2006-10-12 19:32:54 · 22 answers · asked by i_got_aheadache 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't get it.. if he missed me and still have feeling's why not try to work thing's out
2006-10-12 19:34:32 · update #1
I had this exact same conversation with my exwife.
Even though my exwife was the one who left me, probably cheated, destroyed me, left 2 days after 2 of my best friends were buried, etc. She called, called, called and still calls.
Sometimes whenever she called/still calls to talk, it didnt effect me. However, other times, after I got off the phone with her, I was hurt. I don't know if it is this way for you and your ex, but when her and I talk we might as well still be married. We dont fight; there isnt a negative tone to anything, etc. Unfortunately, when it is all said and done, it is painful to know that someone I loved so much could hurt me so bad.
We have both said to each other that we love each other, miss each other and will always love each other.
Finally, I decided that I would be able to move on from the situation much faster if we didn't talk so often. Since, in my situation, I never called her, after I made that decision...the next time she called. I reinforced that I miss her, love her and always will, but I thought it was in "our" best interest if we didn't talk for a great period of time, not forever, but for quite a long time. This upset her a great deal. Matter of fact, this caused her to get about as upset as I have experienced her being since she left me. This hurt even more. I mean, I spilled my heart and shared my pain with her leading up to that request and she more or less told me I was dumb for even asking.
Then, after about 2 weeks, she called again. I have just dealt with it since. I dont want to fight. SHe left me, hurt me, cheated, destroyed, etc. and yet, she is the one that still always calls me. I dont get it. I really dont.
A few weeks after she left, she wanted to come back and I didnt let her, which I still question myself on. However, I dont remember there being timeouts in marriage, but, the real reason was I figured I would always wonder when she would do it again. If someone can hurt someone so bad the first time, I would imagine the second time would be easier. Finally, the girl I fell in love with, spent 7 years with, married, miss, love, care for would never do what she did.
2006-10-12 20:09:19 · answer #1 · answered by Cing 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-05-07 17:14:13 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes in a relationship, something just isn't right. And sometimes it isn't right for only one of the people. What it sounds like is that your ex loves and misses you, but he sees that you might get hurt even more and the easiest way to get past everything is to end all contact. Sorry girl, but you got to let him go.
2006-10-12 19:42:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you just are not good for each other. I love and miss my ex but when we were together we made each other crazy (literally). We'd stay away from each other then 9 mths to year later he'd call or show up when I was in town (I moved from my hometown 5 yrs ago and he still lives there or has family and our friends there) Since Hurrican Katrina I've lost contact with his and our mutally friends. So maybe your ex is just trying to distance himself.
2006-10-12 19:41:56 · answer #4 · answered by mjfluffy420 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, you deserve someone better. Move on. Get over him. Someone IS dying just to have you, so dump that moron.
I also have that experience with my ex. I loved him, but he hurt me. He slapped me in front of many people, he insulted me like a common slut, and yet he has the nerve to say that he still loves me AFTER 4 girlfriends?!!
Whoa. I decided then that's it. I WON'T have him back in my life. Enough of the pain, enough of the humiliation.
Find someone who'll make you feel like a princess; spoil you rotten and love you more than his life that even if you hurt him with your words he won't hurt you back but will hug you instead and tell you that he loves you...
Right now, I am still friends with that ex of mine. Even if I think he doesn't deserve it. And I am blissfully happy with my new boyfriend. I think you deserve someone better than that idiot.
Good luck! (",)
2006-10-12 19:40:28 · answer #5 · answered by Emz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because he loves you and misses you doesn't mean that he wants to work things out. Stop talking to him, help yourself and your heart and move on.
That's not meant to sound cruel, so I hope you don't take it that way. But I know what it's like to be in that situation, and it's crappy. The best thing I've found to do is to stop talking to each other.
2006-10-12 19:37:29 · answer #6 · answered by Bachman-ette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And men say women are messed up.
If he doesn't want to keep in contact, he doesn't have feelings for you that are strong enough. That is the most common EXCUSE i have ever heard! If he "loves" you and "misses" you, he would be with you!!! Don't bother about him. If he cant tell you the truth about how he really feels, then why waste your time.
2006-10-12 19:45:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
My dear, men don't like working things out. They dó not want their feelings to show or they feel vulnerable. Different in bed where everythings fair but get them to talk seriously about love, marriage etc and they can't.
Move on...that's what I'm doing.
2006-10-12 19:37:10 · answer #8 · answered by Jan Frost 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, goody goody, he still loves you and does not want to keep in contact with you. Does someone have to hit you over the head, my dear, this jerk is giving you a lot of BS, and just tell him you will call him when you need him, which is going to be when Hell freezes over.
2006-10-12 19:36:15 · answer #9 · answered by shardf 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
so who anyway cares what does ex say? u move on with your life, find yourself a current man, why do u stuff your head with redundunt thinking about the past?
2006-10-12 19:34:54 · answer #10 · answered by jacky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋