I remember like a couple of years back before I actually accepted myself, I would always be like really angry at myself for being homosexual although I knew it wasn't my fault. I also always asked God "Why did this happen to me".
I was just wondering whether anyone ever used to have or still has this feeling.
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2006-10-12 21:49:49 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
i finally understood and could put the word gay to the way i felt when i was 13. it has been many years since then and i have asked god the same thing over and over and i think i finally have an answer. now wheather it is the right answer for everyone i can't say but it is the right one for me. i feel we are gay to teach others compassion and tolerance for others. just a few short years ago it was still taboo to talk about in mainstream life but now you cannot turn on the tv or watch a movie without seeing our people out there. everytime you read the newspaper there we are fighting for our rights. the african american community says it's not the same as what they went through but it is. by us being gay we are teaching people all over about compassion. and the more of us who come out to our families the more we will teach. i hope this helps.
2006-10-12 23:08:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Good question!
I did ask myself why this happened to me, especially when my dad expressed his disappointment to me about my being a lesbian.
But I realized that no one is to blame for this. Not even my parents' separation. My dad thought that my mom's moving out played a role in my becoming a lesbian because I didn't have a female role model growing up.
I told him that no one's at fault here. I even reminded him that he and my mom used to buy me toy guns and cars while they were still together.
Things just happen. And they happen for a reason. Whether they be good or bad, the fact that they did happen is that something should come out of them.
And, in the end, whether I was gay or straight, I'd still be his daughter in his own eyes. I dared him to say otherwise, but he just took me in his arms.
Since then, he's accepted me. True, there have been some awkward times, especially when he sees me being affectionate with my girlfriend during family functions.
I just try to balance things out, be sensitive to my dad's own needs. And I know my dad will always be proud of me, no matter what. Because I've grown to be a person who loves myself.
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2006-10-13 04:58:14 · answer #2 · answered by - iceman - 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes, at least I used to. Just like you I hated myself and was angry for who I was, even though I didn't think it was my fault or my choice, it was just something that ocurred naturally to me. I'm over it now, and have began the coming out process. Funny thing is that the people who do know don't even care or think it's a big deal. Go figure, and I beat myself up for that.
2006-10-13 22:57:02 · answer #3 · answered by JR 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well we all do, its human nature to be angry about things out of our control and try to find solace in blaming someone or something that we believe has control.
I've said it, but then moved on. The best way to empower yourself is to take action. Do the best you can with what you have to work with, and be a good person. The beauty of being a human is that you can find love, joy and peace in any circumstance of life if you have the right attitude.
2006-10-13 07:16:51 · answer #4 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I did, I prayed to God every night asking him, begging him to take this feeling away from me. I was seeing a man then. I started going to school and met this girl who was really nice and down to earth after we became close friends I found out she was a lesbian. Well great I thought maybe she can help me find myself and take this feeling away cause by me seein it I can eliminate it from my mind, maybe it was just curiosity. So knowing her and her wife and their six kids helped me to open up and be more comfoortable with how I felt about females. Her friend was the greatest crush ever because she was so sexy, i'm able to say that now but a year ago I only thought it. She has taught me so much, to learn to love myself and accept my own differences. That homosexuality isn't the only sin that'll send you to hell (like they all say) blasphamy, adultery, swearing, hypocricy, envy, greed, murder, pedophilia, everyone will meet their maker.
And on that judgement day of mine i'm gonna be walking hand in hand in hand with Ru Paul in hell because she is fabulous.
2006-10-13 05:44:46 · answer #5 · answered by datcreekgurl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I used to ask GOD why am I gay, I even used to be repulsed by my own feelings like how could i like a man, i wanted to change, i repressed my sexuality and i used to have mix emotions, I hated being gay and the main reason for that is because I was ridiculed and harassed for it. I'm out and I've come a long way in what I used to feel.
2006-10-13 07:41:14 · answer #6 · answered by What'd You Say? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am a wiccan transsexual, and sometimes I find myself asking why I was born trans. I could have still been the whole genderqueer lesbian feminist that I am today, but I could have the option of having kids someday! :(:(:( My struggle is with my situation as a transwoman and my religion's views on womanhood. Ex: things like fertility, motherhood, etc. I feel at odds because of who I am gender-wise, but who I am spritiually.
2006-10-13 08:24:49 · answer #7 · answered by carora13 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, but I read this book call " Why do bad things happen to good people" It is written by a Rabbi and I dont remember his name but it was a Tragedy/Comedy book and this got me through the period of my daughters illness and her death. I believe that no matter what God loves us all but we are sinners and we will have both tragedies, remedies and happiness all in a lifetime, for in every life a little rain must fall. The fact that we are loved and we are allowed to give love as well, makes life worth living and life is worth its weight in gold.
2006-10-13 04:56:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
At one time I did when I first realized that I was gay. But then I learned to accept it within myself and I loved myself for who I was. It's nobody's fault for you being who you are, it's God's masterplan for you. God created you to be who you are and I don't think that is a bad thing at all.
2006-10-13 07:40:09 · answer #9 · answered by Michael 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, I can't relate to that.
I had other questions. Like: Why is the majority of people so ignorant, and why is there so much hostility against homosexuality/ bisexuality/ androginity?
2006-10-13 04:55:57 · answer #10 · answered by Bloed 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋