Is there anything I can do about my son's mother telling my son to call her boyfriend "Daddy"?
2006-10-13 01:29:18 · 15 answers · asked by Lori W 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My son is only 21 months old.
2006-10-13 01:35:53 · update #1
“Some boys and girls only have one mum and dad to love them…
Some have none at all.
How ‘lucky’ you are, to not only have a mum who loves you…
but ‘two dads’ who love you so true !!!”
Have a read of my poem…
Does he know I am his father?
http://uryim.blogspot.com/2006/07/does-he-know-i-am-his-father-does-he.html
I believe you will find it helpful !!!
2006-10-13 01:43:11 · answer #1 · answered by I_C_Y_U_R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm assuming you've talked to your son's mother to let her know how you feel about this? If she's not willing to change, then there's really nothing else you can do that won't cause emotional stress for your son.
I know it's hard for you to hear your son call another man "Daddy", but for your son's sake don't make a big deal of it. Just keep a close, loving relationship with your son, and explain to him in simple terms the difference between a natural daddy and a step-dad. After all, the word daddy is only a term; it's the actions of the dad that determines the true meaning.
2006-10-13 01:42:43 · answer #2 · answered by rosecitylady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can always go the route of having a discussion but it may not work. Tell her how you feel about the situation.
Most importantly spend as much time with your son and let him know who you are. Don't let him think that you don't want to be around.
My older children call my 2nd husband daddy but i didn't tell them to do so. Their father is never around and only calls them when he feels that he has to.
Make sure your son knows that you love him and that you want to be a part of his life and he will make his own decision no matter how young he is. My children were 4 and 5 when they started calling my 2nd husband daddy
2006-10-13 01:39:44 · answer #3 · answered by Nicole W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope! she can have you son call hi daddy and there is not a thing you can do about it legally. Depending on your sons age just explainto him that you are his real dad and that mom's boyfriend is kinda like a bonus dad, that you love him and nothing and noone will ever change that no matter what anyone says and tell him that often!!
2006-10-13 01:34:01 · answer #4 · answered by Dark Goddess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no not really,just be the bigger man and know you really are his father,all daddy is is a name,the world wont come to an end if your little boy calls someone else daddy,you just have to be the best father to him you can,fighting over this may confuse him,and it sounds to me like he has enough confusion going on in his life at the moment,what with mom having a new boyfriend and daddy no longer in the picture,just be strong for him and be everything you can to the litte guy,he will apreciate it in the long run,kids need stability in their lives,there is no sence in fighting a battle that will just cause him more pain and confusion
2006-10-13 01:37:56 · answer #5 · answered by onyxpryzm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope, sorry.but as long as you're in his life and treat him right, he will know the difference. its hard to find someone willing to take good care of another man's child and a child will know if he/she is being mistreated no matter what the age. he's just a lucky kid to have 2 men that would take on the world just to make sure he's ok. when he gets older he will learn the difference between the 2 of you just make sure you stay in his life. no matter what he calls the other guy you will always be his father
2006-10-13 01:41:26 · answer #6 · answered by Quociana L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever heard the saying "anyone can be a daddy." You on the other hand are his father. As long as you are ever present and active in his life it doesn't matter who he calls daddy.
2006-10-13 01:38:26 · answer #7 · answered by rqd2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, tell her that you don't appreciate the fact that she's doing that. And remind you son that their not married and you're his dad, if the child is old enough to understand that.
2006-10-13 01:32:57 · answer #8 · answered by dns618 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you cant do anything about it, just tell your son that he is his step dad and you will always be his real dad,
2006-10-13 01:32:14 · answer #9 · answered by a1_friend64 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TALK TO A JUDGE AND OR YOUR LAWYER.
SHE IS MESSED UP TEACHING A CHILD TO CALL A BOYFRIEND DAD IN A NON COMMITTED RELATIONSHIP. IT SHOWS YOUR LACK OF PARENTING SKILLS.
2006-10-13 02:52:08 · answer #10 · answered by nwnativeprincess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋