My bf and I got into an arguement and he left Fla to stay with his dad in NJ to let things cool down. I had a feeling he was in NJ but when I asked he told me for weeks that he was in California with other relatives. He's planning on coming home soon and it all came out where he really was. He said he had to lie to me but I think he should have told me the truth . If this happen to you would you be mad or hurt ? Or would you let it go ?
2006-10-12 19:41:30 · 12 answers · asked by ♥ Army Wife ♥ 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
We've had arguements before ,He was just with his dad recently and I didnt track him down at all .Why go all that way for a man if he doesn't want to be here ?? So I let him go and we spoke on the phone and dealt with everything and he came home. This time he lied to me about where he was saying he had too . I don't see the big difference here , Cali or NJ , I am not coming to get you. So why Lie ?
2006-10-12 19:50:18 · update #1
We agree to start fresh , for us and for the kids. We love each other very much and want to work it out .
2006-10-12 19:52:15 · update #2
Please take this one small piece of advice, actually 2 pieces, and you will have a happy relationship. One, there MUST be trust and when there are lies for any reason what so ever, can you really trust this person and love them? really? Second, be determined to keep anger out of relationship at all costs, yes we all slip but its important to keep it in its place. I am telling you this from experience first hand and I wish I could do alot over, please dont make the same mistakes. Sorry, to answer your question, I would be hurt.
2006-10-12 19:51:42 · answer #1 · answered by mrgotcha007 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WHY would he lie? He's hundreds of miles away in either case. Was it because he was afraid you'd track him down?
Sorry to say it, but I think you might need to let this relationship go, if he's lying to you about something so basic. Or at least give it a while and start fresh. You both obviously have a lot of bad feelings here.
2006-10-12 19:45:54 · answer #2 · answered by starlet_8 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. 1- if you really wanted to "stay for the kids" you would be married and stay for each other.
No 2- If there is a need for you to feel like you have to track him down and check up on him, and need for him to get away without being tracked down, the problem is too big to figure out without some serious prayer together or counseling. Otherwise, move on. (BIG indication of serious trust issues)
2006-10-12 19:57:23 · answer #3 · answered by my2cents 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend/lover lied to me too.Many times. I never found out the truth but as a woman, you can just feel a lie when it hits you in the face. Call me weak, call me dumb but iam still forgiving him for every singlelie he is telling (and still is telling me). That's because i love him and yes, the pain and hurt is just tearing away and everyday i ask God to give me the strength to walk away from these lies. I am still searching for that strength. If anyone has advices for me on this, please, do help me. My advice to you, don't be like me.One lie will lead to another...
2006-10-12 19:50:17 · answer #4 · answered by angelheart 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he cheated on you a year ago and you have only just fount out. you didnt reliase he was screwing somebody eles then coming back to you. how do you no he has only cheated that once? Or passed on a std? he is using you and not really caring. If he said he ended it (the affair) because he felt guiltly then why didnt he come clean to you admit his mistake? he is just using you as he said in the email he need to keep things under wrap. so if things did end with you and him he still had some other mug to play.
2016-03-28 07:12:19 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be mad and hurt and there are other fish in the sea. Maybe this is a warning for you. He's not the one.
2006-10-12 19:54:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would be furious and mad.I think men tend to forget that we have big hearts and we trust them to much. so being honest to them is just asking for way toooooo much.
2006-10-12 19:50:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It'll be good if you can let it go. You guys already have a problem at hand, better solve it first.
2006-10-12 19:43:43 · answer #8 · answered by Rollercoaster 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont be mad or hurt, you deserve better, we all know it. Dump his sorry *** and find someone who will treat you like a queen!
2006-10-12 19:50:34 · answer #9 · answered by ♡MaNda♡ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forget about this guy, get another bf.
2006-10-12 19:52:53 · answer #10 · answered by mklwis 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋