I know how pathetic I'm going to sound but what the hell I need to get it out, My wife decided that she wanted to have a gastric bypass by the ending of 2004. I didn't mean to but I didn't want her to have the surgery after the doctor informed us about the complications. I loved her too much to want her to suffer but we worked through that and scheduled her surgery. During her recovery I almost lost my job due to taking off so much because she was scared to be alone at night in the hospital. I stayed for weeks but I didn't care all that mattered was that she feel safe and secure. When we were finally able to return home. I cared for her until she was began to want to do things for herself. Last night she told me she doesn't love me anymore. She has different goals/dreams than I do. And she left. I can believe how horrible I feel like there's a huge gaping hole in my chest. She was my 1st and only love. But what can I do? I'm wondering if this has happened to anyone else or just me?
2006-10-12 20:02:04 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She'll realize one day what a great man she lost and will want to return. Hopefully by then you would have met a great lady who wouldnt do that to you. Dont take your ex back ,you deserve better.
2006-10-12 20:09:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first off, you are not a fool. How could you possibly foresee something like this? You were being a wonderful caring husband and it wouldn't surprise me if she wants to come back to you after she sees what the "real world" is like. Do your best to get through the days and keep as busy as you can. Let some time pass and you will be able to think more clearly. You might decide you don't miss her all that much. Life is terrible right now, but it can be wonderful again.
2006-10-13 03:24:42 · answer #2 · answered by busybody12 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry to hear of your pain.
Try to be patient, maybe she need some time to herself. Give her some space and then maybe you could suggest some therapy or counselling to try and get through this?
Dont give up before you exhaust all other options, then once you have given it your best shot to get things back on track, and if it still isnt what she wants, then you will have to move on.
People do change and grow apart, its part of life.
You are not a fool, you are a kind, considerate, caring man, which are all great qualities.
Good luck !
2006-10-13 04:01:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont doubt it happens to a lot of people... maybe she was already out of love with you when she decided to get the surgery back in 2004 and was doing it in preperation to leave you ... hang in there, you did right by her and i think she will come to realize that leaving was a mistake ... if she is going to come back, it will be within the month. she may just want to parade her new body out there to see if she still "has it", but i think she will soon realize that if men are just going after her body, that isn't love. hopefully, you will be able to forgive any transgressions she might commit while she is discovering who she is and be willing to take her back when she calls without judging or scolding her ... if she does call, it will have taken courage on her part to face you after her abrupt departure. let your love for her overcome any anger you may feel about her leaving. sometimes you have to walk through another pasture before you find out that the grass there is an illusion. .. what you decide to do is up to you, but if you allow her back and she leaves again, then move on ... fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me ... good luck
2006-10-13 03:24:09 · answer #4 · answered by casurfwatcher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first i assume your wife had a weight/health problem which is why she had the surgery. it is hard for me to believe how we can stand by our mates and see them throught the worst of times, take care of them and put their needs first. then they can just walk away. im very sorry this happened to you. alot of ppl go through hurtful times and never understand why. no one deserves to be hurt especially by the their loved ones. i recently went through a rough time with mine and cannot believe all the hurtful stuff that happened and the truths i found out about. i am still struggling with some issues and i know how hard it can be. i wish you strength.
2006-10-13 03:12:35 · answer #5 · answered by hamhead 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she just performed surgery on you and ripped your heart out then trampled on it! She'll get her's. Payback's a *****!
2006-10-13 03:44:07 · answer #6 · answered by ne0aes0p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear that. But it's only your side of the story.
What's her side of the story?
2006-10-13 04:41:42 · answer #7 · answered by RunSueRun 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just one more example of those scandalous ho's taking advantage of a good man. Just screw over the next broad really bad, and you'll feel so much better
2006-10-13 03:05:18 · answer #8 · answered by Chuck N Knutz 2 · 0⤊ 4⤋
I'm really sorry to hear that. hope things get better for you.
2006-10-13 03:06:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋