Ladies only please?

Question

My wife of 7 years told me she wants to divorce me because I have neglected her even though I have not even seen her in 6 months since I am at war. I also never neglected her. She is willing to do this depite hurting her childre, one of which is my step son who will really get hurt and she is also willing to do this even though her parents and brother are now angry with her. would you ever do this? if so why?

Answer 1

no i would not if you are at war you are doing something nobel its not like your a workaholic or an alcoholic. she sounds very selfish and ignorant.

Answer 2

War can destroy marriage. I am sorry for what you are going through, and for the children involved. If you have any leave coming soon, ask her to wait till you come home and then you both can sit down and talk about it. If that isn't possible, ask her if there is something else going on, is she just lonely? Don't imply anything about cheating. Let her know how much you love her and your step-son. Maybe contact your parents and ask if they can help out with the kids for a day or two, she may just need a break, since she is the primary care provider for the kids. Get her a break from the kids and ask her to really think about whether it is stress and loneliness, and if she thinks that the love you share as a couple, and as a family is strong enough to pull you guys through this. I wish you the best of luck

Answer 3

My husband was in Iraq for a year, he voluntered to go and we had only been married for about six months, we are now going through a divorce and It does get lonely being at home by yourself and the stress from worrying about the one you love being over there and not knowing what is going on and wondering if you are going to get another phone call or if you are ever going to see the person again, Lonelyness is not an excuse to cheat but Its like I told my husband put yourself in my shoes and think of how you would feel if i was gone for a year, and you had to deal with life and the kids all by yourself its not fun, My husband missed so much being gone and its harder on the kids than anyone else, Its easy for someone to say just walk away and she is selfish, its hurts when the one you love is gone and is in a terrible place,Try marriage counseling before you give up and if she isnt willing to try to work it out then move on, but dont give up on your marriage even if you feel she has, you might actually have something worth saving you never know. good luck

Answer 4

I think you should be spending more time with your wife and family.I do understand that you fight for your country and it is your duty but you have a duty towards your wife also, that is something you should not forget. Why don't you keep in touch with you wife while you are away from her. There are many ways how you can keep in touch internet, telephone, mails are just a few of them. You should make use of them. Maybe you problem is communication, you should be more expressive is showing how much you care. I have an idea why don't you and your wife go on a few days vacation without the children, maybe this will help your relationship. All the very best and don't give up hope but try to convince her that you can have a life with her even when you are away on duty.

Answer 5

She sounds lonely, but she does not love you very much. So, I would say, let her go and find out the grass is not that green on the other side. She will be crawling back, but by then you may not want her. I am sure it is hard when men are at war, and even the men are tempted with other women, but if you can get over this, and perhaps still have feelings, but it sounds like she has met someone else. I am sorry, but you can play it by ear, and when you get back decide. I would not let her make any decisions until you come back home. She might be just lonely and got caught up with someone else, that will soon end as soon as you come back, that is, if you still want her.Apparently she just does not care that much about the others, but she also might want out from under the responsiblities of marriage too. Good luck and God bless you. It might be that God has other plans for you, with another person. Don't let it get you down.

Answer 6

No I wouldn't. Even if I am still single at this moment, I would never even think of divorcing my husband! Why marry in the first place if you're going to annul/divorce? I'd rather stay single than do that...

Maybe she found someone new, and that she's just using that excuse. Are you treating her right? Maybe you guys have some differences that needed to be straightened out, only that they weren't fixed or talked that made that huge gap and made her decide to do divorce you?

Did she filed for a divorce already? If not yet, then why don't you guys talked about it? Try and save your marriage.

Good luck.

Answer 7

Yeah because she's basically doing it on her own anyway so why not be able to have fun at the same time? She misses your company and the romance that comes with being in a relationship. She obviously does understand that your working but she needs you too. By her telling you she wants a divorce is simply because she has too much respect for the relationship to ever cheat on you. The only thing that will save your marriage, is a new career.

Answer 8

No. Its not good to hurt my own children...what did the children done wrong that she was hurting them i guess she's not good mother for her children. Well anyway if she wants to divorced you that means she's not inlove with you anymore, so if that is the reason so divorced her, after all i think she will not be good example for your children though. Look for other woman that will love more on kids and knows how to take good care of her family soon. Or else talk to her and ask her what is the problem if you can solve do your best to make things better... Goodluck

Answer 9

It all depends. I can't say because I don't know how you did treat her. Maybe she is lonely. Perhaps she didn't realize what it would be like to be a military wife. She can't divorce you until you get home and sign the papers. So keep writing her and try to be kind and understanding. And when you get home, sit down and talk with her and spend time figuring out why she is doing this.

Answer 10

It's a moral dilemma. She's hungering for something back home and because of this lousy war, there's no telling when you'll get back. If she were a faith-based person, she wouldn't do this to you. It's her responsibility to stand by you, now more than ever. Sadly for her, there's this inescapable law of karma she'll be dealing with in her near future. The only reason I would ever do this is if I fell in love with some other guy and my conscience was killing me.

Answer 11

i would never. Number one, it's 6 short months. Love should conquer that. And number two, you're one of the amazing, brave men serving our country. I feel like there is another reason behind this.. Seems fishy because I think every woman would stay with someone who was serving our country.