i have just found out that i am the other women to my boyfrien. we have been together around 8 months and i thought we were pretty serious. . . have talked of marriage and moving in together. now i have been told that he has been with this other women nearly 2 years! what do i do and how do i approach him?
2006-10-13 00:08:09 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Tell him you know everything, dont listen to any excuses and get out of there fast!!
2006-10-13 00:10:23 · answer #1 · answered by janetlouise24 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like the foundation that the two of you were setting has major cracks in it! The foundation that one lays from the time you meet, is the ground floor for a long lasting relationship. Since the two of you were discussing your future together, that has to make you wonder how much was bogus and how much was facts. Before you approach him be 200 percent sure that your resources were the honest truths. If it pans out and he has been deceiving you, then you confront him head on. He is going to try and sell you a bunch of gump. Be prepared mentally shield your heart as much as you can. Your heart can get in the way of good judgment. Base your decision on truths and common sense of logic. Protect "you" now from the man he may turn out to be. This will save you a lot of heart ache in the future. I hope you a "happy" out come.
2006-10-13 00:28:07 · answer #2 · answered by smplyme132 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run away as fast as you can from this cheating bum! If he is doing this to her, he WILL do it to YOU! I'm sorry you wasted 8 months on him, but you have plenty of time to find someone new. He is a no-good bum and you need to kick him to the curb. Approach him? Next time you see him, tell him you feel like contacting his other woman and telling her everything, and that he is a disgusting pig who needs to live in the gutter where he belongs! You are so much better than that, and there are plenty of men out there, good men, that you don't have to share with anyone. Good luck to you sweetie.
2006-10-13 00:13:47 · answer #3 · answered by Barbara W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are absolutely sure about the information then end the relationship immediately. Even if he gave up the other woman would you ever believe what he says in the future. Feel fortunate that you found out before you married or had kids. Learn from this relationship!
2006-10-13 01:05:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he could keep this from you for 8 months, what else is he keeping from you?
It's hard to take but you definitely need to leave him ,move on and find somebody else, and count yourself lucky that you've escaped from marrying this man! If he was lying to you about that, how could you ever have trusted him?
You don't need to approach him, the only thing you need to do is cut him out of your life. Good luck x
2006-10-13 01:00:03 · answer #5 · answered by woo hoo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out of it now.!
I have been with my b/f 3 years in nov and thought he was cheating on me - after a bit of digging it was just some t**t after my man - if I had ever found out where she lived there would of been trouble! Luckily for me - my man stayed faithful despite her over the top flirting and texting. He didn't tell me cos he thought it would upset me.
Honestly - if he's done it once - he will do it again.!
2006-10-13 01:34:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is what you should expect if you have sex before marriage. The old tradational style of marry & then sex would do a lot of good to the society but unfortunately times are changing and values are changing and naturally people have to dance for their music Dump him and get married to somebody.
2006-10-13 00:20:37 · answer #7 · answered by ssmindia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MEN.....wanting their cake and eat it too. hmmmm I would like more to do confrontational with this lying bassTURD. Do you know the other woman...no where she lives? If you do....the two of you need to talk and meet and plot.....The key in confrontation and the offensive/defense you'll both play---will have the ultimate kick back.......
You arrange to meet the other woman...say nothing and don't elude to your knowledge to the MAN.......After meeting the other woman both of you compare notes...and then catch the lying player at his own game. One of you arrange to meet him somewhere or even at either one of your homes....promise him the booty call of the century-----TO HIS surprize you'll both be there....catch the liar at his own game.
He's slick...and of course he'll deny knowing one of you!!! Maybe a photo album down the old memory lane ...on display from both of you will enlighten his memory!
I would choke this guys chicken until it dies!
2006-10-13 00:19:50 · answer #8 · answered by aunt_beeaa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
run like the wind. He is playing you both. you would never be able to trust a man like him. Thia shows that you must investigate anyone you plan on having any kind of relationship with.There are a lot of dogs out there. Men and woman
2006-10-13 00:13:40 · answer #9 · answered by ratoniluna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get angry. Send him packing.
Besides, if he cheats on her doesn't it stand to reason he'll cheat on you? Uh oh, proved that already....Since he's cheating on her with you then he's obviously cheating on you with her!
As for approaching him about it, hang on to that anger to help get you through what needs to be done and said, then pack up whatever "stuff" of his in your home and deliver it to him at work with a note saying "Your busted. Don't darken my door step again, don't call me and if you EVER come near me again I'll tell her what kind of a low-life slug you really are." Then walk away and lick your wounds in private for a few days, then get on with living life to the fullest. Don't waste anymore time on the loser.
2006-10-13 00:22:46 · answer #10 · answered by Shadow Dancer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go see him when he is with this other women, make a big scene about how much of a cheat he is, say you didn`t know he was with her whilst being with you, but when you did find out you kicked him to the curb hopefully she will do the same. try and back it up with dates and times and if possible any pictures then he won`t be able to worm his way out of it.
2006-10-13 01:44:39 · answer #11 · answered by shayney boy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋