help please! PLEASE!?

Question

this guy teases a girl, mimics her whenever she is talking to someone else ( she has a little bit of an english accent even though she is not english ), when she walks past him he says her name in a really stupid way just to piss her off, and has got some of his mates doing it as well sometimes.

Sometimes when he starts talking to her she goes along with it (e.g. when he says a smartarse comment to her, she would reply with a smartarse comment as well). but she has tried to ignore him (twice may i add), because as she says "he is a complete jerk", but she has given in twice because when she ignores him, he tries to get her to talk to him though by saying something that he knows will piss her off and start talking to him.

oh... its not me its my friend and this guy who are in nearly every class together except science.

and they are two 14 year olds

Answer 1

The moron is in love, and his geepie hormones don't know how to react LOL !!! He may lie about it but he likes her or he wouldn't be going out of his way to bother her all the time.

Answer 2

This isn't the answer you probably want, but I think your friend needs to deal with this herself.

If she comes from a certain part of the U.S. and/or just speaks distinctly (maybe because her parents have always spoken distinctly) she may be "accused" of faking a British accent. She may want to just say to these guys, "I was raised to speak distinctly. If that sounds like a British accent to you - whatever."
David Allen Greer was once on television, and he brought up the issue of speaking distinctly and being accused of a fake accent. People do that with Madonna as well. God forbid anyone in the U.S. speak correctly! So - if that could be conveyed to these people they may at least consider stopping making fun of her.

Other than that she has to either ignore him all the time, give him a quick wise-guy answer and move on, or else tell someone in authority that he's harrassing her (if, in fact, its bad enough to take that kind of action).

One other thing, though: Sometimes if some kid makes a wisecrack, the "wisecrackee" could return a relatively mild "wise" answer; but then shift the conversation really quickly to something neutral. For example, the boy makes his remark. Your friend makes a mild "wise" remark and them immediately says, "Hey. As long as you're standing there, do you know if there's a game next week?" or "Hey. Since you're standing there anyway do you know what bowling alley I can tell my cousin is the best one. I don't go bowling, and my cousin's coming to stay for a few days." It may take the "wisecracker" off guard. He'll probably come up with some answer that's halfway normal. (If he doesn't she can just say, "I don't know why I thought you'd know that" (and she has now turned things around to her having a slight upper hand). If he comes up with a legitimate answer for her question she can ask a couple of more related questions like, "Do you know what time they close?" or "Do they have a decent snack place?" (that type of thing). She doesn't have to keep the conversation up for long, but after a few mini-conversations with him he'll probably stop what he's doing now (and if he doesn't he at least won't to get to feel like he's bothered her). Sure, she doesn't want to be friends with him; but sometimes a little conversation can diffuse a situation. She doesn't have to be friends beyond that.

She could switch to remarks that are neutral and not questions (so it doesn't look like a pattern). She could say something like, "Is it your brother that's in Mr So-and-So's class first period?" Whatever she says shouldn't be a compliment or an insult It should be neutral.

If she makes smart remarks back and nothing else it establishes that he's bothering her (unless she really isn't bothered by it, in which case she should just keep making the smart remarks back and let it go after that). If she ignores him she looks intimidated. If she just remains confident and says some neutral thing to him it may take the fun out what he's doing. If, by any chance, he likes her and is doing this out of that, then mini-conversations ought to hold him over until the end of the year.

I don't guarantee that my approach will work, but I got through school without being harrassed by anyone - ever.

Answer 3

If the girl doesn't like this attention, all she has to do is speak quietly to the boy, not in front of his friends, and ask him why he is being mean to her, and ask him to stop. If she wants to be his friend, she just has to say that would like to be friends, but not if he continues this behaviour. They are just being teenagers, but I know it can hurt sometimes. She needs to take a mature approach and not give back smart comments. In a group she need only say, when you grow up, I'll be happy to speak with you.

Answer 4

Tell her to get a box of earplugs and stuff it in his mouth...

This guy seriously wants attention from her. Tell her that instead of saying mean stuff to him, be nice. Feed fire with water.

She should tell someone because it seems that this guy is really distracting her from her studies and attention. She should talk to an adult figure (teacher or a parent) that this guy won't let off her case. He's wasting her time.

Answer 5

Maybe what you should do is get all of your friends to stick up for her
and stand by her side and tell him to stop. The more friends she has on her side will make him stop and think what he is doing. If I had 5 or 6 girls made at me I would think twice. If that don't work get all of your friends to make fun of him and see how he likes it.

Answer 6

That's how young blokes show a chick that they like them. Instead of just buying flowers.

Answer 7

Kick him in the balls!