Why is it that music you write yourself sounds better to you than it does to others?

Question

I know that everyone is different and that its all a matter of opinion but why should I think that the music I write sounds so good, whereas most other people my think its rubbish or just ok at best? Also do you think that there is at least 1 person in the world who would like my music as much as or even more than myself, even though the vast majority think its rubbish?

This question is not about wheather or not the music i write is good or not, for that is just a matter of opinion, it is more about the mental side of why we like music.

Im not sure if this question makes much sense at all, if it doesnt make any sense to you feel free not to answer

Answer 1

Your question is sensible and intelligent. There are several possible reasons.

1. You may not be very good at it.

2. You may be biased.

3. New music is an acquired taste. For example, if all you know is classical and you listen to some blues for the first time you might not like it at first, but if you persist you will almost certainly find that you like some blues as you get used to it. That is why a new record sells much better if it is plugged heavily on radio first. Because you have put a lot of work into creating your music you are more used to it than someone listening to it for the first time.

4. Most people, especially younger people are so used to studio produced music that has a professionally created backing (often with several musical instruments) that they find it difficult to appreciate real music and they think (quite wrongly) that it is not very good just because it is not world class.

5. Your music may be of a different genre than what your listeners are used to or prefer.

6. What many people fail to realise is that many world famous musicians went through phases of not being appreciated.

Answer 2

I've always found that the music I compose is the best ever written because it completely expresses everything I feel about a particular thing. That's the point as no two people would ever see the same event exactly the same. If they wrote music to express their feelings, it would be from their perspective and may mean nothing to anyone else. You're lucky if you get some overlap between shared emotions with other people. I suppose that's why love songs and songs that explore common feelings are so popular as more people can relate their own events to them. Anyway, my music is the best ever written for me and I feel sorry for people that don't have that method of expression.

Answer 3

For me it sounds ok, until the next day when I listen to it(Not in all cases). Then I hear it how others did the day before. It is got to be linked to 'getting use to it' 'feeling' or something. Kind of like when you look around your room trying to find something and cant see it, but some one who is not use to your room can find it right away, right before your very eyes. I would think the two are very similiar. I think I uderstand what you are driving at, just wish I had an answer. Maybe |I have given you a little more data, and you might find the answer for us all to learn from

Answer 4

Your question makes a lot of sense to me. There may be lots of factors involved. Most important (I think) is repitition. Some times you hear a catchy song and like it immediately. Usually you must hear it several times and it "grows on you." There is a difference. The first time you hear a song it is not already in memory. The second of later times you hear it, it is playing a song in memory. I think that is why so many of us have favorite songs. They are playing our memories, pleasant memories.

For your songs to be judged by others meaningfully, they should be heard many times over a period of time. If someone looks forward to them, you have a new fan. Unfortunately many song writers do not get a fair hearing because there is so much competition for air time. A song must be professionally produced to select instrumentation, musicians, arrangements (even head arrangements), studio time, balance and mixing (and even adding hooks that make the song stand out) in order to be presented at its best. People often like one arrangement but not another. Your "song" is actually raw material for other musicians. Everyone has their own tastes which may be very narrow. That should not reflect on your work.

When you listen to your own song you may also hear (imagine) its full potential. I taught myself chord piano to write songs and created quite a few. But I learned that there were about 60,000 new songs copywrited each year (and that is likely a drop in the bucket of all the songs written!) and decided to play other peoples songs as a hobby. No one is waiting for my next song.

I personally know several very good song writers who have produced outstanding CD's of original music (several produced in my own basement studio) and they perform them live with their bands. Singer/songwriter/performers probably have the best opportunity to be discovered. But there is no guarantee. Hope to hear your songs some day. Good luck.

Answer 5

When you do anything creative, you make what you like. So, it is bound to sound/look/smell/feel/taste good to you. Now, I love the curries I make but no-one else does, mainly because I put about 50 chillis in it. But, I am sure, that maybe somewhere in Swaziland or Liechtenstein or Myanmar, there is a smart and good-looking woman who would just love my curries. Where is she?

Answer 6

Music comes from understanding and thought of yourself. If people don't like it or understand it they have not experienced certain things you have. If you right a sad song about a relationship or something that touched your heart then maybe other people would have had the same thing happen to them so they then like it, sometimes enough to buy it

Answer 7

You're probably biased towards your music regardless of whether it's good or not. You wrote it and its part of you so you're bound to like it even if it is rubbish.

Answer 8

whilst 10 human beings attempt to particular an identical undertaking it is going to in all probability comeout otherwise because of the fact every1 expresses themselves diverse, there might desire to be comparable words yet its nonetheless diverse, in case you prefer songs to sound thoroughly diverse then no one will like music because of the fact no you are able to truly relate to it, desire this help

Answer 9

yes it does make sense. the fact is everyone wants there stuff to be good. we all want to tmpress other people. so it would make sense that you think your songs are good when others don't. im not saying ur songs are bad, im just saying its our common nature as humans

Answer 10

It's not just music, it can be anything we 'create'! Artistic creations are like our 'babies', they may be ugly to others, but to us they're beautiful! It can be difficult to be objectively critical of something containing so much of oneself.