I found out my husband knew this girl for 2years, they talked on the phone. They both say they never had sex. she said the kissed once, he said she kissed him, and he told her to never do that again. I asked him to take a lie detector, Is that aking too much?
2006-10-13 02:08:34 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
the test is $650. He said we don't have the money to waste on that. He also said if they were so reliable y they aren't used it court, he went on to further say either i believe him or don't
2006-10-13 02:56:27 · update #1
Let me ask this .What you going to do if he says he'll take it & it shows he's lying? If your not prepared to do something about it don't go looking for answers.
2006-10-13 02:12:23 · answer #1 · answered by "karma" 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, it's asking too much. For one thing, in a situation where someone is nervous, a lie detector test isn't accurate. Lie detector tests work by watching for elevated heart rate and perperation. When you're nervous, you get an elevated heart rate and persperation. Thus, the test says you're lieing even if you're not. In a situation where a guy is talking about being kissed by a woman other than a wife, don't you think he's going to be a little nervous even if he's telling the truth that it wasn't his idea and he said not to do it again? So what would a lie detector prove? If it detected a lie, it would either mean: (a) he cheated on you, or (b) he didn't cheat on you but hates talking about events with other women.
2006-10-13 10:09:34 · answer #2 · answered by Sean J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's definitely something wrong in your marriage if you have to ask your spouse, in this case your husband to take a lie detector test. Marriage is based on trust. If you don't trust your husband what are you doing still married to him? What happens if he takes the test and passes? Will you take the test? Your probably the one who's been cheating.
2006-10-13 09:13:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yup. You need to get your @ss in line or leave. You have no business being in a marriage with a man you can't trust. If you ask about a man about his sex life with a woman before he married you it is virtually a -requirement- that he lie to you.
2006-10-13 09:13:13 · answer #4 · answered by W0LF 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forget the lie detector test. If you can get over it and carry on with him do. If not, divorce him.
2006-10-13 12:47:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with you 100% but in his eyes you are probably asking way too much. He wants you to trust him and believe what he tells you. Marriage is supposed to be a strong bond between two people.
2006-10-13 09:14:00 · answer #6 · answered by *HEiDi!* 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If they have been talking for 2 years why is it a problem now? Get over it. You either trust him or you don't.
2006-10-13 09:23:25 · answer #7 · answered by golden oldy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should not force him for the test because if he is not lying to you, he will blame u for over reacting. Secondly dont give him chance to blame u for making the situation worst.
2006-10-13 09:19:57 · answer #8 · answered by jas 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You got trust what he /she says. But keep a watch. If you find them erring, you can think of other actions.
2006-10-13 09:14:55 · answer #9 · answered by SGraja 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds reasonable to me. Good luck.
2006-10-13 09:15:27 · answer #10 · answered by Jewells 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋