whats wrong with teenagers getting pregnant? aslong as there not 13 or something. if there over the legal age i dont see what is wrong with it aslong as they are ready and surely thats for them to decide. i mean whats wrong with an 18 year old getting pregnant ? nothin so why is it people think bad of her. and also isnt our purpose to reproduce and why is it that now days women are more concerened about haveing a career instead of raising a child?
2006-10-12 23:45:02 · 46 answers · asked by mummy to 3 miracles 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
? i disagree with what you say i am 16 and i can cook most things from scratch including roast dinners.
2006-10-12 23:52:10 · update #1
wired3157...
i wasnt saying that because i can cook it means i could look after a child its just that 1 person was saying how most 18 year olds cant cook and i was just using me as an example that teenagers can cook. but everything else you said was good i agree with what you have said thanx
2006-10-13 01:48:06 · update #2
mesmerize...
i wasnt sayin that i am ready for a kid i was just asking a general question i did NOT ask it to be told how shi i am at spelling IS IT MY FAULT THAT NO MATTER HOW HARD I HAVE TRIED ALL MY LIFE TO OVERCOME THIS I HAVE ALWAYS HAD PROBLEMS WITH IT!!!!! I THINK YOU ARE THE ONE WHO NEEDS SOME F**KING LESSONS IN MANNER!!!!!!!!!! AND I TATALLY DISAGREE WITH WHAT YOU HAVE SAID AND I SURE HOPE YOU DONT BRING ANY KIDS YOU HAVE UP WITH THE SAME ATTITUDE AS YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-10-13 01:53:06 · update #3
goldphoen...
i also disagree with girls being pregnant at 13 but i am saying why is it older teenagers get critasized
2006-10-13 02:04:26 · update #4
T_claire
wow you sound realy sensible by the way i am in college and i dont live with my parents my dad is a wife beating child beating b*****d and my mum kicked me out. but make sure you keep that good head of yours.
2006-10-13 02:07:32 · update #5
I was pregnant when i was 15, and gave birth to my little boy when i was 16. I thought having a baby would be fairly easy. I had no-one to help me out with my little boy, so i couldn't just palm him off with a babysitter. I brought him up by myself, and it was such hard work. I wasn't emotionally or financially ready for a baby. I was still immature when i was pregnant. As soon as my baby was placed in my arms, i didn't know what to do, and i was scared. Pushing a buggy down the street should be a proud moment for any mum, but not me. People would stare and point as they saw the "teenage mum". I was embarrased. It took a while for me to not care about what anyone else thought. I had a baby at a young age, but i loved him to bits and would do anything for him. My boy is now 5 and i have another boy who is now 3. I am a very proud mum to both of them and i love them both to bits. But if anyone asked me if they should start a family at a young age, i would have to say no. Teenagers should be teenagers and have fun and start a career. If i could have done things different i would have, i would have waited till i had lived my life a little. I don't regret having my boys in the slightest, but i lost all the rest of my teenage years, i had to change from a teenager to an adult overnight, and it wasn't easy!
2006-10-13 05:42:39 · answer #1 · answered by laura2804uk 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
OK, you say what's wrong? Can a teenager be a good mom and make it? Yes. . . if
-she is financially secure (it costs between $ 180-250,000.00 to raise a child until its 18. . . that's bare minimum)
-she is emotionally responsible to take care of the child at all hours without complaining. . . including diapering, feeding, changing, etc.
-she is psychologically sound and mature enough to withstand the strange looks, the questions, and the hypocrisy of society due to the fact she HAS a child of her own
-she has completed a GOOD education (high school and started on college while the baby is young)
-she is spiritually mature, because she is going to need God to help her get through ALL of the challenges both now and in the future.
-she has a husband (not boyfriend) who is by her side supporting her and the child
If...she meets the above criteria. . . why not indeed?
You have to understand, the average girl gets pregnant with little or no financial resources (which means that EVERYONE ELSE is paying for her little rugrat) and is on welfare.
She has NO male support because he is gone. . . he got sex (that's what he wanted) but he wants no part of a child
She has no education to speak of (she didn't graduate high school even) and as a result is almost unemployable (except at McDonalds or some other fast food joint).
She has very little sense of responsibility and wants her family or someone else to wake up in the middle of the night to take care of the child (i.e. her mother/father, aunt/uncle or whoever else she is living with).
She has the psychological maturity of a 12 yr old
She has NO spiritual maturity (mores the pity here because the one thing she REALLY needs she doesn't have).
Almost ANYONE can reproduce but that does NOT make it the right thing to do. Any guy can masturbate inside a girl (no talent there). Most girls can get pregnant without trying too hard.
MOST KIDS BORN OUTSIDE OF MARRIAGE END UP ABUSED EMOTIONALLY, PSYCHOLOGICALLY, SPIRITUALLY, PHYSICALLY OR SEXUALLY.
Am I prejudiced in this area. . . you bet. I am the parent of an emotionally abused adopted girl (actually 2).
2006-10-13 04:00:22 · answer #2 · answered by snddupree 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just because you can cook doesn't mean you can support a child...
There is nothing wrong with an 18+ getting preg, it's when they whine and complain about it....if you aren't ready to face what could happen then you shouldn't be doing the deed.
Not all women would rather have a career then a child. I would give anything to be a stay at home mom...but that time hasn't come yet. Growing up that was my dream job, that is what I wanted to be when I was older. Now I'm older and I'm just playing the waiting game. I wanted to make sure when I had a child or more that I would be able to care for them my entire life and be able to support them.
2006-10-12 23:58:47 · answer #3 · answered by wired31578 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Do I think it is just society that says it is morally wrong to have a baby at such a young age? No, I do not. The reproduction process is actually NOT on your side as the teenage body is not fully developed and can be greatly harmed by childbirth. You seem to have read about women getting pregnant at such young ages hundreds of years ago but seem to have skipped all of the women that died of complications...doesn't it kind of connect in your mind at some point that there's a correlation? The average lifespan is now at least 70 years old, making it pointless to have children at such a young age. People reproduced at young ages back then because the lifespan was pathetic and men were extremely dedicated to having their last names passed on so it was necessary to have children at a young age. Once again, since the average lifespan is now 70, what is the purpose of rushing? Do I think it is morally wrong for teenagers to get pregnant? To the fullest.
2016-05-21 22:28:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
18 is a legal adult so if that person is financialy set and can take care of the baby the that doesnt seem to be a problem with me. My problem is the kids under the age of 18, 13 and 14 year olds arent of legal age to work so how would they suppoert the kid? they would have to go on welfare which means I and everyone else who is a taxpayer would be supporting the baby along with the grandparents!!! When teens are of legal age to work how in the heck are they to balance highschool, a part time job and take care of a baby, what if the baby gets sick how would you go to school or work youd have to loose pay because youd be home taking care of your sick child and youll be racking up abscenses in school because your home with the baby. Im sorry to say but kids should be kids and not have to deal with that type of responsibility until they are older. Im 33 had my 1st kid when I was 21 and its hard for an adult ecspeacially a single parent I can only imagine what it would be like for a single parent who is under the age of 18, most teen boys wont hang around when there girlfriend is pregnant
2006-10-13 03:39:15 · answer #5 · answered by Christina B 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think it's the society that we live in. Most people think that you need to go to college first, then have kids to give them the best start in life. I had my son at 19 and my daughter at 20 so I think as long as the woman is mature enough to handle the responsibilities it's okay. Heck, I'm more responisble than alot of 30 and 40 year old women that I know. I'm currently attending college and my husband works full time and pays all the bills. Personally I'm happy that I decided to have my kids first, I love them so much and I really would rather have them now than be putting kids through college when I'm ready to retire.
A few points I would like to make. The only thing the state pays for is college, and I think I at least deserve that. We pay taxes too so it's more like they're just giving back money we've already paid in. Also I CAN cook and YES I can pay for it to the lady who has never met an 18 year old who can't cook an omelet. I make very healthy homemade meals for my husband and kids. Some people are way too judgmental.
2006-10-13 02:24:05 · answer #6 · answered by dolly 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Reason #1 Most teenagers do not support themselves financially. So obviously they cannot support a baby.
#2 They are not yet emotionally mature , they cannot control their own lives yet.
#3They probably do not yet have their educational requirements to graduate, and its hard enough to finish school without taking care of a child too.
#4 College is pretty much out of the question after high school, and how many GOOD paying jobs are there without a degree
#5 Socialization is null IF you are a good parent then parties, road trips etc are not gonna happen and some day say when you are 35 you are gonna spread your wings and thats pretty much a sad thing to watch
#6 a child deserves a parent who can give them security and usually welfare does not provide a steady income
I could go on and on but you probably get my point.
You can cook a roast BUT can you buy one.
2006-10-12 23:53:27 · answer #7 · answered by debra_har 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I got pregnant young infact 18 to boot. I love my two kids dearly, but have missed out on many things in life.
There is nothing wrong with it, but this is a responsibility for the rest of your life - trust me your feelings will change as you get older. many nights were spent with a fussy baby, while my friends were out. I bought diapers and they bought more fun stuff. Also I needed to get a job to support my children.
Nothing is wrong and a mom is a great feeling to be - I just wish I would have waited a few years more to make that big of a commitment.
No it's not our purpose to reproduce - having a child is a gift!
Too many people just get pregnant and deglect their kids ( not saying that your like this) and look at those who can't get pregnant at all.
Life is a beautiful gift - children are a gift - more people should treat them that way. I don't think bad of your friend at all - just wish you all the best of luck
2006-10-13 03:43:15 · answer #8 · answered by che_mar_cody 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it's done for the right reasons there shouldn't be a problem (obviously not when you're under 16/17 or so as your body is not as suited to having children and they may not be so healthy) . I guess people are still holding to the idea that having children young means you've thrown your life away (not having had children i can't state whether this is true or not!). However i do know a girl who's 20 and wants to have a baby just because she can't decide what to do as a career and is using it as a (perceived) escape from responsibility (boy will she find out!).
2006-10-12 23:50:47 · answer #9 · answered by Nikita21 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Because you should be married even though that's not always the case. You should be able to support yourself and just because you can cook from scratch doesn't make you fit to be a parent. When the child is crying and will not stop what do you do. Then there are times when you want to go out with your friends and that child can't go and they may end up not asking you to go cause you have extra baggage. Those are some things to think about
2006-10-13 02:36:38 · answer #10 · answered by drea g 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋