My baby is just over 10 weeks old and he'll be visiting his grandparents for the weekend. How do I cope with the free time. I'm used to being with him 24/7.
2006-10-12 21:37:06 · 32 answers · asked by Charmaine V 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Devote this time to you! No-one else but you. Take long naps,hot soaking baths,walks,just things for you !! Your body has gone thru a dramatic experience, but satisfying one, but you need to recharge. You have many many nights,days, ahead that your son will need you & want only you, and you want to be there for him 100%.A child is a life long committment, just like a marriage. It is great that you have "Grandparents to do this", I'm a grandparent and have done this many times for my girls, and when they come home to the kids, I can tell they are rested, and ready to see their kids, go on with the rest of their lives. You have many many 24/7's to come, don't worry about your son, his ''grandparents'' were parents too, once.(LOL) So enjoy, don't worry, you are just a phone call away!! Try to relax, and refrain from calling, he won't forget you(lol), and the grands will love every minute of it. ok??? Don't worry, just relax and enjoy!!!!
2006-10-12 21:49:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Enjoy it! Do whatever you want to. I either hang out w/husband, take a bath, read, cook a real meal, sleep, etc. DON'T feel guilty. I started leaving my baby with her grandparents and my best friend's husband (they have 3 kids, and he's a very involved parent) for a couple hours when we visited them. She was 4-5 weeks old. My husband works extremely long hours (including weekends), so he usually doesn't see her awake very much. I had to work Monday, he had it off, so instead of bringing Katie w/me as usual, I left her with him for 9 hours. Babies this age adapt easily. My baby LOVES it...loves new people, loves new places. There were no problems. Her grandparents live 3 hours away, so we go up about once a month. In November, my husband and I have to go out of state for a military function, and Katie, who will be 4.5 mos at that time, is staying at Grandma's from Thursday-Sunday. I also hope that exposing her to a few people regularly will lead to less separation anxiety when she's a bit older.
My mom started leaving me with relatives when I was 2 weeks old, and overnight when I was a couple months old. I've always been far more adventurous and adaptable than my sister who wasn't left alone very often. I'm sure it's partly our natures, but I do think being left with trusted friends and relatives occassionally is good for the baby, the parents, and whoever helps take care of the baby. You will be a better mom if you have some child-free time where you can de-stress and enjoy life.
2006-10-13 02:30:47 · answer #2 · answered by katheek77 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont already have a thousand things in mind??? Ok, first I'd say catch up on sleep as that is what most of us are lacking at this time. Then after you are nice and rested do all those things you wish you could do but cant now that you have a newborn. Go to the movies, a restaurant, a bike ride, go have a few drinks with friends.... You'll feel a little lost without your baby there but ENJOY this time. I've only gotten 1 weekend away from my daughter who will be 1 yr old in 2 wks, and you know what I did? I cleaned the apt as it was trashed. What a waste!!! If I had to do it over again I'd save up a little $ for a cleaner to come over and do it for me while I went to a spa or something.
2006-10-12 23:11:43 · answer #3 · answered by MaPetiteHippopotame 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ENJOY IT. My 4yo daughter goes to my mum's probably 3 weekends in a month. She spends time with my 5 yo brother and my mum adores her she also has a blast when she's there- loads of space to play! She's been going since she was a baby and it allows me and my husband to have mummy and daddy time. Remember the grandparents have raised children before and i'm sure they'll call if the baby really needs you, i say have a relaxing soak, get glammed up, go out and have a drink and a dance and remember what it feels like to be you again. The baby will be back and you can go back to being mummy again. The time away will be good for the baby, the granparents and your sanity, trust me.
My mum is due to pick up my daughter in about an hour's time....let the party begin.............
2006-10-13 04:54:15 · answer #4 · answered by abi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try not to stress over it, my daughter had stayed with her auntie for a few hours while i went out for a meal for my 21st and she was 2 weeks (we were only round the corner) this was a bit strange but you should keep calm, Run a bath with your fave bubbles light some candles and enjoy a book or get suck into something like gutting the house (if you can't relax) or a book but just remember that you can always phone if need reassurance when baby is away.
My daughter is away nearly every weekend coz she has 7 grandparents but only for one night at a time.
This will get easier.
2006-10-13 00:57:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good for you for giving grandpartents time with baby and yourself time. I didn't leave my baby boy until he was 5 months old and that was only for one evening! I think it is important to retain some part of who you are so think back to pre baby days and make of list of what you did with your time. For me it was easy, I have a horse. Go and visit a friend, get your hair cut, go clothes shopping. There are so many things which are so much easier to do when you're the only person you have to think about. Make the most of the time even if you end up chilling out with friends eating chocolate. My son is 7 months old now and I find the early days were sooo much easier. I have less time now so make the most of any free time you get. enjoy!
2006-10-12 22:25:44 · answer #6 · answered by Lily 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh good luck! I still even now 2 years later get some separation anxiety! But!!!! There is a good side to it, honest! It will do you both some good to be honest.
You will think about him often but the thing to do is keep yourself busy and don't feel guilty. Find lots of things to do that you can't do with him or is a chore, like the cinema, shopping for yourself etc... and try and enjoy it! It's only 2 days, not even that really, and you still get him back at the end. Relearn who you are, not just a mummy. i still forget who i am sometimes!
2006-10-12 21:39:33 · answer #7 · answered by Andromeda Newton™ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wait til the day and then see what u feel like doing u have some time that many new mothers would give their right arm for u could have a long relaxing bath go shopping have lunch with friends have a few drinks without having to worry about dealing with ur baby with hangover, good luck and enjoy ur free time
2006-10-13 07:53:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
10 weeks is a little young to be away from your baby for that amount of time.
I still don't let my son stay at grandma's for longer then 12 hours without seeing me.
your baby is just as use to you as you are him!
but if you feel he'll be ok with it. SLEEP. Take a really long Bath go to the store & shop at your own pace.
2006-10-12 21:44:52 · answer #9 · answered by bubbagaloosch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Enjoy every minute of it!!!! My son was nearly six months old the first time he slept away from home. ( I had no family near until my sister moved at that time) I spent the whole night worrying about him, when I went to pick him up he was sat on her floor playing with his cousins and didn't even give me a second look when I walked in the room! So now I just drop him off and enjoy every free minute I have!!!
It's good for them too, else they will get too used to us being with them all the time.
Good luck and really you don't need to worry, just remember they are parents too!!
2006-10-12 22:47:26 · answer #10 · answered by chelle0980 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋