well we just moved to california from south dakota. i miss everything about south dakota. i miss my friends, my house, how everything was over there. i dont know what to do. can you talk to me about this?
2006-10-12 21:37:45 · 15 answers · asked by skuxyliliex 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Life is all about changes & everything happens for a reason.Maybe you will find what fate has in store for you in California,it may take sometime for it to happen but be optimistic.I'm sure you have a way of communicating with your friends back in South Dakota and maybe you can exchange visits with them if it's convenient for you.There are so many people out there who would die for a chance to live in California,so since you got the chance enjoy yourself to the fullest.If you want a friend to tallk to am here send me your email address & make a new friend.Good luck.The party is where you're @.take care while hitting the waves.
2006-10-12 21:52:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm thats so bad I can understand u but babes I suppose everyone has to move on at some point I say why don't u just start making new friends or do something which will keep ur mind involved in it rather then brood over the lost...It's easy to say but hard to do so but with efforts from u it surely can b accomplished...more importantly now that u have moved on to california please feel happy bout the place simply coz u have to live here from now on and looking back to South Dakota isn't going to help at all...take this as a new adventure think of doing something new and great for urself in California.
Join some gym , learn dancing or anything which will ensure u meeting new people...Oh b in touch with ur old friends thru phone but after sometime all get used to being away and even u'll have less time later on as u get settled here in Cali so don't worry it'll take time but u will get used to it.
2006-10-12 22:31:57 · answer #2 · answered by kittana 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can honestly say that I know exactly where you are coming from. Six years ago (this Nov) I moved from Ohio to England to be with my now husband. At first I wasn't homesick and didn't miss Ohio at all. Thirteen months ago I gave birth to my first baby..a little girl. When she was 3 months old we went back to the States for a visit and once we got back home to England homesickness hit me so bad that I was depressed for 3 months! I was ready to pack up and move back to Ohio. About 3 weeks ago we got back from a 3 1/2 week trip to Ohio and I was homesick again. It got worse when I ended up in hospital with a blood clot brought on from my long flight.
I get through my homesickness by keeping in contact with family and friends through email and instant messaging. Also getting involved with groups and projects is a way to make friends in California. Do you work? Work can be a great way to meet new people and make new friends.
I'm very sorry to hear you're so homesick. I've been there and know how hard it can be. Just trust that in time is will lessen and get easier.
Take care.
2006-10-12 21:58:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Saying 'goodbye' to the things we have to stop or lose, or to people we leave behind has always worked with me and my little ones. If it's the closing of a period in your life then evaluate it by making a photo album, writing a blog about it. Collect photos of the things you miss and when looking at them tell yourself "Goodbye, South Dakota, It's been a wonderful time I spent with you, you've given wonderful things. Thank you. Now in this new period of my life I'll use all the things well you gave me and 'll become a better person with their help."
I think that's what I would do (and actually did, unintentionally 5 years ago when I moved to another place).
Good luck!
2006-10-12 21:54:00 · answer #4 · answered by Agnes K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We moved a lot when I was growing up. We had moved 27 times by the time I graduated from high school, and my dad was NOT military. It was sometimes hard when I was going through it, but it was a great blessing ultimately because I learned how to adjust to any circumstance, and many of my friends could not handle change when it did come to them. Find a way to be of service - service is the great healer. When you're serving someone else, it's impossible to focus on yourself, so find a way to serve - Humane Society, nursing home, church - maybe there's even something at school. Good luck!
2006-10-13 07:09:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hang in there! It is natural to feel homesick, you just left everything you knew. Give it some time and I agree with getting involved with activities and meet new people that share your interests. You can always go back to visit! Enjoy the california sun!!!! Have fun!! You only live once!!
2006-10-12 21:46:48 · answer #6 · answered by tiger4mel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Same happened to me when i was young as my parents used to get transferred once in every 2to3 years. Don't worry. Get involved in some useful activity near your home and you can develop new friends. See the brighter side of this! You can meet different people , see new places and also know their habits and customs in the new area. This will help you in future also.
2006-10-12 21:56:25 · answer #7 · answered by VALIVETI 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cali is the $hit, well maybe you miss some of your freinds, but I'm sure you'll make a lot a freinds here. And by the way there is way more things to do in cali. i hope you feel better soon
2006-10-14 07:06:34 · answer #8 · answered by CAMELS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm away from home since we moved to caucasus region due to our work, talk about changes !
hopefully in our case we will go home soon and go back to life, meanwhile we just need to enjoy ourselves with what we have and so should you may be ?
good luck anyway California don't seem so bad .
2006-10-12 21:47:25 · answer #9 · answered by webwixen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to change is difficult but if you are not open to changes is going to be more difficult just try to find some positive aspects about you starting a new life. TAKE RISKS AND ENJOY THE OPPORTUNITY!
2006-10-13 07:42:29 · answer #10 · answered by Ingrid D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋