They are telling they are ok with my situation.I have a income.I and my kids can survive,I dont want to get married again.. I have some liking abt this idea..plz talk to me and share ur thoughts.I need to know this issue better... It will kind of be a open relationship if i agree.plz im me or email me.my id is violet_cartor@yahoo.com.
2006-10-12 21:36:09 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Violet, Just what is meant by an open relationship. Being intimate equally with both the husband and wife? I have recently turned 50, and though haven't been in that environment, several friends of mine have. Seen it work fine with one "threesome" but have witnessed some broken hearts in a few others. Myself, I have been married to a good woman for many years. Intimacy does fade, but don't go along with the so called experts who claim medicine or candlelit dinners will spark it up. Sometimes it's meeting a person in the same situation who needs the "High" of a psychical relationship with another. It also wears out. Just something to ponder that may help you make a decision. Remember there are children who may be uncomfortable. Glen
2006-10-12 22:00:32 · answer #1 · answered by glencosalsa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean by join them? Does it mean moving in with them and having a permanent relationship type deal or is it just sex? I think if you are into it and feel comfortable with your body, sex and experimenting, go for it! There is certainly no harm in that at all.
If it's a permanent, move in with them situation then that's a little different because you have kids. Do they have kids? There is really nothing wrong with you doing that either as long as you can trust their intentions towards your children. If they are truely a loving couple, it may be wonderful blessing for them to have an 'aunty & uncle' around if they are good people. It will give you help having another woman around etc and if it helps you out financially too, even better. There are lots of advantages to it although many people will tell you it's wrong. It's not wrong, just not the norm. There are so many dangers if their intentions are not 100% loving, caring and mature when it comes to your children and first thing you have to consider is how it's going to affect them. Think about every single aspect of the situation and talk to them openly and honestly about anything you can think of in regards to your kids. There is a lot to consider but as I said, if you are extremely careful and know them well, it could be ok. But I stress that YOU REALLY SHOULD KNOW THEM WELL & their intentions, how they treat you, your kids, your kids, your kids! Don't rush into something with a couple that you do not know EXTREMELY WELL! Get to know them a lot before you do anything, especially in regards to their attitudes to your kids. Spend time with all of them as a family first if you haven't already, be very aware of the way they act and always make sure there is a way out of the situation should you want it at ANY time. If you do not know them like you would a fiance, it's too dangerous.
All that said... if I've got it wrong and this is only about a sexual relationship, just treat it as any other relationship in regards to your children, be careful and make sure they are safe and have fun. Lots of people have relationships like this and they can work.
2006-10-12 21:52:42 · answer #2 · answered by punkvixen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u need to try and think abt ur childrens future rather than shifting to there home...coz u need to work for ur children now....though i do feel u need a companion as all of us do but its essential for u to knw that u need to try and understand a man again and start a relationshp again too...so that u and ur children have a secured future...as far as marriage is concerned its like once bitten twice shy for u... but i wud say know a man thoroughly and then decide to go for marriage with him.... there is no harm in spending time with someone better lined up for u than going for an open relationship..i do feel from my heart for u and wish u make up ur mind and heart and move on in life...not sure if u r interested in open relationshp like with the couple...dont make up ur mind so soon give time to think about it....and yes ur kids future shud be the utmost thought in ur mind.....take care God bless...
2006-10-12 21:48:45 · answer #3 · answered by Rishabh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
from what you say it seems as if you have been hurt in the past and you are afraid to open up again to that commitment, the thing is not all men are the same you will find a men who will not treat you like you were previously treated. try and give yourself more time with the current relationship and explain to your partner about your fears of getting married again and you will then see from what he will say as to the kind of man he is, give it time.
2006-10-12 21:42:08 · answer #4 · answered by ntu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fraught with danger.
How many other people are they 'being open with' - increasing chances of disease.
Jealousy from any side.
What kind of message is it sending to your kids.
At least keep your own home if you own it and let it out and you will have somewhere to go back to if it goes bad.
2006-10-12 21:42:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess they want to play with you.
do you like the idea of being a sex toy, groped and ridden?
licked and f**ked?
are you willing to go down on either one of them while the other does whatever with your vagina?
2006-10-12 21:47:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just say NO
2006-10-12 21:37:53 · answer #7 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u can do what is better for u.It is all.
2006-10-12 21:59:11 · answer #8 · answered by want_to_know 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess so
2006-10-12 21:38:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋