about not having another baby yet....we've been trying for 3 months and everytime my period comes , i break down crying....times goin by and my daughter needs a sibling, i dont want them to be to much apart (2 1/2 years) .....what should i do to calm down ....and when is the "right" time to have sex becuase this whole ovulation perdictor and doctors visits ....have not worked....help!
2006-10-13 00:24:52 · 9 answers · asked by aepmommy 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
I know exactly how you feel. My daughter is 16 months. It took over a year to conceive her, including one miscarriage along the way, so I know it's not going to be easy for me to conceive again. However, this is the beginning of our 6th month ttc. I was so emotional that I broke down at my Dr. visit the other day. He reminded me that many women try for years without success and I at least have one healthy baby. I realize this and believe me, I thank God every single day for her. If I don't conceive again, I am content being only her mommy. Both my husband and I come from large families, so we hope our daughter will have a sibling. We would also like them to be close in age. Just because we have been blessed once, does that mean I'm selfish to want another child so bad? I don't think that's what my Dr. was trying to say, I think he was just trying to put things in perspective for me. I have decided to try to change my outlook on it. Instead of putting so much pressure on myself to get pregnant, I'm just enjoying my family. When it happens, it happens and if it doesn't...well then, I guess we'll just have more love to give our daughter. If you put so much emphasis on ttc, you may miss out on the attention your daughter needs. They grow up so fast. Enjoy every minute of her. I hope you do conceive again. Good luck!
2006-10-13 02:47:36 · answer #1 · answered by Melissa B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Isn't it frustrating when you are stressing about trying to conceive and everyone keeps telling you to just relax. Like it is that easy!
Okay, three months seems like forever when you really want to have a baby. But, even if you are perfectly healthy and do everything right, you still only have a 25% chance of getting pregnant any given month. Which means that technically it should take you another month.
Keep doing what you are doing. Chart your temps and/or do ovulation predictor kits. But, busy yourself with other things. Take a family trip, get a massage, have a party...anything to keep you distracted.
Also know that you are not alone. You have your husband to talk to and there are some great support networks out there. Try the message boards at http://www.ivillage.com.
If you don't have a positive result in the next 3-9 months, see your doctor to make sure you are ovulating and your tubes aren't blocked.
Best of luck to you!
2006-10-13 08:31:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep in mind that 3 months isn't even very long. Dr.'s don't even consider you as having a problem until you've been trying for a year or two. Instead of relying on a calendar and test kits, just let sex be spontaneous and fun. You don't want it to turn into a chore. Talk to a counselor about why you are getting so upset each month, there might be an underlying issue. And there is no magic number for the amount of years you need between each child. My daughter is almost 7 and we still haven't tried for our second child yet. It will be okay, even if your kids are 3 or 4 or even more years apart they will still be close and love each other.
2006-10-13 07:32:10 · answer #3 · answered by nimo22 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't stress out so much 3 months is not that long to try. Don't think about it so much. I'm sorry that you feel to break down and cry sometimes when I get mine I want to cry to. But I heard that the Best way to go are the ovulation tests by clear blue and easy. They will tell you when your about to ovulate and you can have sex that day and the day after. maybe you guys need to work on some positioning my advice that has been given to me. Is lie down on your back knee's to chest and have sex keep lying down when your done for 15 minutes to keep the c-m Inside you. on both of those days if you do it girl on top the c-m comes right out and gives you no chance.
2006-10-13 07:38:46 · answer #4 · answered by emma's mom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know the proper answer to this but I would say think positive and you asked 'when is the "right" time to have sex?' well I would say whenever you can. basically all the time so you have more chance of conceiving. =) Good luck! <3
2006-10-13 12:39:17 · answer #5 · answered by Dee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have five children, so I know what to do---First, be happy. A baby is a miracle and a gift, Patience in necessary. Second, 12 to 13 days after your first cycle day, FU*K like rabbits every chance you get, and if it's a boy, name it after me- Daniel- good luck.......
and make sure your still in love, that makes a difference, romance!
2006-10-13 07:33:21 · answer #6 · answered by 6ft5inallman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do not stress or u can make the baby a stress head!!!
take olive leaf extract daily and do not eat yeast bread
take evening primrose oil with fish oil
if these things dont work u should consult a homeopath, get allergy tests or have ur hair analysed
2006-10-13 07:32:31 · answer #7 · answered by jojo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
relax , forget ur worries, do yoga or exercise. Go to some nature places like seashores, islands etc.. Soon u will get a baby boy wish u all the best
2006-10-13 10:53:41 · answer #8 · answered by Babloo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We've been trying since last December to have our first child. Three months isn't that bad, keep trying, it'll happen! Good luck!
2006-10-13 09:07:05 · answer #9 · answered by Cookie On My Mind 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋