Why should I see a psychologist?

Question

I have a lot of anger inside me, mostly towards my mother. I also have a terminally ill father, and that makes me angry and sad because he doesn't know how to express his feelings and insteads yells at me and my mother a lot, which causes me to yell back at him and act really bad towards me because I can't take him yelling at us and calling us bad names. I don't have any friends because I don't know how to build relationships. I have thoughts of my own death, but don't think I could ever actually do the deed. I think I just wish I could stop existing so I wouldn't have to face this life and all its misery. My mother says I should see a psychologist, but I think she's the one that should see one. I hate her, because she always said I should go see one, every since I was about 9, 10 years ago. I have a stigma about psychologists, that they're for crazy people. I know it's not true, but I can't help it... how would they help?

What if I don't have any close friends that I can confide this stuff in?

Answer 1

ALL of you should see SOMEONE. Why go? So you can learn how to not let this eat you from the inside like a cancer for one. It sounds like NO ONE has any coping skills. Look, it's no fun going through life unhappy( been there , done that). Change is scary, I'll take being happy anytime over being miserable. When your tired of being unhappy, please find someone to talk too.
GOOD LUCK!!

Answer 2

You poor thing!!!
It sounds like your mother is a control freak.
You are 19?
That is old enough to GET OUT!!
I don't think there is anything wrong with you.

Get a good job. Even if it is cleaning motel rooms or stocking shelves at Walmart or a grocery store. "There is always work for the working man!! (or girl)"

You CAN find a job. Make up your mind that you want to work and be a GOOD employee. You can make yourself famous and well liked and even loved, by being a hard worker, and honest and decent. You've got it! You can do it, girl!
Go to the State Employment agency. They will help you find a job.

Move out of that house the minute you can. If you don't have any money now, work and save it up. Concentrate on earning and saving money. Your goal - TO GET OUT!

You will make friends once you are out on your own. You will see! You are a good person, but you don't have any confidence. If you have a job and your own place, you will be a confident woman. Your parents will respect you. You will respect yourself!.

I am sorry about your dad. I know it hurts you to have him yelling, etc when he is sick, but at least you understand. That is a lot more than a lot of people would do.

As far as your mother, you won't hate her after you can get away from her. And she can NOT yell at you then.

Be your own person. Take a deep breath and set your goal and DO IT! You will be so surprised at how GREAT you feel when you are working hard and earning your own money! Good luck to you in your new life!!

Answer 3

Sub conciously you have decided that you do need to see a shrink when you have started to seriously consider doing so. The urge to see one would not be there otherwise. So by the very thought you have answered yourself and all you are really looking for is confirmation. Which again you have from having the urge itself. Do your research before comitting to one. It's nice to shop around as each will have a style. What works for you will be different but if you pick one that does nothing but agree with you then how are you helping yourself?

Go see one. There's no shame in it. At worst you waste some money. The potential gains are significant.

As for crazy people. That's all a matter or relitivity. By deffinition we are all insane. Any person if examined closely enough would reveal tendancies and or full blown conditions. It's really a matter of developing coping mechanisms. That is the primary job of a shrink. Today everybody visits them. Atheletes visit them, actors, musicians, authors, politicians, the whole gambit of society which can afford to see one often does. Some even specialize in marriage related counseling. By court order all divorcees in Texas who have children must take a course from one about the impact of divorce on children.

In short you'll have lots of company. In short sometimes medications can help and for people with severe disorders they are extremely necessary. For somebody like you most likely they can be a crutch to get thru a short stretch. The worst of it. The key thing you get from a good shrink will be coping help. How to not allow your individual issues to prevent you from being fully functional and enjoying life as much as possible given your specific circumstances. Everybody has issues. There is not a person out there that doesn't. When the stress reachs a certain point or certain events wind up being one straw too many everybody needs a hand here or there coping. Friends, family, shrinks, self medication are a few of the common ways to deal with it.

So give seeing a few shrinks a try until you find one that actually helps or the need has passed.

Good luck.

Answer 4

Psychologists/psychiatrists help in giving you just a
way of looking at the problem in a different manner
than what you are currently looking at !
say for instance your problem. Instead of thinking your
parents are not helping you out in life ; thinking that you
are fortunate being to get an oppertunity to parent your
parents will be the best place to start and make all happy
which will also give you a good amount of experience in life
What all matters and the most costiliest thing which cannot
be bought directly is experience !

As for building relationships ... there is no need AFAIK ... they
get built automatically

All that i have said above is just my perspective and i am sorry
if i am offending you in any manner whatsoever.

Answer 5

Seeing a psychologist is a good idea. They can help you, but often it is expensive, and sometimes you may feel like they aren't doing anything, because they've never been in your shoes. Sometimes you just need a good friend to talk to.

Currently I am running a forum for people who just need someone to talk to about their problems, and you're more than welcome to come and have a chat if you ever feel like you just need someone to b*tch at and talka bout your problems. I'm not a psychologist by any means, but my service is confidential, and you don't have to reveal your name or ID if you don't want to.

If you plan on using the forum a lot, then I'd suggest making an ID, but you don't have to.

Whatever you decide, I am someone that is willing to hear you out, and I won't judge you, no matter what your problem. I am a neutral and unbiased person aiming to make the lives of others marginally more bearable.

You may contact me at [e-mail] , or visit my forum at http://www.phpbbserver.com/theconfidant/ if you wish for many conversations/answers.

I hope you feel better soon at any rate.

Answer 6

Any body , who has some self awareness, is himself the best judge about what he is , and how he is...
At the best a good true friend, or any person whom this person can trust , may be able to help or suggest as to how others are better handled with some changes within self !
A good psychiatrist would try to do the same thing, but for some charges, and ensuring that you continue to need him.. !
So, try to find some good friend who can be trusted... give him the freedom to tell you frankly what alternatives would work, what changes within self would improve relationships etc...
a better choice.

Answer 7

This sounds like depression to me. Your doctor can start you on anti-depressants that increase the endorphins which will level out your thinking. You live in a zoo! I went through my dad's illness and death, too, and it's the most stressful thing I have ever been through. Your mother and you are fighting because you are close to each other, and both have tremendous worries. See your doctor and also see (since you are 19) about taking on another place to live. This will drive you insane living there. My heart goes out to you. Try to GET AWAY!

Answer 8

I agree with Sleepwalk. You should see one. A psychologist is diffirent from a psychiatrist. But both treats mental problems. Your hatred maybe has something to do with your rearing. To see one doesn't mean your crazy but you need to change and discover who you really are. It will answer all your questions regarding your hatred, why your father shouted at you and many more else. I think your mom loves you and wanted you to be going straight. Better see one then you'll see it will improve quality life and your relationship with your family. It doesn't mean your crazy.

Answer 9

Just talk 2 a close friend 1st b4 seeing a psychologist...

Answer 10

psychologist are just people who have opinions like the rest of us. they need a paycheque and don't want to work real jobs instead just want to tell you wut to do. as for relationships it takes one step at a time. try and learn from your mistakes and grow from them. remember if you make a mistake it is ok cause we all do, just try and not make it again and learn from it. mistakes come in all shapes and sizes. Lots of us have anger inside of us and messes us up. the psychologist is just someone who get's paid lots cause they went to school and have a piece of paper on the wall but remember they still have to eat sleep and crap like the rest of us and they too have problems in life that they haven't resolved, after all they are human too. Wut you need to learn is not every problem in life is yours to start with and you are not the cause of it all. learn to accept your self and deal with wut you can and try going to a chat room and just talk to others and you will find you really are ok and someone does like you. also you will see if you open your eyes there are others out there messed up in life that maybe you can help by being their friend too