It's motivation. Change the food in your household. Seek help from a nutritionist if he won't go to the gym. I'm pretty sure it's not denial, he's just lazy. And that usually happens when you're fat, your lazy. Once he starts seeing a difference in his body, he will be more motivated to lose weight. Don't call him fat or poke jokes at him b/c that's not going to help him. It depends how fat you are talking about when it comes to sex, If my husband gained 100 lbs. it probably won't suck. Very unromantic and unattractive.

Answer 3

Is it a little overweight, or a lot? Was he overweight when you got married, or did he let himself go? If it is a little, you are being superficial and let it go. If it is a lot, you need to make him realize the medical aspects of it. If you married him like this, then you need to come to grips with it. Don't marry an man then try to change him, accept him for the man you married. If he let himself go, be honest with him. Again, mention the medical aspects, and say that you are not feeling the same attraction. Tell him that you try to keep yourself attractive for him, and you would appreciate the same consideration. It may sting at first, but if he loves you he will understand. But do not be passive agressive about it. Be open and honest or let it go, but don't just hint at it.

Answer 4

Try to do activities together that promote exercise -- go to the mall and walk around for 2 hours, if you have pets, walk them together every day - try to find a hobby that is workout related - like join a health club. Maybe if he sees you doing it too, it will help him to make the effort.

Also, try to get him to eat lots of fruit and veggies - these will promote weight loss and make him feel great!!

But don't put him down or make him feel terrible about it - then he will be more resistant to change. And know that he won't lose weight unless HE wants to; HE has to put the effort in.

Answer 5

If your husband is like mine, he eats what he can find in the house. Of course at work he does what he pleases, but at home its my domain. My husband wasn't thrilled when I switched us to wheat bread. Or that I now only keep organic milk and eggs in the house. Sweets are very seldom and I keep a crisper full of fruit. I cook healthy and he either eats it or makes a sandwich. He doesn't like going to the store himself, so he doesn't bring junk into the house. I don't fuss over the occasional soda or ice-cream, but its because he doesn't fuss about my healthier cooking. Sometimes if we change first, our husband will follow along. Especially if it tastes good! I just tried my family on veggie burgers and they loved them!
So sit with him once and talk about the weight. Tell him you are scared about his health and you want him around for decades. Tell him you plan to start cooking better and eating better and hope he's willing to try it with you. Say anything you need to, but just at this one conversation. Then don't bring it up again, and try to do better for yourself. His weight loss is all about him. But giving him healthy choices might be all he needs to get started. I think the worst thing is nag others about weight loss while eating badly themself. Good luck!

Answer 6

If he doesn't accept that he has a problem there is nothing you can do but try to make low fat nutritious meals not only for him but yourself as well. The only one who can help him is himself and right now he doesn't think he needs help.

Answer 7

You probably can't help him loose weight. You can ask him to get a medical check-up to ensure there's no physical problem (like thyroid). You can ask him to join you on your daily 30 minute walk (start doing it WITH him). You can make sure he feels loved. You can see if there are any emotional problems and get help (maybe together if they are relational). Other than that... you can't live someone else's life no matter how much you want to.

Answer 8

He knows he is big,but does't choose to acknowledge it,then he'd have to ACT!!sounds cruel but prey on his insecurity a bit...get a membership to the gym for you,have lunches w/ your best friend in that new dress-maybe he will come around and enjoy life with this hot chick living it w/o him.Beats nagging,and you have fun.Good Luck

Answer 9

my boyfriend of 2 years has gained at least 50 pounds since we got together, and before when i would mention his weight he would say it is because of my cooking. (which it wasnt). so i talked to him 1 on 1, and i told him that it was affecting the way i looked at him, and it was really hard for me to have sex with him. now he has lost 25 pounds. so to answer your question, yes it does

Answer 10

Get (Eat to live) by Dr Joel Fuhrman. First you read it .Then get him interested by dropping knowledge on him. This book is amazing. If you can get him to read it i know it will convince him to make changes. A proper diet can reverse the effects of heart disease,diabetes, and even prevent and help fight cancers. you can get it at www.drfuhrman.com It will be the best 15 bucks you ever spent. And it will save his life.