How long have you been married and what has made you and your spouse happy? What is the single most important thing that you share?
2006-10-13 02:06:09 · 11 answers · asked by a_delphic_oracle 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have been married for 20 years and dated him for 3 years prior to that.
The key to our successul marriage is a number of things. First and foremost we have never ever used the term "divorce" as an ultimatum with each other.
We learn how to compromise and forgive the other for thoughtlessness.
TRUST.
We realize that there isn't anything either one of us can do if one of us should decide to betray the other. So, we don't dwell on the fear of it and get paranoid everytime some man or woman tries to flirt with us. We trust each other to set that offending person straight and if the flirting were to get out of control it would be because we allowed it. We are each responsible for our own behaviors and reactions.
We nurture our relationship as a couple seperately from the relationship we have with our children.
The kids recognize that mommy and daddy are also a "Couple".
We talk to each other as friends and date.
Never stop doing the little thing for each other.
Allow each other to have our own space to pursue our individual interests. It makes each of us happy.
2006-10-13 02:16:24 · answer #1 · answered by GrnApl 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I have a wonderful, happy, and fulfilling marriage. We've been together for six years and it just gets better and better every day. I believe our secret is that we are both 100% committed to making the marriage work. We make it our goal every day to make the other one happy. We communicate always, and laugh often. If one of us is starting to feel a little unhappy we always communicate that to the other and look for ways that we can solve the problem together.
We have had hurdles in our path from the very beginning, but we face our problems together. We've faced infertility, deaths in the family, financial problems. But, we always face the troubles together and never blame or belittle the other.
Before we were married we made sure we were on the same page about all of the major issues (kids, finances, family, etc). We went to pre-marriage classes to make sure we were ready...and we waited until we were older and mature enough for marriage.
All of these things have contributed to a wonderful and happy life together. I wouldn't trade my marriage for anything!
2006-10-13 09:16:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have been married almost 2 years, i think what makes us happy that we love each other allot and we appreciate what both of us do. Me and my husband went Thur allot when we where dating my story is so incredible at least i think and full of love and joy. My mom didn't want me to marry my husband just because she didn't like him she said she had someone else for me. I told my mom that i was going to marry the person i loved the person that made me feel loved and happy. My mom didn't care she said i was crazy well my boyfriend now my husband talk to my parents he wanted to do everything right he ask my mom that he wanted to date me and marry me sometime we wore both (20) so yeah she told him we can only be friends nothing else. So i started dating him without my parents knowing. Well and the story goes on but part of this makes or love stronger and every day we remember how much obstacles we had because of our true love.... And we are still together and we plan to stay together for the rest of our lives..
2006-10-13 10:34:22 · answer #3 · answered by ~My 1st. Girl~ 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I have been married for 2 years, almost three in April. We communicate to the max about everything, as little as the matter may be. I am a huge believer that communication is a critical pillar for any relationship.
2006-10-13 09:09:32 · answer #4 · answered by Dre 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Nope after 13 years its going to end in 2007
2006-10-13 09:39:05 · answer #5 · answered by fortyninertu 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
happy and marriage dont exist in the same sentence.seriously the most important thing you can share is the car....
2006-10-13 09:09:50 · answer #6 · answered by barry bucknell 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
6 years and the same thing that has mad us the happiest is the single thing that we share. That would be our child.
2006-10-13 09:18:13 · answer #7 · answered by sscott12414 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, 13+ communication and sincerity (we share everything simply and easily)
2006-10-13 09:14:45 · answer #8 · answered by joe 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
YES I DO, WE HAVE BEEN MARRIED 10 YEARS NEXT WEEK, WE HAVE EXCELLENT COMMUNICATION SKILLS.
2006-10-13 09:57:52 · answer #9 · answered by nwnativeprincess 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes I will lie if a say always
2006-10-13 09:25:17 · answer #10 · answered by haki 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋