I am a 31 year old disabled male and find it difficult to meet girls as they judge you by your crutches
2006-10-12 23:14:20 · 13 answers · asked by noddy200232 2 in Health ➔ Men's Health
There are worse things to be judged by
2006-10-12 23:18:20 · answer #1 · answered by Harrison N 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The girls who judge you by your crutches are also judging others by the things that make them different too - be it dress sense, height, weight, skin colour etc etc. They are not the ones you would want to be with anyway. Perhaps there is some interest you have where you could join a group of like minded people? I know it can be hard to do, but once you are in a position where people can get to know you and not just your appearance, then you are going to be in with a far better chance.
My son has mobility problems and although he is only young now, some of the things he has to cope with are quite unacceptable in general society. The thing is, he has such a fantastic character. I dont know whether that comes from having to cope with other things, or whether its coincidence. Once people get over themselves and get to know him, they love him generally - tho he can be a difficult so and so too (cant think why!!).
This is not about him tho - it is about you. I just wanted to let you know I had an inkling of what you are talking about. I really think you must get involved with a group of people - something that interests you or something new. Even if you are not sure, once you try something you may be suprised. That is the route to meeting new people these days - ones who want to talk and have friendships and good relationships with others.
Good luck and make sure you put your personality to the fore. (also, if I were to judge you by your crutches, I would think here is someone interesting, with diff experiences than my own who is no doubt strong of character and I would at the very least be interested to talk with you. Maybe you are looking at the wrong girls???)
2006-10-12 23:28:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, you meet women the same way you would if you were not disabled. You get out there and live your life, you pursue your interests and when you encounter a woman who interests you, you screw up your courage and you ask her out. If she turns you down, it doesn't automatically mean she is judging you by your crutches, it could mean she doesn't like you that way.
There are lots of disabled men with wives and girlfreinds. Certainly enough to deny your assertion that they judge you by your disability.
Man, you are just going thru a period of self doubt. That happens to every guy regardless of ability. If it weren't your crutches it would be that bald spot or the funny way you say 'hippopotamus'.
Keep trying, man. It's the only game in town.
2006-10-14 17:36:11 · answer #3 · answered by glenbarrington 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is hard but maybe you are meeting the wrong kinds of women - OR - you assume that women will judge you and so take your own insecurities into the conversation and then they do judge you! forget about the crutches - how many men do you know that need emotional crutches?! just have a good time with your mates and you will meet the right person.
good luck!
2006-10-12 23:17:33 · answer #4 · answered by Empress 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem like a nice guy,if you have friends go out with them,if not there are lots of clubs for the disabled if you would like to join one of them.The trouble is they cover a multitude of disabilities and they can be more severe than the disability you have.I'm sure at the end of the day your personality will bring the right person to you.Good luck.
2006-10-12 23:31:15 · answer #5 · answered by animalwatch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have the same problem because im also large in the crutch department, all women i meet are married and just want sex and id like a proper relationship, hope you find some1 soon
2006-10-14 07:43:53 · answer #6 · answered by beany 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try dating sites just put in your personal message that you have a disabliity but you don't want them to treat you different because of it.
Speed dating is also another option.
Good luck with you lady search!
Hope you find true love and happiness!
Best Wishes!
Jay
2006-10-15 10:22:55 · answer #7 · answered by Spikey_Jay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you ever tried going out with a disabled girl/ i am female walk with a stick and stone deaf i have no problem keeping the able bodied men at bay
2006-10-15 04:17:42 · answer #8 · answered by mags4u1st 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi their i am disabled and i don't let it worry me i am older then you. I'm marred but when i go out shopping the woman chat me up and i went out with my doughtier one night and i was still getting chatted up your never to disabled to get a woman.so come on pick your self up and get out their.anyway good luck and good hunting.PS look at my profile and you will See how disabled i am but i get on with life.
2006-10-12 23:53:38 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you meet girl's on your wheelchair (if you have one). women are easy. if any type of bloke has the confidence to talk to a girl, she will be interested because he's showing his social behaviour's. which women find attractive. it's attitude that get's a girl's attention
2006-10-12 23:20:06 · answer #10 · answered by russellhamuk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋