your church, pastor, friends, parents, spouse or you? who carries the most blame if you end up with the wrong marriage partner?
2006-10-12 22:00:30 · 32 answers · asked by wittybaby 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
no one.
you and your partner were the people who decided to get married. unless you were forced to.
2006-10-12 22:02:13 · answer #1 · answered by Busy Diyosa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whoso finds a wife finds a good thing,and obtains favor with God.(Proverbs 18;22) This plainly states that a man should find his wife and not the other way around. The choice is yours. It did not say the Church,Pastor, friends, or parents finds a wife, again the choice is yours. Now days couples focus on the wedding more than the Marriage. Each should know their roles as a husband and wife. You should have talked about what God expects from each of you. You should have set some goals for your marriage. The list goes on. You didn't just wake up and have the wrong person in your bed one day, they were wrong for you before your Marriage. You see, sometimes we get so infatuated with the outside we forget to look closely at the inside. You my dear made the choose. Marriage is work! and anyone that told you it wasn't, they're plainly are mistaken. I have a awesome marriage, but we work very hard to keep it that way and yes we have challenges in our marriage at times, but we work it out with the strength of the Lord.
2006-10-12 23:23:29 · answer #2 · answered by Sweets 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
please blame yourself because u chose to marry the person.before deciding to get hitched, take the time to know your partner & understand what they are after(who u are or what u are?)no one else is to blame if u chose a wrong person to spend a lifetime with.Actually,your parents,friends,pastor or church members only approve because you made the decision to marry the person.They can't chose a partner for u unless they want to be accountable for all the mishaps u might have.If you are in a community where u could be bethrothed then blame whoever might have done so but if you did it youself take responsibility
2006-10-12 22:17:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You! You made the choice to get married. Everyone else just supported you b/c they love you. Would you have not married your spouse if someone had said not to? You only have yourselves to blame for a failed marriage.
2006-10-12 22:22:20 · answer #4 · answered by tiger4mel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I blame the spouse ofcourse because I was too stupid to notice and too selfish to take the blame for it!!!
How could you be the wrong person I thought you be the right one :(( I thought you could fly, thought you made so much money :(( why are not as good as I thought you should be bed :(( You don't smell right anymore :(( you are so broke and you don't even have pling :((
2006-10-13 01:15:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's pointless to assign blame. Just get out of the marriage as quickly as you can, and as painlessly as possible to both parties. The whole "divorce-is-sin" notion has (I believe) caused more anguish in the world than just about anything I can think of.
2006-10-15 22:36:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Witty:
"How u make your bed so you shall lie on it"! I say blame yourself, you are a fault! God gave u the sense of right and wrong so its ur choice, or u can blame past karma!
Love Sanam
2006-10-13 00:36:10 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Blame yourself. You are the one who decided to marry this person.
2006-10-13 03:01:47 · answer #8 · answered by kajunmommie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a free country you can blame anybody you want to. Sometimes i don't think we actually have any control over what we do, we're all in a movie & you're just fullfilling your role.
2006-10-12 22:32:37 · answer #9 · answered by skymastergolfpro 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thinks it's you. Maybe just talk to your partner and say why you got married in the first place.
2006-10-12 22:02:44 · answer #10 · answered by Tannas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you made the choice, then yourself.
You could blame your suffocating religion, if the partner was chosen for you.
2006-10-12 22:03:46 · answer #11 · answered by ladybugewa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋