So me and my boyfriend have been together for about 5 years and living together for 3 of those years. My problem is that he is such a drama king. When he gets sick he's such a freakin baby i cant stand it! I mean when i get sick i deal with it and dont ask for much help or sympathy. But with him its like a little cold and he's on his death bed. With all this rub my head, i cant breath, my body hurts, can u bring me something drink, can u make me some soup some times i just wanna thru the soup on him. Am i the only women that dosnt have a very nerturing side or are there others. I talk to him abou it later on but he just makes jokes about it. I know for a fact if i acted the way he does when i get sick he would go to his friends house for a few days! HELP ME!!! i think im just frustrated and needed to vent.
2006-10-12 20:13:42 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sometimes its so bad that I usually hate going to work but when he gets sick i cant wait to go to work!!!
2006-10-12 20:15:52 · update #1
LOL....i do feel better after letting it out tho!!!
:-)
2006-10-12 20:18:58 · update #2
You are not a horrible person, you just don't want to be your boyfriends caregiver for a little sniffle. When some people don't feel well, it helps them feel better if they are being pampered by the one they love. My husband loves getting sick for this very reason. But I have kids and am used to taking care of everything. Even though you want to through the soup on him put a smile on your face and tell him you love him. Or just go buy the soup in a bowl, put a stack next to the bed, and put the microwave in the bedroom too. Along with a pitcher of water. But no glasses or spoons. Then go out with your friends
2006-10-12 20:19:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes, you are a horrible person(jk) ... lol , face it, all guys are big babies when we are sick, what to you seems like a sickness and an inconvenience, to most men is really scary. we take such pride in our "machoness" , that we can suck up a broken arm or leg without whimper, but to be sick from a virus truly saps our strength and makes us feel terribly vulnerable. we just want our "mommy" to make the bad hurt go away and love us. i think in the back of our minds is a feeling that the sickness wont pass and we will die because we feel so weakened by it. its an assault on our masculinity ... so, how about some TLC? ok?
2006-10-12 20:33:14 · answer #2 · answered by casurfwatcher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, i don't think that your a bad person but, i do feel that your blowing this just alittle out of contence. I mean sometimes men would like to feel the same comfort that women would like to feel when they are going through things or are a certain time of need. Yeah he may be playing game on you to get you to do alot for him like the back rubs, and soup, but that could be his way of wanting you there with him. Men are not like women, they feel it sooooo hard for them to just say babe i need you or want you. Instead they go through alot of crazy things to show how much they love and want to be with you. Think back over the last 3 years of ya'll living together how many times did he take care of you just in general even if you weren't sick. just by getting you something that you needed. Just go with the flow, if he has just a common cold how many times does he really get sick, and need you to wait on him hand and foot. You being unhappy for that small period of time should not overcome the happiness the two of you have shared over the past 5 years.
2006-10-12 20:51:00 · answer #3 · answered by LaToya K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All guys are big baby. Tho' I don't do that, but when I'm sick and I have a gf then, I will still rely on her to help me around the house and buy me meals.
I guess your bf is a little of a bigger baby and there are actually gals who enjoy taking care of such guys. Unfortunately,he got the wrong gal. ha.
What you can do is, let him have a taste of his own medicine. Make an agreement with him that if he would do that, then you could do that too, or you won't take care of him when he is sick.
Either he agrees or not, you stand to gain. Right? :)
Have fun!
2006-10-12 20:18:21 · answer #4 · answered by Geo C 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
At the risk of stereotyping a bit... a lot of men (notice I did NOT say "all") are big babies when they get sick. My husband is the same way. Unless the man has a fever and is just completely incapacitated, I will NOT wait on him. Trust me -- you're not the only woman who has no patience for men who behave like big babies... but at the same time, think of how nice it is when people nurture you a bit when you don't feel well. It's all a bit of give and take...but only give if you feel honestly that you can do it unconditionally (i.e., don't expect anything in return).
Just my two cents.
2006-10-12 20:18:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Whoa. Hand him the phone and tell him that if he is having a life or death emergency to call the Lord or 9-1-1. Do this with a smile on your face, not sarcastic, then kiss his forehead and leave. He will probably be too shocked to breath anyways.
2006-10-12 20:34:03 · answer #6 · answered by my2cents 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, Men, uncle Rat to the rescue once again. Whoa, there ladies! I resemble those remarks. I happen to always stand tall during a health crisis, and being single, cannot rely on a wife or g/f for badly needed treatment in these terrible times of sickness. I call my mother and whine to her....Hey..does this sound vaguely familiar? ooooooooh, ooooooooh, I'm dyyyyyying??
2006-10-12 20:48:21 · answer #7 · answered by Raptor 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think this indicates that you do not have a nuturing side. I think you are just responding to his neediness. If you are willing to be reasonably helpful and sympathetic to him when he is not well, this should be good enough. Particularly if there is a double standard. This doesn't make you a bad person, it makes you human.
By the way, there a lot of woman who don't seem to have a nurturing side. Nurturing someone is different from being a maid.
2006-10-12 20:24:16 · answer #8 · answered by JustTalking 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, you're not a horrible person. I feel the same way.Just tell him, I don't mind doing a little for you brotha, but ya laying it on a little thick! I don't know where you see this relationship going but if you're making any long-term plans you might want to start figuring out now how to increase your patience and tolerance levels.
2006-10-12 20:24:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 06:18:06 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋