I love my boyfriend to bits he is the love of my life and i want to start a family with him, but i dont no how to bring the conversation up, we have spoke about it but i dont think he thought i was being serious i dont just want to say "i want a baby" because i dont want to scare him please somebody out there please help me.
2006-10-12 22:31:28 · 24 answers · asked by tracey a 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I was in the exact same situation. I am 18 as well and I am now 27 weeks pregnant. I knew my boyfriend always wanted kids and we are in love. So one night when we were both a bit drunk in bed I asked him if he would want to try for kids and he said I thought you would never ask - this sounds like really bad advice but men always seem to tell the truth when they are pissed. and then the next day I asked him if he was serious and he replied yes and we tried for 3 months to get me pregnant and here I am expecting my baby in January and my boyfriend has been supportive all the way through.
2006-10-12 23:43:25 · answer #1 · answered by crazybex2006 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
the decision to have a baby is a MASSIVE one. It's the best time in your life and nothing can beat the rewards and pleasure of the whole experience. however, it is also the hardest time in anyone's life and no-one really talks about what life is like once baby is here. the woman changes more so than the man as her priorities are different. everything is different so you need to have a very very strong relationship. having just had a baby myself i am talking from experience and the only reason my boyfriend and i are doing ok with the life changing experience is because we talk. communication is so important. you must feel you can talk to your boyfriend now and be comfortable with his response. if you find it hard to communicate now, it will be even harder once baby is here. hope that helps and good luck!
2006-10-12 22:42:09 · answer #2 · answered by Lily 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't say how old you are? Or how long you've been together, or your situation at all really. Do you live together? Can you support a baby? All these things will make a difference. If you've been together years, and you're in your 20's or 30's go for it, what are you waiting for?? But if not, maybe this is the reason you can't bring it up... Do you know he is not ready?
There is no rush....
2006-10-12 22:45:33 · answer #3 · answered by Michelle G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure he'll be there to help you with the baby. It's no use having a baby without a father. Babies are cute, but they are a lot of work. When you have a baby, you don't have time for yourself anymore. If you want to go somewhere you have to take a lot of stuff with you. And they are expensive as well. I think you should wait until you're married.
2006-10-12 22:42:59 · answer #4 · answered by Charmaine V 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and he need to sit down and seriously talk about it. Don't beat around the bush. Tell him that you want to talk to him and just ask. You do not want to trick him into this, if he's not ready for children and doesn't think he ever wants one then it's time to find someone new. Don't go around sleeping with everyone just to get pregnant though. How old are you anyways?
First thing you ought to do is find out whether he wants a baby or not and then talk about getting married.
2006-10-13 00:08:24 · answer #5 · answered by kajunmommie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was blunt with my fiance and said "I want a baby", not to be mean because I love him to death but I felt that it was the only way he could comprehend it (he's not an idiot, he's a guy, and sometimes you need to spell, write, and draw out a picture for them to understand things). At first he wasn't going for it but after a little persuasion he agreed and we have been trying ever since. Good Luck!!!
2006-10-12 22:37:55 · answer #6 · answered by ditzychik508 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ditch him and I'll provide you with one!!!Seriously,kids are a massive commitment,the childs needs come before yours all day,EVERY day,not just for a while.Not got much money?,what you have got must be spent on the child.Tired and fancy an early night?,forget it,the child will need feeding soon.Want to go out like your mates,forget it,you'll have nothing to talk to them about other than cutesy booties! Do think very carefully.
2006-10-12 22:48:38 · answer #7 · answered by bigal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just came out with it and told my husband that I felt ready to have a baby. I think if you say 'I want a baby' it sounds much more scary than 'I feel ready to have baby'. It worked for me, I now have a 7 month old baby boy.
Good luck!
2006-10-12 22:40:37 · answer #8 · answered by chelle0980 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes u will scare him talking like that. first of all u have to make sure that he loves and tinks the world of u as much as u do of him. also be finically secure either money wise or house wise. sit down an talk to him ul not be long finding out what he wants to. the sooner u sit an talk to him about it u will really no if he is the right man to have a baby with or not. goodluck....
2006-10-12 22:35:33 · answer #9 · answered by helena w 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's obvious;
EVERY baby thing (clothes, pictures, babies themselves!) you see, make a MASSIVE fuss over and say, every now and again, 'should we have one'.
At least 1 time he won't be listening and he'll say 'oh yeah' - you say 'really? you want one?' He'll be too worried to tell you he wasn't listening and he'll go along with it.
By the time you get to the act and he realises what he said, it's too late, he's commited! If he has serious reservations then he'll tell you - if not then everyone's happy!
Excellent!
OR
Get a pregnancy test - tell him your prgnant (you're not to be clear!). If he reacts well, say 'just joking, but do you want one?!'. If he reacts badly say 'just joking' and leave his ***!!!!!
2006-10-12 22:43:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋