Im adopted and an avid supporter of open adoption. Tell me your opionion. Open or Closed? Give me the pros and cons of both.
2006-10-12 20:15:28 · 5 answers · asked by Too Cool For Me 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I do not see many pros in closed adoption. It is bad for the adoptive child and parents since they will never have the possibility to contact the birth parents about health, or any other issures, a big chunk of the child identity is taken from him/her and he does not have a chance to catch it up ever... it is much easier to deal with the hurt feelings of everyone around than to deal with the lack of closure in the closed adoption. The open adoption allows a fluent communication and the reassurance for everyone involved that the child, the center of the decision is doing well, and is happy. A lot of peace of mind is gained by this and the adoptive parents learn to live with their feelings much easily as one would think. The adopted child also adjusts pretty easily and almost never loses perspective: his "real" parents are the ones that raised him/her!
2006-10-12 20:22:14 · answer #1 · answered by tokialai 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I placed my son for open adoption. Best decision of my life. I chose the parents, developed a relationship with them and him. If I had not known about open adoption I would have raised my son at the age of 14. I could not bare the thought of always wondering about him with no answers. We are now close, more like an older sister to him. It also makes it easy for them to get family medical history from me and the birth father which has proved to come in handy. With closed adoption there are too many unanswered questions for everyone. I could go on forever on this subject but I think you get my point.
2006-10-12 20:21:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am adopted too and so is my daughter. I think the child should always know who their parents are. I didn't find out until I was 38 after searching through an agency. My daughter always knew and we let her see her mother when she was a teenager. I think it made her more at peace with herself than I was as a child. We are close because of being honest with her.
2006-10-12 20:21:13 · answer #3 · answered by Just Bein' Me 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Me as an african american and in my own oppinion think of that's going to not be a huge deal for an biracial toddler to be raised by using an caucasian kin in many cases. reading your tale i don't think of it extremely is a sturdy theory to take this toddler into your loved ones reason being by way of fact the doubt which you have with regard to the race concern. that youngster is going to experience that rigidity thats shes diverse by way of fact the vibe which you're carrying. babies are clever they comprehend the thank you to examine a grownup's behaviour and how they act in the direction of them. the youngster isn't in basic terms black she's additionally 0.5 white too, her being with in basic terms black people would not be the respond the two. the main mandatory is that she has a kin that loves her unconditionally black or white. do not no person say something approximately those babies from distant places being observed by using a caucasion kin. i've got faith that your extra apprehensive approximately how being a father or mom of a biracial toddler is going to electrify or result you?!
2016-10-16 03:40:55 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An open question is one which can be answered "yes" or "know"
2006-10-12 20:17:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋