me or the animals?

Question

Me and my husband just got into an arguement over tha dog. I think that the german sheperd that we have should stay outside and he became mad because I want the dog to stay outside. In the beginning I didnt mind the dog inside but now she is to big and destructive to be in the house or did i mention that the dog stinks. has fleas and dog lice. He became mad at me and told me how would you like it if i put you outside when you didnt wash. And this isnt the first time he has put me and his family last to an animal and Im tired of it Im so tired of it that im ready to leave him. Am i wrong for feeling this wayLet me remind you that this is not the first time that we have had this problem I have been going through this fir 6 years with all kind of animals and no matter what animal or person I always come out last

Answer 1

ok, i see two different issues here...

one, you feel like you're last on his list of priorities. i think i can understand why you feel that way, and something definitely needs to be done about it. however,

two, the dog is not the problem exactly. and it would not be fair for the dog to be thrown out. dogs are insanely loyal, and they will feel like they're being cut out of the "pack" if they are kept out. it is a bit cruel to do it now that he sees the house as part of his turf. but that doesn't mean the dog can destroy the house and bring in all these bugs. when it comes to the dog, what you definitely need to do is set your foot down on two things:
- the dog will get washed regularly and get flea and lice treatment, so that your family's health will not be endangered. see to it that your husband takes care of it.
- the dog will be taught to control herself and not destroy the house. you can get plenty of good pet training tips online, and i would recomend you do this part yourself, so you can be sure it gets done right.

o, and next time you get a big dog - keep it outside from the start.

Answer 2

He is your HUSBAND. You are his WIFE. When you got married, you made it so that you guys would absolutly have to work out your issues.

Your husband is an animal lover.
you had to know this before hand.

You on the other hand aren't neccessarilly as into them.
he should have known this before hand.

You guys should have discussed this and made plans for when these issue would arise. But now they are here and you have been a push over for 6 years instead a co/habitant of this household and an equal partner in this marriage.

A german shepard needs to run. He will love the outdoors.

A germaqn shepard also wants to be near his master where he can protect him.

A german shepard is also a animal that is good with training.

So. how about this alien concept. HOW ABOUT A COMPRAMISE. STARTING WITH A FEW CHANGES THAT WILL BENEFIT BOTH OF YOU.

1. Take the dog, to either a groomer, or do it yourself. WASH HIM (and do it on a regular schedule).

2. De-flea him ( I mean if he cares about this dog so much why is he walking around with fleas and lice)

3. De-lice him.

4. Take him to a vet, get his shots, get a flea and tick collar, fix him for his health.

5. Don't forget to de-worm him, and keep his de-worming schedule.

6. take him to obedience training.

7. Participate in the obedience training so you have some control over him.

8. Make and indoor and outdoor schedule that your husband and you can agree upon. There has to be middle ground. You are married..c'mon

9.Clean up the dog hair around the house, febreeze and deodorize the house..light some scented candles, put the dog out for a while and..

10. Kiss and make up with your husband and Make Love.

WORK IT OUT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 3

Call Dr. Phil. Seriously through -- you sound like me with my "girlfriend". She keeps small dogs and cats/kittens inside her house, and a yard dog or two. When you enter her house -- I can smell the dog she just gave a bath to --, or I might put my foot in the water/food dish on the floor. I have dogs myself(6) and they run free (outside city limits). I care for my dogs , and show them attention and love --- but I will not let any dog come inside my home. As you say --they carry ticks/fleas, and propably smell. My home would be infested, and smell and all my friends would stop coming over after a while . A lot of people "think" about a dog using human standards and allow their dog to have the run of the house. What happens here is that while you"re trying to increase the standard of living for the dog --- you are lowering yours and others who live in the house also. You open the door and let problems walk in. Oh -- My girlfriend with the indoor dogs --- I rarely go over to her house -- she comes here to my home. Dogs are dogs -- People are people . We all have our places, and a dog"s place is "in the dog house" --- outside.

Answer 4

It is not about the dog........

The problem is about you feeling second best to anything in his life. Leave the dog out of it, and deal with the real issues. Best Wishes.

Answer 5

big dogs belong out doors, so put your foot down...

Answer 6

Move then.

Answer 7

All animals should be allowed inside!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!