1st thing's 1st, after much thinkin n readin, i hav realised im most probably bi-curious, cos im currently dating a guy n i dont find guys repulsive or what, but i hav always wondered how it wld be like to go with a gal n never tried before...
I do hav a bf, but theres this gal i clique very well with, share alot of interests, often know what each other r thinking about during a conversation without having to spill out the whole content..always having fun while with her. i have no idea if shes totally st8, i know she does hav les friends and seems ok with the idea (dsnt go ridiculously bonkers like the anti-gays here do)
sometimes i feel like we r on the verge of exposing ourselves as les cos we get so close, yet sometimes she appears as close to other gals as well, and other times she talks about guys like any st8 wld. im really confused
i really dont know wat to do/think. i only know if i can forget about her then i wld feel less confused. how can i forget her?
2006-10-13 01:56:12 · 10 answers · asked by acnemycin 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Maybe you could open up the conversation one day by asking her if she has ever thought about being with a woman before. This is neither confirming or denying your feelings for her. It opens the door to see what her thoughts are on this without overstepping your boundaries.
2006-10-13 02:04:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok darling, what a tumultuous world we live in huh? Typically wanting what we cannot have and when we get it ~ why did we want this again. I am a straight lady, as I think I am considerably older than u (26) but I feel as tho I have a friend who feels the same way you do about myself. I also am not antigay, however the thought of being w/ a girl "icks" me out. What I am trying to get through to you is if she IS IN FACT straight you sound like u don't want to lose her as a bud. If I was in your shoes I suppose I would get drunk with her, and ask her hypothetically of course, if she ever would do a 3-some. This isn't an obvious outcome, as you can now see if she says with 2 boys or another girl and boy. Then maybe swing in with what ever you need to know. I just want to say, some things aren't meant to be, some are.Trust your gut, u sound "twitterpated" (Bambi). But be careful, you can't go back once u ask her. But it also sounds like u need to know. Good luck.
2006-10-13 02:06:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
here is the thing. it's obvious that you are attracted to her. there's nothing wrong with that. the question is, do you feel you are attracted to her in an emotional or romantic way? if that is the case, then you need to sort out those feelings first. cause it could be that you have more than a little crush on her. or it could be just the opposite. if the former is the case, then talk to your boyfriend about it. no sense in stringing him along if your true feelings are for someone else. and it's okay to be curious or wondering :)
2006-10-13 04:19:50 · answer #3 · answered by Mimi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think this is totally natural. I was curious in college and actually kissed a girl, who was also curious. To be honest, no sparks... and I'm engaged now to my BF of 3 years. However, this doesn't mean that you won't have feelings for a woman. Maybe when you feel more comfortable talking about it with her, you should bring it up? It sounds like she is pretty open to new things, so you never know!
2006-10-13 01:59:56 · answer #4 · answered by Dubs82 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
as quickly as upon a time there became this guy who became so fantastic to me, he might besides have been an angel who fell in the present day from the sky - an angel with a 5 inch tall mohawk and a great smile sent to make me snicker, tutor me to sit down down back, and enable me comprehend that i'm enjoyed....i became purely waiting to be with him for about a minutes, then he joined the army and that i in no way even have been given to assert see you later :( i think of roughly him on a daily basis and desire that he's okay yet i comprehend he in all probability is okay, because of the fact after all he's an angel...
2016-12-13 07:32:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are that close you should be able to talk about it. I'm open with my best friend that way. I tell her when she looks good and when i'm attracted to her. She doesn't mind one little bit. You have got nothing to lose here, at least you will know one way or another.
2006-10-15 04:22:31 · answer #6 · answered by kitpoodle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just make a serious relationship with sum1 (boys) just to prevent yourself being a les and do not really close with her for a while,spent your time mostly with guys to make sure u r interested with them ...r u also have interest with her in sexual-side with her?
2006-10-13 04:49:14 · answer #7 · answered by ^Daphne^ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think she's straight and she just ok with gay things.
actually you can't forget someone, the more you try to the more you'll remember her. so, if you're with her just dont think about anything else but friends ;)
2006-10-13 02:17:24 · answer #8 · answered by classy naima 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just let it go more u ignor her it will fade away memory
2006-10-13 02:02:57 · answer #9 · answered by george p 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
you are right you do need help
2006-10-13 04:50:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋