What would you do - if you find out that your better half discussed the martial issues with ex? or better half talks bad things about you and your parents with ex?
2006-10-12 21:12:35 · 12 answers · asked by neat questions 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Would your answers hold true - if "half" in question is girl and not guy...
2006-10-12 21:17:23 · update #1
find a new half
2006-10-12 21:15:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just discussing things may or may not be a problem. It depends on their relationship. It's not good if your significant other isn't talking to you though. Any problems should be voiced to you if the relationship is going to work. It's okay to talk to a friend for perspective before facing the problem, but it needs to be done in a constructive way. And if they're talking bad about you and your parents, then it's a real problem.
I would call them out on it. I'd ask what exactly the problem is and why can't they tell me what's bothering them. I'd also question the intentions talking to the ex.
You can't just let this continue to happen. If you expect your partner to be honest with you, you must be honest with them.
2006-10-13 04:20:29 · answer #2 · answered by hawkeye847 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't matter if the "other half" is a man or woman, what matters is this behavior is inappropriate and it doesn't need to be discussed with an ex. Besides, I would be more concerned with why my other half still talks to the ex in the first place.
2006-10-13 04:29:51 · answer #3 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if that is occurring then your marriage has communication issues which would suggest that one or both parties dont know how to listen to the other. ... a marriage is a partnership and open communication between spouses is essential for a successful marriage ... the health of the marriage has to take precedence over outside family issues .. if bad things are being discussed by one spouse to an ex partener outside the marriage, then the spouse who is disconnected from the conversation is not willing to cut the apron strings in favor of the partnership. and is holding the core family above the spouse in the marriage
2006-10-13 04:24:26 · answer #4 · answered by casurfwatcher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm to me that would be a big NO NO. It's between the both of you and noone else should be involved in it. Try to solve it inbetween the both of you. Make clear it's not appropriate to discuss personal problems between the two of you with any people out of your past.
2006-10-13 04:16:37 · answer #5 · answered by silverstarlightfairy99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, for one I'd quit calling him my better half. Then I would confront him and ask him if he is seriously wanting to be in a relationship with me. If he told me yes, then I'd tell him that he needed to stop talking to his ex and that was that. I'd tell him if he thought he had to continue talking to her then he could forget about me. Then I'd either tell him to leave and I'd leave. Whichever was best. I'd mean what I say also, as what he is doing to you is as good as cheating. He is emotionally cheating.
2006-10-13 04:20:01 · answer #6 · answered by Just me 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If they need an ex to solve martial problems - then what am I for ?
There is something called self respect - dont let that be dampened ! Please go ahead with life and learn to respect yourself .. and all the best !
2006-10-13 04:29:05 · answer #7 · answered by Beautiful Snowwhite 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well that's a bad sign and it's inappropriate on their part, so that person needs a good talking to
2006-10-13 04:16:50 · answer #8 · answered by D_RazorSlinga 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would be really angry!I would tell him that you know what he is doing and that what goes on between you's is private.If he does it again I would spread all of his dirty laundy around and let him know how it feels.That sucks him telling ex.Ouch!
2006-10-13 04:16:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Quit callin them my better half, first off.
2006-10-13 04:14:32 · answer #10 · answered by Chuck N Knutz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋