She will just do it in her pants, just a bit at a time about 2 or 3 times per day, I have tried everything the health visitor has suggested but still does not work, I don't get cross with her as I know that would make the situation worse. She has no problem at all with having a wee in potty and toilet, I do keep askig her why she doesn't do the other but just says "I don't know I just don't want to". Has anyone any suggestions as I woujld be very grateful. She starts school full-time in January and I am worried that the other children will pick on her and I don't want this to happen.
2006-10-12 23:09:41 · 20 answers · asked by carolebolwell 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
firstly don't scare the child with any of the silly remarks that have been made so far. your child already has a fear of going to the toilet, don't make it a big issue. when you go to the toilet take her with you. show her what you've done and praise yourself. tell her when shes big and clever like mummy she'll do that too. shes probably holding herself so try a dose stool softener such a lactose in morning drink. when she goes to school if there is still a problem there speak to your receptionist teacher. who will NOT run and scream for your immediate attention, but perhaps have a lesson about "poo". this can also be suggested at the playgroup she attends. this helped my son as he was slow going to the toilet he is now 5 and we have no problems. time is not an issue patience is
2006-10-13 06:50:01 · answer #1 · answered by Victoria H 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My daughter was exactly the same - she had her first poo on the toilet the night before she started nursey!!
I also tried everything the health visitor suggested and nothing worked - in the end, I bought a little stool and sat on it while holding her hand and reading or singing. We used to sing a horrible song from South Park called Mr Hanky the Christmas poo (obviously she NEVER watched South Park!!) and really made a big fuss when she eventually went!!
Stickers are usually a good incentive for kids too with the promise of a little present after a certain number of stickers has been reached.
She will get there - its really frustrating and I know how you feel.
Once my daughter had done it once, we never had a problem...
Good Luck
2006-10-13 02:24:53 · answer #2 · answered by Trillyp 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it very scary for a childe to do a poo in a potty to start with because the have never noticed that sensation of actually pasing somthing before,they have always had the security of a nappy take her in the toilet with you let ner know she will be ok to poo in the toilet,make a big thing of praising her when she goes, make a sticker chart tell her she will get a reward if she goes on the potty,just keep it up so she will feel confident,,good luck, by the way this is very comon,
2006-10-13 22:00:26 · answer #3 · answered by twinsters 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son is 5. He has never liked doing a pooh in the toilet or potty because he said he doesn't like the way it feels when it falls away from him. I didn't think to much about it at first but when he started doing little poohs in his pants and seemed completely unable to stop himself I took him to the doctors. They felt his tummy and he had a mass of pooh which had gone so solid, it had blocked his upper and lower bowel to the point that little poohs were all he could manage and this was literally being squeezed out by the body...and sorry to be crude but it stank!!! I suggest you take your daughter to the doctor and ask if they can feel a blockage. If they can, please ask them to make an appointment for her at a specialist clinic. They will guide you through the steps to help resolve the problem. Get it sorted a.s.a.p. My son will need to be on medication for 2 years because his bowel is stretched to the size of a balloon and he is now unable to work the muscle that pushes the pooh out. Good luck. Mel.
2006-10-13 02:32:31 · answer #4 · answered by makehaysunshine 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell her that if she poos in the potty, then you will give her a special treat. Try letting her run around at home in the nude and tell her to let you know when she needs the potty. Remember to give her privacy and don't make a big deal about it because maybe she is embarrassed.
2006-10-14 11:27:10 · answer #5 · answered by Alex 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1.sit beside her in her potty. sing to her. maybe it coulg make her calm.
2. if u use toilet let her see u sitting also. explain to her that it is the right way.
3. use reward system. whenever she uses her potty give her a star. set a minimum star and the more star she gets she can have a surprise in weekend.
happy parenting
2006-10-12 23:22:07 · answer #6 · answered by johannea 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Reassure her that the potty loves poo and that is what the potty loves and that is how you feed the potty, poo is like food for the potty and pee is like a drink for the potty. This is what we told our daughter and after a few day's she started going and we made a huge deal out of it with clapping and singing and dancing and how big of a girl she is and that the potty loves it.
It may sound weird but what ever works.
2006-10-12 23:19:45 · answer #7 · answered by medevilqueen 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
my son was exactly the same even when potty training hed pee in potty but would ask for nappy on to poo.the health visitor told me just dont put a nappy on which resulted in him not pooing for days on end so i always relented and put the nappy on.theres no secret apart from lots of encouragement and praise she will get there.my son is now 7 and theres still kids who have accidents in his class so i wouldnt worry yourself.
2006-10-14 01:08:27 · answer #8 · answered by smiler 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to learn to use the potty fast--or she won't be in school come January. The other kids won't want to be near her, and the teachers will be calling you to pick her up fast. If she is looking forward to school in January, she needs to train the potty quick, or see her little friends go to class while she sits at home with no one to play with.
2006-10-12 23:19:49 · answer #9 · answered by Mudcat007 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
uhh, try putting her pants into the potty and she if she still does it on them, the slowly condition her by removing the pants and eventually she will do it without them???.............
In all seriousness i'm not too sure. Maybe try skipping the potty stage and go straight for the "grown up toilet" that grown up girls will use when she goes to school?
2006-10-12 23:16:29 · answer #10 · answered by Toxilocks 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋