What do I do about my best friend?
I have known my best friend (girl) for 2 years now. I am a guy. We used to be so close, and did absolutely everything together. Now she has a new boyfriend, who she told me about even before they got together. She does everything with him now. When he is not free she decides to text, phone or meet me just to staisfy me, not meaning it . Basically only when convienent for her. When I try to not talk she eventually asks me to meet with her, putting more strain and hurt into me.
I have told her many times how I feel, and she does not listen and always has an answer. I have texted her recently again, saying I miss the old days, the fun and our chats, and said also that I am not trying to be awkward but only telling the truth.To give her a final chance, and she has not texted back. Then i told her again how i feel, and she was very aggresive. Now she is being really nice to me, but I fear it is a short term thing only. What do I do?
2006-10-13 00:26:13 · 10 answers · asked by Michael 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
That is difficult and sad, but normal... Friends are usually at the second place in such situations... And not only. Sometimes it is hard to understand that friendship can expire...
I have my best friend but it is not as it used to... She has a boyfriend now, and does not have time for me. However, it had started when she was single - that "something" essencial for friendship just disappeared...I'm confused cause I don't know why we do not understand each other any more. She is hurting me, does not care about my feelings and doesn't want to see me often. We do not talk, she prefers other people... But - I can still rely on her in the most important things, she is always helping me - although it is probably not so obvious as it used to be...
We talked about all that, but apparently there is nth to be done - everything has changed "naturally", I guess. Sometimes I'm close to tears thinking about our relations couple of years ago... So - I understand you but think you must accept it:(
2006-10-13 00:52:29 · answer #1 · answered by Lady G. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh dear, very awkward. You need to appreciate she's in a relationship and is now (probably) trying keep you and her boyfriend happy - pleasing two people at one time can be very difficult and she may feel like she's stuck in the middle. How would you feel if the tables were turned? It's very easy to say you would still see her as much as possible but sometimes it just doesn't happen that way. I would suggest meeting up and trying to sort things out. If you get on with her boyfriend could you not go out in a group with other friends. I think you need to learn to share her or fall out over it so good luck and be gentle with her!
2006-10-13 07:31:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like this is deeply hurting you, I may be barking up the wrong tree but it sounds like your'e feelings for her, run deeper than friendship, does part of you wish you and she were together?You must have other friends too. If you do feel more for her, then you must either tell her or just let it go and get on with your own life.I ended up marrying my best friend and we have been divorced for a couple of years now,I don't know which was worse losing my best friend or my husband.If you were true best friends she should still make time for you.Let it go for a while and just get on with your'e own life.
2006-10-13 07:39:33 · answer #3 · answered by harry sp 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear that about you and your best friend. It totally sucks. But sometimes there's nothing you can do. She might feel the need to hang out more with her bf since she is his GIRLFRIEND after all, and what would her bf think if she continues to spend as much or even more with you than she does with him?
She's treating you nice maybe cause she feels guilty of neglecting you last time or she is having a rough time with her bf. Or she might just be genuinely wanting to spend time with you. Girls are fickle-minded (most anyway) and sometimes they are not sure of what they are feeling.
I have a suggestion. Go and befriend her bf and maybe if you guys are all good friends, he won't feel so weird if sometimes she has to hang out with you alone and have a 'best friend outing' instead of always going out with him.
2006-10-13 07:31:19 · answer #4 · answered by vintageprincess72 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For one thing, you have to live with the fact that she now has a b/f and the way she is acting is completely normal. If the shoe were on the other foot, you would be the same way.
2006-10-13 07:32:31 · answer #5 · answered by Val 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This exact thing happened to me.
now i've decided that I don't need the hassel that the chick cause me, so I've kinda cut all ties with her. I mean if i see her or she were to text me I wouldn't blank her, but I don't go out of my way to stay in contact with her.
You need to cut yourself loose, and find someone who does wan tot be your friend. Your better off without her dude!
2006-10-13 07:31:05 · answer #6 · answered by mul052 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her this final chance, and if it is still just a short term thing, call it off completely. she will soon probably try to talk to you and appologise to you, blow her off for a while and give her a taste of her own medicine.
2006-10-13 07:30:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude if she keeps this up for much longer than i hate to tell you but she has moved on with her life and she wants to be a distant friend with you.....You need to just move on with your life...Follow the saying "There are more fish in the sea."
2006-10-13 07:53:45 · answer #8 · answered by bluemaster69us 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's her choice. She chooses who's her bf. So you, just find another gf
2006-10-13 07:32:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
invite her to your house and talk about everything
2006-10-13 07:29:10 · answer #10 · answered by marisapdiva 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋